My husband wants to have a threesome and it’s ruined our marriage. How do we come back from this?
OxxymoronXper 7
My husband opened up to me about a fantasy of his. Typical guy fantasy of wanting to watch me and a girl have sex and he could end up joining in. I wasn’t mad or anything initially, seeing as how this is pretty normal for men in my opinion. However, we’ve had issues in the past with his wandering eye and just being flirty/overly friendly with other girls. But, being the open minded person I am, willing to try anything at least once to keep him satisfied, I decided to give this a try in a different way. I chose a girl who I felt I would be comfortable trying this with but instead of meeting up with her right away, we looked through her Facebook profile and went through photos, eventually choosing one to pleasure ourselves to, TOGETHER. Once we started, it was fun, he was teasing and touching me, I was getting into it and so was he but suddenly he wasn’t touching me anymore and he wasn’t even looking at me anymore, only her. He was talking as if she were there, calling her beautiful and complimenting her body, completely shutting me out. He even moaned her name, and talked about how good her lips would feel wrapped around his cock. He ended up coming to a picture that showed her tits, leaving me to finish myself off while continuously asking how soon we could make this happen and if she would even be down for it. It hurt, hearing him desire someone else. I tried to shrug it off, I tried. But honestly, I’m hurt. Broken even. I hate the fact that he was so easily able to forget I was in the same room without her even being physically there. And that he was so eager to contact her too. Oblivious to my emotions. He chose not to include me and make it something intimate between him and her (even though she wasn’t really there). It’s caused issues between us ever since. I don’t know if I can do something like this but I know it’s something he wants. How do we come back from this? And how do I get his mind off this other girl now?
I’m going to come straight out w this. First of all you’re gorgeous, very gorgeous but that doesn’t mean he’s going to stop looking at other women. Second I don’t know what you were expecting, if a man is wanting a theeesome of course he wants someone else, otherwise he would want one. I don’t mean he necessarily wants another woman emotionally, just physically. Not only that if my girlfriend is right there w me giving me “permission” to look at pork or another chick I’d think she’s ok w me getting off to it. I mean she’s willing to let me have sex w another girl I wouldn’t see something wrong w it if I got off to her pic. Just my thoughts. You said yourself he has a wondering eye, overly flirty so again I don’t know what you were expecting. What did you expect?
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Oxxymoron
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I expected to be included lol. Obviously. That was my only issue with all of this, that he was so easily able to forget I was even in the same room. It was a fantasy I was down to try with him and he ruined it for me by not giving me any pleasure even though I was giving that to him on a silver platter
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You picked the girl correct? Or did you both agree or he had more of an influence as to who it would be? Always pick someone less attractive then yourself. I get what you mean though w wanting to be included.
Anonymous
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I had a threesome once. Now my EX is married to him!
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Oxxymoron
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See, that terrifies me.
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It should be something you do if you both want it, don't just do it to please him
Anonymous
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You are married way too young... I’m 20 and I’m just struggling with my studies focusing on them for at least the next 7 years if you count masters. Anyways, how has been his attitude towards you recently both in bed and out of bed?
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Oxxymoron
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He’s been trying to have more sex with me now but I think it’s because he finally realized he screwed up.
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4 23I’m going to come straight out w this. First of all you’re gorgeous, very gorgeous but that doesn’t mean he’s going to stop looking at other women. Second I don’t know what you were expecting, if a man is wanting a theeesome of course he wants someone else, otherwise he would want one. I don’t mean he necessarily wants another woman emotionally, just physically. Not only that if my girlfriend is right there w me giving me “permission” to look at pork or another chick I’d think she’s ok w me getting off to it. I mean she’s willing to let me have sex w another girl I wouldn’t see something wrong w it if I got off to her pic. Just my thoughts. You said yourself he has a wondering eye, overly flirty so again I don’t know what you were expecting. What did you expect?
I expected to be included lol. Obviously. That was my only issue with all of this, that he was so easily able to forget I was even in the same room. It was a fantasy I was down to try with him and he ruined it for me by not giving me any pleasure even though I was giving that to him on a silver platter
You picked the girl correct? Or did you both agree or he had more of an influence as to who it would be? Always pick someone less attractive then yourself. I get what you mean though w wanting to be included.
I had a threesome once. Now my EX is married to him!
See, that terrifies me.
It should be something you do if you both want it, don't just do it to please him
You are married way too young... I’m 20 and I’m just struggling with my studies focusing on them for at least the next 7 years if you count masters.
Anyways, how has been his attitude towards you recently both in bed and out of bed?
He’s been trying to have more sex with me now but I think it’s because he finally realized he screwed up.
doubt it oxxy.
Have sex with a woman
... cool story.