Revenge porn & Sexy keepsake pictures?

[Ellie-V]

I watched a video on YouTube and these people were talking about revenge porn. When you release the sex video/pics without the other persons knowledge out of spite and revenge. If your SO did you wrong and you had a video or photo of them that was pornographic, would you expose them? Why? Why would people keep sexy photos of their ex SO anyways? Don’t you think you should delete them and find someone else to masturbate to? I just find sexy keepsake photos/videos kind of gross and dumb. Some people expose those things for their friends to see and it’s very disrespectful to the other person no matter how they did you wrong.

[4nication]

Agree. I mean, I think the most important part is not sharing them with others against the subject's wishes. If you keep them for yourself safely (or as safe as they can be in a connected world), then I think that is all right.

[Ellie-V]

I just feel like the person should know after the breakup of you’re still keeping that stuff. Because they probably won’t be comfortable with it anymore.

[4nication]

I got a firsthand lesson in this back in the day, after a boozy evening with a few friends. There was some strip poker, and I unthinkingly posted the pics to Facebook. The girl was NOT happy, so I took them down and apologised. Then my friend posted a pic of me that I was not happy with, and I made him take that down. Lol

[4nication]

Okay. I have deleted the stuff I have received. Apart from anything else, it gets old quickly. But I feel like once you give it out, you kind of run the risk of the person keeping it. I still have non-nude pics of some of my exes, just because it's nice to have mementos of those times.

[4nication]

Thanks for MHO

[Dr_Latex_McPeggin]

Whenever I had a SO that became an ex, all photos/videos if any were deleted that day for both to see...

[kittycat119]

Naw I wouldn't do that 2 a guy if we broke up. Just like I would hope my ex wouldn't be cruel enough 2 do this 2 me with the videos and pics he has of me. But if he does well then lesson learned

[FrDoll]

this is so mean and stupid to do such a thing
i try to avoid my picture taken in nude or sex, but if someone does this without concent, it might cost him a lot in layers!!

[BlueCoyote]

I would never do that. It is incredibly heartless and also very immature. Being cheated on is no fun but taking revenge by uploading these kind of photos/videos can destroy a person's entire career and life. It can also do lasting, emotional harm to the person in the photo/video. I don't believe that is a legitimate way of punishing someone for cheating. I generally find the idea of revenge in this context really stupid. How can someone praise themselves as priest of moral perfection (and judge their partner for cheating) and then go on to do something equally as immoral? It makes no sense. Also, how can you possibly do such a thing to someone whom you have once loved? I get it, the same thing could be said for cheating but the fact that the victim has once loved their partner still holds true. The past cannot be changed by an action in the present. And if one acknowledges that they used to love this guy/girl, they would then have to acknowledge that they probably did so for good reason. And yes, maybe their partner is in fact still a very good person who doesn't deserve revenge. A good person who has made a stupid mistake... like we all do sometimes. May he who is without sin throw the first stone.

On a political note, I also believe that uploading revenge porn should be illegal. It's true that it would probably be hard for the police to find out which porn clips are motivated by revenge and which aren't. However, I still believe it would make a clear sign and take a stand against this kind of thing. Victims of revenge porn should be able to force porn sites to take the clips in question down and they should have the right for financial compensation from their ex-partner who uploaded the porn.

And as a general rule of thumb, I can only advise young couples (especially girls) to be VERY careful when posing for a photo/video in a sexual way. I know it is very common these days to sext nude pics and stuff like that but to me that's a worrying development. Not because of the sexual nature of the pictures but because people seem to have completely stopped caring about their privacy rights. I mean, you wouldn't give your boyfriend of 2 months your social security number and the login data for your electronic bank account. So, why give him pictures where you pose naked? It's the same thing. If at all, these things should only be exchanged once the couple has been together for a long time.
My wife and I don't have any kind of sexual pics/clips of each other.

[GetzRekt]

I have never and would never use intimate photos as a weapon. Many guys and girls will say the same thing, but it's important to have been tested before you can know for sure. It's easy to say something when emotionally stable. What's important is how you react when someone hurts you deeply. Many people lose their shit when that happens and then any trustworthiness goes out of the window. I know for a fact that I'm very centred and resilient so I am able to say how I will react. Convincing you or someone else is another matter, which is why people who think about taking nudes should always be cautious. Don't think about how the person is now, think about how they might be if you break their heart. Think about how irrational and crazy people can get and whether you are really sure that they wouldn't screw you over in that state.

[ReachingNirvana]

Oh gosh, of course I never would. That's something only somebody with a very dark, haunted spirit would do.

[wyldun]

i find the whole idea revolting and disturbingly childish, are there any adults out there?

[MasterDaddyUK]

revenge porn is never a good thing. but i do have some pics of my Ex's. it was a full relationship, not just a break up and those pictures have amazing memories attached to them.

[Ellie-V]

But if it’s over and done with, why don’t you just move on?

[MasterDaddyUK]

I have moved on. but good memories are worth keeping

[Ellie-V]

But that’s someone else’s naked body. Where’s the respect for the other person?

[MasterDaddyUK]

the naked body they gave full consent to being photographed for private use only. There are a few ex's who still have some of me as well. As long as it remains between the two people in question then there is no issue.

[Ellie-V]

The consent may not always apply AFTER the breakup. You should ask them if it’s ok.

[MasterDaddyUK]

i did

[Ellie-V]

Ok. As long as they all aware that you still have them and they’re cool with it, then it’s not a big deal

[MasterDaddyUK]

exactly! and even IF one of them did some really horrible stuff to me, I still wouldn't post them anywhere. Just because THEY might wish to get down in the mud, doesn't mean i have to join them.

[yeeeeeeeet]

I definitely wouldn't just out of respect for myself. Revenge solves nothing. It might feel good in the moment, but I wouldn't want to look back on it and realize I lowered myself to their level.

[Penelope_]

I would never do that it’s so horrible and such a disgusting thing to do

[TallJamaican1991]

Revenge porn is wrong. Period! Even if you had a terrible break up with an ex, that does not give you the right to take photos that he or she trusted you with and distribute them to the internet. That's just messed up.

[Saray]

I'd never do that. Someone placed trust in you by sending you the pictures , by doing the video. Why be a total dick about it and show it around? There's apsolutely no reason for it except the mental state of a caveman.

[uruds]

I never got why people make videos of themselves in the first place, and 'sexy' photos aren't really a turn on for me.
So if people stopped doing that, that'd be great.
And I would never send this kind of pictures or anything or even show them to anyone, that's completely immoral behaviour.

[Jody89]

I would never send a sexy picture, nor do I ever want to receive one. If I was to ever get one I would delete it immediately <3 <3 <3

[Philyouup]

anyone that does that, should rot in jail!

[Yatagurusu]

Why, is there some rule that says you can't masterbate with someone you're not going out with. But yeah revenge porn itself is illegal for a reason

[Ellie-V]

I’m specifically referring to keepsake pictures of an ex SO. Having them and using them without their knowledge after the breakup is wrong. It’s just better to ask. Because a person just might have a problem with it.

[Yatagurusu]

Why. You clearly found your ex attractive enough to date so a nude of your ex might have good sentimental and sexual value. If you dont want someone to keep nudes after a breakup don't take nudes.

[Ellie-V]

I’m just saying, it’s wrong if they don’t know

[Yatagurusu]

How would you bring that up 😂😂 'btw I'm still rubbing one out to you'. If I was a girl if rather not know. Id also rather not send. Heck as a boy I'd rather not know and not send. You have consented them to see and own this picture. Consent can't be withdrawn afterwards.

[Ellie-V]

You bring it up, by bringing it up. So what if it’s uncomfortable? Everyone is not like you. Consent can be withdrawn.

[Yatagurusu]

No, no it can't, you can't punish someone for doing something you allowed because you changed your mind. If I allow you into my property then I arrest you for trespassing is that fair. If I give away my TV, then I arrest the person who takes them for theft because I withdrew my consent to own them. If you really want to you should make a legally binding contract, (requires a neutral third party, to acknowledge it ) and both of you can sign it saying you will delete all images of eachother upon a breakup. Then it's legally binding.

[Ellie-V]

Wanting a picture or photo removed isn’t punishment. You should just have respect for the other persons body if they are no longer comfortable with you having certain footage of them. That applies whether you broke up with them or not.

[justcurious1337]

Yah I'll be totally honest I have pictures and videos from past relationships I'll delete them periodically as I enter new serious relationships but I always make it very clear I won't show anything you send me as I would expect them not to either but like if you send me a nude then don't expect me to delete it. You can ask nicely and I probably will but if you didn't want me to have it don't send it.

[Mc101]

I never would this is what a child would do. You should respect a person even after a breakup

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Hell no. They may have done me wrong, but I won't stoop to that level and I will still not want to break the trust they had in me back the.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

thats the worst thing that another human can do to another human you loved that person before and when two people break up that love does not go away well not for me anyway it sticks in my head lts the same with that snapchat lt breakes people up full of porn and nudes lts the girls to blame those guys dont want the girl they show the pictures to each other and laugh they think lts fun lts not fun girls should not do lt l would never ask a glrl for nudes there ls a time and place for every thing l have love and respect for all girls/woman come on guys grow up and be like me a real normal guy

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

I have noticed in guys
They're having insane fantasy
That want they ex to be used
They have some kind of fantasy like that

[krity]

And that is why is never put my face in my pics 😂

[shub09]

It's a cowardly act.

[Anonymous]

It’s wrong... It’s special to be in love and hurt them by doing such things... no matter what she or he has done... I mean my opinion if I loved a person I would never do such thing... or at least treat ur partner the way u want to be treated... anything on internet lives forever...