Orgasm feels different by myself than with bf?

Question

I can give myself huge anazing orgasm. With him I get little ones but they aren't as intense. Why can't orgasm as easily or intense with my boyfriend? Better concentration alone?

SammyGurl · Accepted Answer

Probably because you know exactly what feels good to you when you do it and exactly the right spot every time. When he gives you an orgasm, he is going by what he perceives feels good to you either by past experience with another girl or by the verbal and nonverbal cues you're giving him. Communication is the key, you need to tell him what he's doing feels good or not, give him hints how to make it feel better for you. Maybe even show him, either by you doing it or better yet guiding his hands/fingers to the "right spot" giving him hints on sped and pressure. He'll catch on quickly, guys get a whole lot of pleasure from giving their lover a great orgasm (my husband added this part)!

ConfusedInLovc · Accepted Answer

Foreplay is needed. It's best to say things like "I love when you did... " so he knows what u like without blowing his ego. Also Sex gets better over time with the same guy, when u both really love each other. U learn what each other likes and u start to relax. R u thinking while with him? Stop! Love your body and be confident. Don't have sex to please him, it's a two way street. The Best is yet to come.

tinyclit · Accepted Answer

I have the exact opposite problem. I never had an orgasm before meeting my boyfriend (now husband). Now I have orgasms all the time, but the only way I can get there is by having him lick my clit to get me there. It feels great and everything, but without his tongue on my clit I just can't get there by myself. Not even with my vibrator. Must be a magic tongue or something.

John_Lion_84 · Accepted Answer

Many have the same opinion on that, no one know me and my needs better than me. When you are in relationship, both side don't know exactly the others exact needs and do it the just exact way at the right moment. You can teach him how to take you there and am sure he did give you few hints on how to do things for him. Talk, communicate abd guide him, give him what he wants in return.
I managed after 5 months relationship to give her what she could her self.

LastNightmare · Accepted Answer

it's always a problem. you need to talk and moreover he must respect your need. I always go down more to give them the best they deserve

Wonderer89 · Answer

Mines the same, if he is really focussed on me and working for it then it's mind blowing but there are two in the tango so I get at least one amazing orgasm before finding a normal rhythm

Junlian · Answer

Cause your probably not telling him what you did to reach that. Sooooo maybe share your secret with him.

YummyLady · Answer

What kind of orgasm are we talking about? Clitoral or vaginal?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Performance anxiety? Are you self conscious when you are naked between the sheets with him?

Kachatterjee · Answer

Better teach him

Casstiel · Answer

If you don't feel comfortable with him, maybe you can't get enough.

Dragan · Answer

Vaginal orgasm in many women weaker than clitoral orgasm. He should stimulate yours clitoris by hand during intercourse. Cunnilingus is also great for the female orgasm.

JustCallMeLeon · Answer

Hmmmm. Guide your boyfriend down there. Its normal. Open up. Speak your mind. When alone, do you use toys?

masterkamasutra · Answer

because you know you pussy well, you know the speed and stimulation, he may not, direction is important, tell him how much you want and how hard he should.

Anonymous · Answer

Because u know ur body better than him

Anonymous · Answer

Many guys have this problem too where too much self abuse has blunted their sexual responses, stop masturbating as your robbing your guy of an emotional connection with you.