My friends with benefits getting selfish in bed?

[Anonymous]

Okay so we have amazing sex and he cuddles and makes out with me after and we actually have good conversations. But during sex i am a giving person but its starting to feel like i am doing most of the fucking, I am always on top fucking him and it feels amazing but i go down on him for long and on top doing his brains out. He doesn't know how to eat well, but when he fucks me back it feels really good, but he only fucks me back when i get totally out of breath. He gets tired faster than me. The good thing about him is that he has a long tongue and his hard on stays and we go on for hours. But I feel like i am better at fucking than him. You would ask" why don't you get a bf or friends with benefits who satisfies all your sexual wants?". But I am a one partner at a time girl. I don't wanna go having sex with other people than him, unless I get a bf. How do I ask him to give more? like what should i say, i always end up feeling so drained the next day cause i do most of the fucking. Like today at work i could function. But I refuse to down my sexual skills/abilities in bed.

[itskoda]

No way r u wrong for feeling this way!
regardless if he's ur friends with benefits or ur man we hav the job and males to make sure the women we're with is satisfied.. period. I see that u feel that u shouldn't have to not go as hard as u really want to in the bedroom and u shouldn't have to feel like it's ur only option either jus kus the main point of sex is to hav fun😆
so my advice to u is tell em what it is tell him that ur tired of putting in all the work while he sits back and catches a nut. tell him that u want him to go to work on that ass and if he tells u something like he can't last long on top jus let em kno it takes practice for guys to control their Nut &thats if they don't know how to yet😂
anyways to sum it up u seem like a super freak! that loves to satisfy her partner so jus let him kno how u feel and that u feel it's time he goes to work on that ass if there's a problem with this wen u bring it up to him then somethings up and he might only view u as a side chick or a quick fuck booty call that he has no feeling for one way or the other...

Hope this helps😉😕

[Metlahead]

Communicate. And he sounds like your boyfriend... You cuddle and have conversations and won't sleep with anyone else? What is the difference of that and a boyfriend? You are in denial?

[Asker]

he never asks me to be his gf, and we don't go out a lot. I go to his place. I am really busy and i don't have time for a relationship. We are both two really guarded persons. We are friends, we make each other laugh and we have a good time in bed. I fear getting hurt so i don't allow myself to hope for more with him.

[Asker]

i don't know what to say :(

[Asker]

not in denial i don't agree

[Metlahead]

just because you haven't said it doesn't mean it isn't happening. You are just avoiding it or burying it and making friends with benefits titles out of fear maybe? You don't have time for a relationship, but I think you are in one. Maybe not a serious one, but that is a relationship regardless of what you call it! lol

[Metlahead]

You are going to feel the same pain and pleasure no matter what you call it.

[Asker]

Yea but being in a relationship is so much more. I don't love him, i care about his health and well being and him being happy but if he ended it i would be hurt for one day but i would move on. I have learnt to let go and not hold on. I don't know i am too scared to let a person in. And i think letting him see me naked and be intimate with me is enough.. I just feel messed up , numb and guarded and i don't wanna hurt anyone. But I have a sexual appetite he satisfies. But what can i say to him to make him become really giving in bed again?

[Metlahead]

Just be honest... Tell him how you feel. If he isn't willing to change he is probably just a selfish fuck.

[Creole_Flavor]

Tell him what you want and if that does not work then cut him off. That comes with most friends with benefits situations you don't get to make too many demands because its just sex and nobody likes nagging especially if you are not even in a relationship but if you an bring it to his attention in a polite way then it won't seem like nagging

[Klaatu51]

he's just a Friend with benefities. if he isn't able to satisfy you, you can always stop having sex with him, and find another one

[DocT1977]

I don't believe in the "Friends with benefits thing" as I feel a set up like that is asking for trouble anyway. Just my opinion.

[DuoMaxwell]

So you don't have a friends with benefits you have a boyfriend that won't claim you. If you're not able to emotionally detach that's not a friend with benefits that's more, someone you're attached to. Also talk to the dude and tell him to get his fat ass in shape.

[Asker]

actually he does like me, he shows more interest, i am just too guarded to have feelings for him. He won't ask for a relationship cause I told him I have no interest in staying in the country and that the love of my life is school and my career. I am too scared to let him know i could care one day.

[Marstalk]

Just tell him how you feel.

[Asker]

i don't know what to say. I am a kind of person it's weird but i don't like feeling like i am making someone do something they don't wanna do. Like how to say what i wanna say without sounding awkward. Not good at expressing my feelings.

[Marstalk]

Just say I am feeling like I am doing a lot of the work. I would appreciate it if we could come to some middle ground.

[yulbsari]

It's all about communication...

[TheBigBoii]

Just let him know how you feel... if you never tell him he'll never fix himself. So just let him know what you do like about him and what is bothering you.

[british_girl321]

NOPE absolutely not