My husband is mad cause I gave my boss a blowjob but he recorded it?

Question

Before I took any interest in by husband, he was crushing on me big time but was affraid to come clean and ask me out. So he semi-stalked me. I eventually was sick of it, did start talking to him and he luckily had enough qualities as a man to convince me. I always tell him that I love him, but that behavior at the time really put me off and we almost never went on a date because of it.

One time he came to the bar I worked at on my boss' birthday to sit at the bar and start a half conversation with me. It was the worst time cause my boss was drunk, I kinda promised him a birthday blowjob beforehand (yeah I know, it wasn't a big deal to me back then) and he kept slapping my ass inappropriately all night, yet my now-husband didn't take a hint. He got punished when he "accidentally" left his wallet in the bar so he could come back when I was supposed to be closing off and speak more privately. Of course he walked right in on me serving my boss his birthday present. Which must have been horrible for him, especially since my boss was a really loud grunter and dirty talker. Not especially a gentleman.

Instead of just leaving, he waited and apparently recorded it! (only the sound luckily) Probably to jerk off to. When I found out about 2 years ago, I got angry, but kinda let it slide since this still annoys the hell out of him and it's kinda his punishment. I still have the recording. I sometimes still help out at that bar in the weekends. When my husband starts nagging because he thinks I shouldn't work there anymore, I just play the recording again for him, and the sound of my boss groaning and my saliva always makes him shut up about it. I know it seems harsh but how do you think I should react to this? Cause it keeps coming back, even though it's not a real fight and more as a laugh for me. I can't really understand how my husband feels about it as a man.

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Well I don’t understand how your husband feels as a man, but I would imagine he would feel emasculated! You deserve each other! I mean, you married a guy who was STALKING YOU? And you give blowjobs away as gifts? Hey, it’s your body, and you have every right to suck and fuck whomever you want, but you had to know your stalker walked in and yet you didn’t stop? And now, however long later, you actually PLAY THE AUDIO OF YOU SUCKING ANOTHER GUYS COCK? This entire thing is completely unbelievable! Which is likely why you posted this anonymously! However, if any of this IS true… like I said y’all deserve each other. But for the record, I do not believe any of it! I usually just ignore any posts that are about voluntary sex, and was put up anonymously, because they are usually just not true. I understand why women (and men) may post an anonymous account of getting raped. But this… you married your stalked and now your surprised that it isn’t working out? You asked the question “my husband is mad because I gave my boss a blowjob, but he recorded it!” But that’s not the issue, is it! If this story actually turns out to be true… he’s not mad because you gave your boss a blowjob, he’s mad that YOU keep playing that recording deliberately to “punish him”!!! (Again, IF this is really happened !)

loves2learn · Accepted Answer

That’s one of the unhealthiest relationships I’ve ever heard.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I had to read this a couple of times because I was a bit confused on some of the details, but I think I got it. I think it's a deeper issue for your husband than what's on the surface. To help you relate, I think you have to reverse it and look at how you'd feel if you were him and he did that to another female. Even though you weren't "together" at the time (right?), this has embedded that insecurity inside him I think. So because you are still working there sometimes, you still see him. So there might be a trust issue as well, or maybe he trusts you (knows mentally that you wouldn't do anything now), it still brings that insecurity to the surface. As it might for you if it was reversed right? And then when you play the recording back to him, that just makes it worse honestly. Then it's like you're not taking his feelings seriously. I think you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him over this honestly. Not just his feelings, but yours as well over all of it. Not to start a fight, don't do that, but to talk about it and work through it all.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sucks to be your husband. I would never be able to get over seeing or hearing that but I also know a lot of guys in similar situations and they seemed more ok with it than I would have thought.

For most guys, it is very annoying if you wife or girlfriend works at a place where you had sex. Any run in you have with guys you had sex with really sucks. Especially in the setting that you described. There's nothing wrong with it, but you did kinda serve as his slut for hat night. That's how these things go, but to the guy you blew you'll stay a slut in his eyes forever. He will always remember cumming down your throat when he sees you. And your husband doesn't want his wife around guys who marked her as their slut.

Now the most important question since it's just audio, can we here it pleeeeaaaaassseeee? :)

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You two seem to be ideally suited for each other; your psychopathology seems rather complementary.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

So, if I understand the story correctly; your husband made an audio recording of you sucking on your boss, before you and husband started dating. When your husband says he's uncomfortable with you, now as his wife, working at the same bar where you sucked your boss; you respond by playing the audio recording for a laugh?

Well I can tell you from a man's perspective, that you are totally emasculating, humiliating, discounting, invalidating, and minimizing your husband's feelings. He doesn't want you to go back to work at a place where you were intimate with another man, and when he expresses his concern, you respond by laughing and playing a sound recording to remind him that it's already happened once. You're basically saying "hey, I've already done it once. What are you gonna do about it if it happens again?" It honestly doesn't matter that he's the one that made the recording; he doesn't want you to work with a guy whose dick you've already sucked and you're doing the woman's equivalent of calling him crazy for being worried that it'll happen again.

Andres77 · Answer

He liked it but is just afraid to admit it. And he doesn't want to encourage you to do it again

Wise4myage · Answer

That's some kinky ass shit.

TheFlak38 · Answer

slut alert

MountAverage · Answer

Well, the good news is that none of this actually happened.

MarkyMark77 · Answer

just curious why did u promise to suck on ur bosses D?

Twalli · Answer

He gets mad because you use it to continue working where you probably shouldn't.

Surely · Answer

My thoughts would be that you would have been history a long time ago!

Valnac · Answer

It smells like a Troll in here.

lofii · Answer

Who cares

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

TROLL

LostSmile · Answer

You only live once yolow

Anonymous · Answer

That's a cock teasing story, I suppose your husband feel emasculated by it but turned on at the same time, you can successfully make a cuck out of him.