Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My wife’s sex drive does not match mine?
Anonymous
This is becoming unbearable. I’m an attractive dude. I workout and have a great body. I have a very high sex drive. Im also very generous in the bedroom and makes sure she gets off every time. Once we got married, all of a sudden my wife discovers her sex drive isn’t as high. I’m horny literally all the time. I’m staring at girls at the gym. I’m watching a ton of porn. I’m getting random erections in public. Once or twice a week isn’t enough for me. I don’t want to cheat, but I know I’m heading down that path. What do I do? The conversation of sex always leads to a fight.
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What Girls & Guys Said
9 27Welcome to marriage. This is reason one why no man should get married.
Once you say I do, she doesn't. She's already won you once the ring and contract are in her possession. You belong to her now my friend.
You posted this already
No I haven’t. How many sexually repressed men do you think congregate on this website? I can’t be the only one.
Just one. You. You troll
Okay then lol
Just go get it else where.. you will both be happier.. you will be satisfied and she will be happy you are not bugging her. Win win
I’ve heard this happen a lot and that’s yet another reason to avoid marriage
You say that only as long as you're able to get as much as you want without being married. But remember, you won't always be a debonair and handsome 26! Some day, sooner than you think, you'll be 76, and the women you want won't be likely to be interested in you! It's not a reason to avoid marriage. Couples can work stuff like this out. If one or the other doesn't have enough libido, this is often a medical problem and a doctor can solve it, as I told the questioner.
@Keyboardkat eh I’ve heard numerous cases of a bedroom going dead after marriage and I don't know it makes me hesitant along with all the other potential downsides what do guys get out of marriage these days anyways especially if they don’t want any kids?
Talk with your wife about it. it's part of the relationship to talk about these things and come to a comprise you both agree on.
Tell her you need more, and stop watching porn it just makes it worse, if she doesn't want to try to have more sexy time with you leave her
I feel. The same way bro
Well because you work out and are healthy your drive is higher than normal but she be turned on by your body if you’re like that, maybe she needs to go to the gym and get some libido back too, I guess you could masturbate sometimes also
Are you boy or man? Learn to control your sexual energy and honor your wife
Are you Christian?
No I am not
I just don’t understand how neglecting my needs which is sex is honoring my wife. I fulfill my obligations as a husband. All I ask is for loyalty, support, and sex.
I’m not an animal but I have urges. I control them and repress them consistently for my wife. I’m struggling to hold back these urges after years though.
You have much to learn young grasshopper. Do not repress express--this is of great importance. You must come to see that all your actions are sexual energy. Take that built up urge and energy and direct it into your daily actions of life in a non-sexual way. This sexual energy is of the greatest power. During lifting weights, During day job work, during chores or hobby etc. etc. Forget the porn it is a poison to your mind.
You’ve got three choices…. learn to live with it, cheat or divorce and find someone you’re more sexually compatible with. Betraying her by cheating is the least honorable option. At the end of the day, there’s no shame in deciding that you married the wrong person. It’s happened to a lot of people. If you’re not happy and she’s unwilling to compromise and therapy hasn’t helped, then consult an attorney and move on. You’re not doing her any favors either by prolonging an unhappy marriage.
Have you considered marriage counseling?
Yeah we’ve done therapy