Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Hi everyone! So my friends with benefits and I met last year after getting our hearts broken and we have built a strong friendship since then. At first we both agreed we weren't ready for any relationship stuff, so we just held on to the friendship and having sex. Before corona-virus, I was interested in maybe seeing other people just to live my "single-era" a little, but it also frightens me because my body count is only two people (counting my friends with benefits). I made a slight comment about this to my friends with benefits and he answered that if that is what I wanted to do, we wouldn't sleep together anymore cause he doesn't want have sex with a girl who goes around... Mind you one night I went out with my girl friends and we got drunk and I made out with a guy, I told him about it and he got mad saying that was disgusting and I should respect myself more...
I know for a fact he is still very in love with his ex, and he would take her back in a heart beat. So, this case isn't about him having feelings for me. I guess I am conflicted because I don't want to lose the benefits portion with him, but I also have curiosity of what else is out there.
My friends with benefits doesn't want me sleeping with other people... is this normal?
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What Girls & Guys Said
28 86This is common with guys. I don’t know how girls are about it. I’ve only had one friends with benefits. But a lot of my friends say their friends with benefits act this way. So yeah it’s pretty normal. Guys get really possessive about their partners but will have multiple of their own.
I’m not like this. But based on what I hear from my females friends, it’s very common.
Three reasons I can deduct:
- he likes you more then just friends with benefits -> you need to chose
- he doesn't want to get possible STD's from accidents you might have. -> his problem
- he's possessive -> run and don't look
Perhaps others will find more reasons, but he knew what he was getting himself into.
About him being grossed out doh, that could be because he respects you more then he likes to admit and you are disrupting his "good girl" image he has from you.
Doesn't matter what he wants. What do you want?
I think he's jealous as your friend, most of bff's do it especially they are from the other gender
You've got yourself a relationship.
He is selfish , and only really thinking about himself , tell him the only way to will stop seeing others guys is if you are in a committed relationship , but since you aren’t committed you can do what you want
This is why friends with benefits relationships don't work. People always end up catching feelings, communication gets janky, and it just never works. He seems like he has feelings for you more than just sexual.
Feelings come with consequences and lack of communication at the early stage of friends with benefits. You must be clear you only want friends with benefits n nothing more.
@DaMack999 you can be clear all you want, but sex is intimate. It's meant to be shared between people that care for each other. Not just done for sport.
You can't have your cake eat it too. You gotta be clear all am saying. Otherwise don't be getting hurt feelings when guy don't see things eye to eye.
@DaMack999 I won't because I don't do friends with benefits.
But if you in causal sex dating it don't apply to you either. So u can date as much as u like. How should u guys feel depends on you guys to pursue love or to play.
He's just egoistic, insecure or wants you all by himself. Not a friends with benefits situation by his side.
Yo move on from this dude. It's called friends with benefits, not "where a couple." It's one thing if he wasn't comfortable with you seeing other people because of the obvious std risk, I could understand that because some people aren't comfortable with it. But he literally said "YoU sHoUld ResPect YoUrSelF mOre" because you where doing what you have every right to do while single. Find someone who actually respects you and your right to do what you want. He's hung up on his ex and trying to tell you how to live your life. You could do better.
*were a couple*
Sounds like he does have feeling for you. But also not fully over his ex either. Let him know that if he wants you to be faithful and respectful to him. Then he needs to do the same. So you two either bleed to be a legit couple. Or your just going to do whatever you want with your life.
Friends with benefits is not something to give the other half of the agreement a right to influence who you sleep with. They are there to get you off when you need it & vice versa, as well as being a friend.
If he ex trying to exert more controle over you than that, then you need to have a talk about what the arrangement has become.
From how you described him, as others have said, it sounds like he probably has developed more feelings for you than your current arrangement allows for.
Yes. A true Friends with benefits us an exclusive relationship for people who do not want to or cannot sustain a dating relationship.
he has fallen in love with you. yes its normal for friends with benefits relationships. thats why they dont work.
You can't have your cake and eat it. You have to choose. Sleep around or keep doing your thing with him.
sounds like he wants an open relationship with no strings attached, but only on his side, sounds like you need a new friends with benefits
He either has feelings for you or wants to keep you around for his insecurities.
No that's controlling obviously he doesn't understand friends with benefits and you should just explain that's not what you're after and he needs to stop all that nonsense or kick rocks
I can understand that, if he really likes you. Although friends with benefits shouldn't have a problem with this. Did you agree with him only to be with him as a friends with benefits?
That's stupid. You're only friends. If he wants to limit who you have encounters with, he needs to make a commitment. Period.
It's more normal than it should be. This is why I don't do FWBs; emotions always get involved.