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OMG!!! did I cheat on my boyfriend?

I went with out with my coworkers for dinner. I texted my boyfriend and I told him that I'll be out and he asked me to be careful. After dinner we went to a guy friend's house to enjoy our time and he offered us a drink. I started to drink and I didn't leave because I was drunk so, I wanted to sleep on the sofa. In the morning I found myself sleeping on the guy's bed and I freaked out. I asked him what happened and he was mocking me for not remembering anything. I asked if we had sex and he said we did. I freaked out and I said that no way I'd cheat so he said you should've thought about that before going down on me last night. I went home but I still can't remember anything because the last thing I said is that I will sleep on the sofa. I feel horrible. DID I REALLY CHEAT?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Okay girl! Go talk to your boyfriend. Explain exactly what happened. That the last thing you remember is being on the sofa, and you woke up in bed, and that you don't remember anything, and that you got told you had sex with him, but you really don't remember and don't know if it's true. Beg for forgiveness. Also if you did have sex it was non consensual. If you're drunk, especially black out drunk, you can't consent. So in other words that guy can get in trouble for rape. Plus he could have drugged you. Best of luck hun! x And I hope your boyfriend understands x. Message me if you wanna talk! But don't delay in telling him. The sooner the better.

  • Of course you did.

    You chose to go home with your male friends.

    You chose to drink with him and others in his home.

    You chose to drink to the stage of losing your inhibitions; so are ultimately responsible for what has occurred as a result of that.
    Regardless of whether you had sex or not; you made poor choices for someone in a relationship and there are now repercussions

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Most Helpful Guys

  • it's possible they put the "rape drug" in your drink, it is called rofies and after you take it you don't remember anything, you should really be more careful and also consider stay away from those coworkers... even if they didn't drug you the take advantage of you while you were drunk

    • How do you know about this thing?

    • just google "rape drug"

  • Wow you started drinking at some persons house without a close friend or boyfriend there with you.

    Aww man! No one could have seen this one coming. media.giphy.com/media/xEjBsfuVGlkfS/giphy.gif

    • I feel bad

    • So what have you learned?

    • My lesson

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  • sorry, "I got too drunk" isn't an excuse. The guy is the worst but you made the choices that led up to it.

  • Yes you cheated. It doesn't matter that you were drunk, you still fucked another guy.

    • I still don't remember that part at all. :(

    • So, it still happened. Like if someone blacked out and robbed a bank, they still robbed a bank

  • This is why I NEVER go out with my guy friends unless I really trust them. I don't want thing like this happened. Well I'd say you accidentally cheated without your consent but the fact that you had sex with him made you as a cheater. If you love your boyfriend you need to explain to him in detail what happened. For me if I ever cheated, I wouldn't be able to sleep at night till I tell my boyfriend.

  • You shouldn't have gone there without your boyfriend. Anyways, as you don't remember, you shouldn't suppress yourself. Just be positive.

  • Going to say that's a yes. Should have got a ride/taxi home

    • I feel bad

    • You kinda should tbh, obviously you weren't trying to, or we hope not, but still.

  • Well the man could be lying... you should first of all get tested and tell your boyfriend exactly what happened. If you were drunk and you went down on this guy... come on, you must remember something! Unless they drugged you, in which case that is rape. Get this sorted out right away.

    To me you sound like a lying hoe, I'm sorry, but that's what it comes off as because so many girls pull this shit. What are you like when your drunk? Why are you getting so drunk at this guy's house without your bf? This is why religions have laws against this kind of shit, everyone knows alcohol causes this kind of stuff to happen. You need to take responsibility for your situation. I bet you were all over that co worker and you damn well know it... maybe you weren't consciously planning on sleeping with him but some part of you clearly wanted it

    if you are entirely innocent, you just have to tell the truth about everything and be more careful in the future

    • Even if she wasn't drugged and only unconsciously drunk its still rape

  • You might wanna start focusing on him drugging you like he was bill Cosby's little brother or something

    • This is bad :(

    • Hit me with pm

  • Do you have any proof that you actually slept with him (some sort of a feeling that left after you have sex, leftover seed, etc)
    If no, leave it be. For all you know, maybe he lied...
    Next time make sure you won't be able to cheat on him... There are so many options: not going without you boyfriend, not drinking alcohol at all, wear chastity belt...

  • seriously this is why some women get the reputation of being irresponsible.. Even if you didn't have sex with him you still betrayed your boyfriend.. I suggest you come clean and be honest... The reality of the matter is if i were him i would leave you in a heart beat for this.

  • If you don't know your limits then stop drinking at all.

  • YEAH!

  • I think you did cheat on bim or that guy take advantage of you.

    • I don't remember it.

  • Yes. Any other questions?

  • um yes obviously
    you had sex with another guy... so..

  • yes maybe you did. now you need to come clean with your boyfriend. you put yourself in that situation and you should've called him as soon as your plans changed that night

    • I'm not a bad girlfriend :(

    • and he said you had sex and you went down on him he was specific about it. first you should have told your boyfriend everything beforehand you had all the chance to leave or not put yourself like that

    • okay if it's not a joke you need to be honest with him

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  • Yes... and being drunk is NOT an excuse for cheating. Face the consequences...

  • That sucks

  • Yeah pretty much

  • Either you can't handle your drinking, or he drugged you.

    • That drink tested like something new to me but I can't remember like what exactly

    • Probably tasted differently because of the drug, or maybe it was a harder alcohol count than you were used to like Vodka or something.

  • You don't lose your memory like that from drinking missy, you either remembered having drunk sex or that dude raped you while you were passed out. Life is not like in the cartoons.

    • see that's my experience, I've never blacked out from drinking. People say you can though... I always did wonder if that was an excuse

    • Never blacked out either (meaning doing things I don't remember), I've passed out from drinking lots of times tho

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