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Sexual Health Guys, my husband wants a threesome, do you think he just wants another woman or he truly feels left out?
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Before my husband and I met, I had already had a couple of threesomes while nmy husband had been in traditional relationships as long as he had been dating. We've now been married for over a year and together for three and this issue has come up multiple times over the last two years. Every couple of months we start fighting and this seems to be the starting point. He feels that I just don't think he's attractive enough or that I already tried it so why would I want to. So kind of like he wants to do it but I'm over it, I don't want to. Bottom line is, I don't want to share! He's my husband, I don't want to spend the rest of our marriage thinking of that time when my husband fucked another woman. He says he's tired of having to think of my experiences with others whenever he hears or thinks of threesomes. He'd rather think of our experiences together. Which I totally get! I don't think about my past experiences because quite honestly, they gross me out to think of because I can't believe I let pieces of shit touch me! So he's the only one that thinks about it positively. I may have had a different view on this issue if, in the beginning, he didn't make me feel like shit about my past. He's called me a slut and a whore and made fun of me, he's acted like I'm some prostitute who didn't have a role in life other than being fucked all the time. I was promiscuous but it was very short and then we met, 6 months before then I had been a virgin. It's unfair that we can't talk about his past but he can shred mine to pieces. When we first started this issue, he said he didn't want to touch the other woman if we did have a threesome, but now he says it shouldn't be an issue and he should be allowed to fuck her because I didn't hold those rules for an ex. Do you think he's just in it for the other woman or is it something more?
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(21)may be he wants to spice up things a bit
And that's totally fine! I don't mind spicing things up. The thing that bothers me is when he first brought this up he said all he wanted was to watch me perform oral on another woman and he'd only touch me, he said the other woman was really for me and him to watch. Now he wants to openly fuck her.
so you don't want him to fuck her?
Not for our first threesome
"Our first" implies you would be willing to do it again, rather than never? "The thing that bothers me is when he first brought this up he said all he wanted was to watch me perform oral on another woman and he'd only touch me"--but are you even comfortable with THAT?
If it were fun, maybe in our future we could do it again. I've performed oral on a woman before, I wouldn't mind at all him watching that, I just don't want him or her pleasing each other
if he insists take a promise that he will not leave u
He says he won't leave me, he says that it isn't about the other woman that he just wants to experience this with ME. He says he wants to see me with another woman, but how can I believe he won't favor her? How do I know he won't realize that there's a whole world of sexual experiences he hasn't had and we divorce so he can explore?
there is no set way that what he will do or not u just need to be firm in ur opinion unless u too like it with another women one thing u can do if he insists badly then bring up a women he might does not like so that the chances of him getting involved would be few
I think he wants to another girl but u should show ur attitude say him to 'I dont wanna share u with other girl'
I do too. And I've told him, he still doesn't get it.
Sorry but if I'm married and my wife request something like this I divorced with her immediatly -.-
Iam sorty, i know it is not my business, but he will cheat u with another woman, do u agree with that?
Are you asking if he would cheat on me? It's a possibility for everyone, nothing is ever a sure thing. He says he never would but I don't know.
I think your looking at this wrong.. He probably only said mean stuff because of the way he found out about your past, sudden info on things that are touchy can cause a lot of first respone reactions such as anger or saddness, obvously he loved you enough to stay by your side after he had time to think things through. did you tell him or someone else or did he go on to a website like this one? What if he found this posting online? I bet some of the comments on this would really hurt him. He probably thought he was special before he found out about your past, he probably felt like he was the first one to fuck you right or be dirty with you then he finds out he has just been playing a child's game compared to what you used to be into. You need to realize that for a guy growing up its a 100 times harder to be promiscuous, for a girl well pretty much you just have to show up at a party. Plus men are hardwired for sex, sex will always be more important to him then you but by you not wanting to do things with him (your husband and father of your child) that you did for other guys (peices of shit who used you) well that makes him feel like a bitch I bet he thinks about it constantly and hates himself for not being good enough for you to want to do such things with him. I bet if you opened up to him and at least tried to be more adventures you would only find more love from him.
thressome with a wife... its a no go for me.. I will not share her with some other girl or dude 😂😂
I agree
i don't know but you should give him one chance for threesome... it's not fair you had a slutty past and you don't wanna show him how threesome feels...
I don't see how it's not fair, he had girlfriends before me he could have tried with. He was single for a while before we met, so he had plenty of chances.
Ya but he didn't... so he should get a chance now with you maybe. Bit if you are not comfortable then don't do it
I am uncomfortable with it, he's my husband and I don't want to share him. He knew all of this stuff before we were married, he could have walked away at any point, he knew I wasn't going to do it before we got married too. Shouldn't that mean he had accepted it and moved on? I want to give him every pleasurable experience in the world but when he has called me names and made awful cruel jokes about my past, I don't want to. He forced me to believe I was wrong for my past and that I should never do that stuff again. When I'm finally conditioned to believe this, he wants me to go back? Makes no sense
Ya you ate right don't do it..
It's not your place to question men. Just do his bidding... nicely...
Tell him if he wants a FFM then you want a MMF! Don't let him call your bluff!
Thank you I will bring this up again and hold firm
That was what i thought about too.