Should I dump her because of her slutty past?

[Anonymous]

I am involved with a woman, i was just interested in sex because I knew she had a slutty past.
But she developed feelings for me and was thinking about marriage and stuff.

Now, i meet this new chic.
Simple, sweet, looks like a virgin, religious.
And I think I'm in love with her. She is all what I'm looking for.
She looks like a great woman to have as a wife and long term monogamous girlfriend.

Now what should I do? My heart says to dump my current girl, but wouldn't I be acting like a selfish asshole?

[kingakuto]

you shouldn't call her a slut first and foremost, her past shouldn't matter as you already knew she was promiscuous and your motivation for going out with her was sexual only and not emotional at all.

to be honest, here I think of you a cunt because you only care about yourself, having sexual history doesn't matter, you only care about how her past affects you, and this new girl what is wrong with yourself and an inconsiderate asshole, you stated that your current girl likes you, your neglecting her feelings and are focusing on yourself, what wrong with you, you lack any sense of what you want and need.

however, in my opinion, after analysing everything you don't seem to have strong feelings for her, and I don't think you should need to feel the need to stay with your current girl just because she has feelings for you because the relationship won't work.

I know above I seem like an ass but I was just analysing what wrong, any relationship that wants is long term, I believe that there needs to be a strong two-way connection and I don't think you feel a strong connection to your current partner, so I personally don't think you should marry her as you don't love her and the other girl is just an excuse.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment so I think you should only do that with someone you generally want to be with.

as the other girl, you seem more attracted to her but I only see as attracted to her image if you plan on going to her go with the thought that it may or may not work to lessen the risk of hurting yourself.

as for your current girl if you plan on leaving her be subtle and gentle about it, just to not hurt her you owe her that much for everything.

[CallMeDave]

You said that your current partner developed feelings for you but didn't say you had strong feelings for her. My opinion is that if you don't have strong feelings for her, you should not feel obligated to stay with her just because she has feelings for you. For a relationship to be successful in the long term, I believe that there needs to be a strong two-way connection and commitment.

If my assumption is correct that you don't really feel a strong attraction to your current partner, then I personally don't think you should marry her whether there's someone new or not. Marriage is a big commitment and sometimes a lot of work so I think you should only do that with someone you really want to be with.

As for the new woman, you sound much more attracted to her. I will caution though that you don't know her all that well yet and there's no guarantee that a relationship with her will work out once you get to know her better and she gets to know you.

But honestly, since you don't really seem all that connected to your current partner, I personally think I'd take the chance on the new one with the understanding that it might not work out.

And I really don't feel like dumping someone you don't have a strong connection to is being an asshole so I wouldn't worry too much about that. If you don't have the feelings, you don't have the feelings, and that's nothing to feel guilty about.

If you had a strong connection to her and dumped her just because some new hot woman came along, I think that would qualify as being an asshole, but breaking off a relationship that you're not really heavily invested in doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Been with 9 men in 46 years. Guess what. I have never been ghosted and I have always been respected. Sent many a man who thought I was going to be a hook up home with blue balls. My current man likes the fact that he can walk down the street with me and not run into someone I have slept with. No stories floating around about about a threesome. Its called pride and self respect. I'm not going to sleep with someone just because I need an itch scratched. When my man asked my number I didn't have to lie or tell him its none of his business. Its damn well his business as is his past sexual history to me. Promiscuous people should be viewed and treated differently than non promiscuous people just as a person who invested and saved for his retirement should be differently than someone who didn't. An obese person shouldn't be viewed in the same light as a thin person. A former drug addict shouldn't be viewed the same as someone who never done drugs. People do stuff with the live for the moment attitude and when it catches up they cry about it. Like the fat girl not getting invited to the prom. If a woman sleeps around I'm not saying she deserves to be treated like shit but don't be expecting to be treated and viewed like a women who didn't.

[maestrodematimaticas]

We are close to the same age. They are the generation of entitlement. Little Ms Fucks a lot thinks she is entitled to the same white picket fence as a woman who doesn't.

[pleasestopthis]

To break up with a woman because of her "slutty past" is very hypocritical. Why can dudes have multiple partners and woman don't?
But apart from that: Did you play games on the current girl to sleep with her or she knew from the beginning you just wanted sex? If so, I don't think you have any obligations with her.

[JointMastaJay]

I love 'looser' ladies. <3 I agree that that double standard is insane & unfair!

[maestrodematimaticas]

For the same reason broke ass women can marry men with money. Your standards are your standards. Nobody is owed any explanation. Once dated a plus sized model that would not go near a guy who didn't have an athletic body. She laughed and called herself a hypocrite. She had every right to have her own standards. When you bring a lot to the table you can pick and choose. And have your own standards.

[Ms725]

It’s more of an asshole thing to do to make her think she has something with you that she clearly doesn’t. Break up with her and be happy with who you really wanna be with. Life is too short to drag people along.

[northerngal]

Her past should be irrelevant. But you have to do what feels right for you. Not what others think.

[maestrodematimaticas]

How is a past not relevant? Its relevant to meteorologists in predicting the weather. Its relevant to insurance companies in determining your accident risk. Its relevant to banks in determining your credit risk. Why is a sexual past the exception?

[unyieldinggirl]

@maestrodematimaticas because according to you sexist men your slutty past shouldn't matter either

[maestrodematimaticas]

@unyieldinggirl I don't have a slutty past. 9 total women since 1982.

[VegetaSSB]

dump the current girlfriend but if she wants it continue to be friends with her, if she doesn´t want it, the better for you.

[SarahsSummer]

You should dump the current girl to allow her to be with a real man.

[alexei1000]

why is he the bad guy if he dont want a woman with a lot of partners

[SarahsSummer]

@alexei1000 then he should be choosier before he puts his dick in someone.

[maestrodematimaticas]

Whats a REAL MAN? A guy thats okay marrying a sperm receptacle?

[SarahsSummer]

@maestrodematimaticas why? The asker doesn’t sound like anything more than just a sperm donor.

[maestrodematimaticas]

Hypocritical as it sounds you have every right to have your own standards. By virtue of posessing a vagina a female slut has far easier access to dick that a male slut has to vagina. As a matter of fact an ugly woman can get laid faster than a handsome man can get a prostitute.

[SarahsSummer]

@maestrodematimaticas ok so you have some serious mental health issues that can’t be resolved here. I suggest you seek qualified medical professionals. Good luck and merry Christmas. 🎁🎄

[sir_geddes]

Dump your current girlfriend cuz it seems like you don't care about and she's probably better off without you

[JimRSmith]

You go with the new one, because you're not in love with the first one.

That's the reason you dump her.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Probably not the girl you want then.

If you have been dating her for this long then there’s qualities about her that makes you feel happy with her, that makes you see a future wit her, that makes you feel like you’re your best version of yourself when she’s around.

If the past worries you too much because you’re afraid of her making a mistake and cheating you then that’s something you have to decide right now because it’s not going anywhere.

You have to either trust her or walk away but my opinion is you love her and you’re just scared which is understandable but dig deep down in yourself and find out if she belongs there or not. Good luck bro

[Pomegranate139]

Dump the current girl because you don’t care for her

[Bandit74]

Yeah, if you think you'd be happier with a girl who was less slutty.

[unyieldinggirl]

He's a slut himself so...

[Caaarl]

You're already a selfish asshole no matter what you do. Dump her she deserves to be with someone else that's worth a shit.

[Jasper7]

Naw. Your just too immature for her. Just realized ur faults

[omgjassy]

You’re strange. Just stay or don’t but don’t slut shame

[maestrodematimaticas]

How's it strange? I tried a relationship with a slut once. Could not get past the fact that she was a slut.

[omgjassy]

@maestrodematimaticas you’re 51, get a grip on yourself

[maestrodematimaticas]

Why? Am I too old to still dislike sluts? Some things are timeless.

[omgjassy]

@maestrodematimaticas you’re a bad troll

[maestrodematimaticas]

Don't mean to troll. Good whiskey at a Christmas party. My dislikes for sluts who think they deserve the same considerations as good girls do comes out when I drink. I feel bad for men who are made to feel guilty when they treat sluts like sluts. I feel the need to come to their defense.

[omgjassy]

@maestrodematimaticas you can stop the trolling. It’s getting annoying

[NYkid27]

You should dump your girlfriend since you have feelings for another girl

[zzzondarrr]

"i was just interested in sex because" ahahah, and u call her a slut? I think the chances are that this new "chic" might dump you if she finds out about u dumping your current girlfriend like u intend to.

[gobsmacked3]

After reading this and your views. I think you are too immature to be in a relationship. Your lack of clarity of life and propensity to be ruled by judgments will always cause conflict in a union

[Flower-petal]

You sound like a POS

[2opaz]

lol damn

[Flower-petal]

@2opaz lmfao 😂

[maestrodematimaticas]

Dump the promiscuous chick. Who gives a shit about the feelings of a woman who throws out pussy? She didn't give a shit about the feelings of her future boyfriend or husband. 1 word: EXPENDABLE.

[Asker]

I agree with you, Did she think about her future boyfriend or husband before throwing out the pussy like a free meal at McDonald's to everyone? She was a selfish woman who thought about her own pleasure and not giving a fuck about saving herself for her husband. Even now, she is being selfish of locking a guy down with good financial background , but I'm not a beta cuck who will settle for leftovers. God knows, how many seeds of multiple men are floating in her blood, i want my child to look like me and not likesome drunkard on roadside.

[Asker]

@unyieldinggirl women like you remain unhappy for your entire life. It's about finding best partner. A loyal woman is like a mountain for a man like a confident man is mountain for a woman, they both compliment each other. A promiscuous woman is like a public toilet, hoping its disease free and just get a release. Only a stupid man would want the public toilet to be converted to private toilet. God knows how can those people live knowing that they are chumps and using leftovers of other men.

[Kat_puppies]

@unyieldinggirl I'm actually with him on this one, women should have some class. Stop being Femininazi and let him say what he please with/o you being so triggered, women should be responsible, I'm not saying men shouldn't sleep around too, no one should. If you constantly have sex, it won't be special if you do it with your man. It would lose it's purpose and spark that's why I'm saving myself. Some women needs to be in there place as much as men.

[Kat_puppies]

@unyieldinggirl bitch, i was born adoptive, i got bullied abused and almost raped, and you say i deserve it? WOW you are the most evilest person i ever met, as a kid i always got abused, my mom threaten to kill me my real mom negleted me and you say i deserve it wow. what a person you are i said women and men shouldn't sleep around the way they do. and you call me sexist. Women like you makes me wanna kill myself. i don't need help. I tell myself being a women is ok and not bad everyday and women like you makes it worst, I even attempted suicide and waas so close to death. and i DESERVE IT

[Kat_puppies]

@unyieldinggirl I'mma report you for being offensive cause my life was a living hell

[Asker]

@unyieldinggirl you are mentally ill andbim sorry to tell you, you will die very lonely and very sad woman full of hate. Sluts are never respected. I'm not saying guys should sleep around too. Because if guy sleep around, it leaves behind jaded women like you, who want to equal men by fucking every man they encounter. You are mentally unstable, i would suggest you to go and seek professional help. I have never seen so much hate in a woman ever in my life.

[maestrodematimaticas]

I know right. I would be so embarrassed if I married another man's booty call.

[maestrodematimaticas]

@unyieldinggirl You are like white noise in the background. Give me one reason a slut should be viewed in the same light as a woman who kept sex within the confines of a LTR.

[Libarena]

No. Don't.

[G35guy94]

Well a girl with a slutty past is a red flag for me

[2opaz]

Who do you care about more?

If you like the current girl more than the new girl you should stick with her.

Follow you heart man

[disgustingweebtrash]

You should dump the current girl and move on. Just ghost on her.

[maestrodematimaticas]

I would not ghost her. I would make it clear why he dumped her for a good girl. Make it a learning experience.

[unyieldinggirl]

@maestrodematimaticas a learning experience😂😂😂. If she gives af she's to sensitive and dumb. I wouldn't give af. He's not worth a dime

[maestrodematimaticas]

@unyieldinggirl Not gonna happen. I married a good girl who didn't throw out pussy. She actually had standards. I actually had to date her for several months. I actually had to have a real career. I actually had to have my own place and a car. I actually had to be single. I actually had to be into her. Women throw out pussy and want the same considerations as women who don't. Doesn't work that way sweetheart.

[unyieldinggirl]

@maestrodematimaticas But women should deal with whores? People should be able to fuck whoever they want without being judged by cunts like you. I don't see the problem as long as a person is std free. You men just want virgin girls to make yourself feel manly while you're sleeping around holding onto sexist traditions. Too damn bad

[CT_CD]

You should dump the current girl and move on. Just ghost on her.

[CT_CD]

@unyieldinggirl U mad bro?

[unyieldinggirl]

I'm obviously not a bro🙄

[CT_CD]

@unyieldinggirl Do you even lift?

[unyieldinggirl]

I'm a boxer. I workout with weights but I don't lift or fun

[CT_CD]

@unyieldinggirl Wanna box?

[unyieldinggirl]

Lol I had fights with guys who thought I was weak because I am a woman. It is whatever dude

[CT_CD]

@unyieldinggirl My hands are deadly weapons.

[unyieldinggirl]

And mines aren't according to you? Idc. If women weren't conditioned into being ladylike and weak, we could kick your ass. We weren't need a man to defend us and beat up womanbeaters and rapist. We would take of them ourselves. Instead society teach us to be weak. Good thing I had an amazing father that put me and my sisters into boxing and kickboxing classes at a young age

[CT_CD]

@unyieldinggirl lol. Society has nothing to do with it. It's just biology. Men are naturally bigger, stronger and faster and usually better fighters.

[unyieldinggirl]

And women can be the same if we weren't conditioned to be another way. The lies you spill

[CT_CD]

@unyieldinggirl Troll

[unyieldinggirl]

Definitely what you are

[CT_CD]

@unyieldinggirl No you are

[alexei1000]

dump her

[Anonymous]

"I was just interested in sex"
Double standards
"looks like a virgin"... but are you?

[Anonymous]

Yeah I would my girls only been with about 7 guys at 19 me 27 but I’m 24 and a guy so

[maestrodematimaticas]

Mine had 3 at age 21. All year plus relationships.

[Opinion Owner]

How 27 isn’t even high and never had I had an std

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry that I’m not a virgin and enjoy sex...

[unyieldinggirl]

Enjoy sex all tf you want. My problem is when guys believe women hold less value when we enjoy it too

[Opinion Owner]

You do we’re aloud to be sluts it’s in our nature any girl with a high body count is a whore ask anyone in society cupcake

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah yeah yeah whatever you say

[Opinion Owner]

You call it slutty I call it a boy maturing into a man I’m happily taken now and faithful

[unyieldinggirl]

Feel sorry for your girl. She has a sexist little boy for a man

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah she feels sorry for you too you got a boy with no experience with his dick🤷🏻‍♂️✌🏻

[unyieldinggirl]

I think you have him confused with yourself 😂😂😂. At least my guy isn't a sexist prick. He believes in women's rights which is one of the most important things a real man can support

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah he’s a man alright... probably a chuckhold who watches you take poop dick you’d have my sympathy bye

[unyieldinggirl]

You talk bad about yourself dude. Too bad. Idc 🙄

[Opinion Owner]

Then stop texting me bitch

[Anonymous]

Your choice: selfish asshole or not?

[Opinion Owner]

Dump your girl anyhow: she'll be better off with another guy.

[Anonymous]

Where do you get off calling your current girl slutty? Her past shouldn't concern you, as long as she's clear of any sexually transmitted diseases. But if you're not in love with her, she'll be well shot of you tbh