Should I dump her because of her slutty past?

Should I dump her because of her slutty past?

I am involved with a woman, i was just interested in sex because I knew she had a slutty past.
But she developed feelings for me and was thinking about marriage and stuff.

Now, i meet this new chic.
Simple, sweet, looks like a virgin, religious.
And I think I'm in love with her. She is all what I'm looking for.
She looks like a great woman to have as a wife and long term monogamous girlfriend.

Now what should I do? My heart says to dump my current girl, but wouldn't I be acting like a selfish asshole?
You should dump the current girl but be friends with her so that you don't look like an asshole.
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You should dump the current girl and move on. Just ghost on her.
Vote B
You shouldn't dump the current girl.
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  • you shouldn't call her a slut first and foremost, her past shouldn't matter as you already knew she was promiscuous and your motivation for going out with her was sexual only and not emotional at all.

    to be honest, here I think of you a cunt because you only care about yourself, having sexual history doesn't matter, you only care about how her past affects you, and this new girl what is wrong with yourself and an inconsiderate asshole, you stated that your current girl likes you, your neglecting her feelings and are focusing on yourself, what wrong with you, you lack any sense of what you want and need.

    however, in my opinion, after analysing everything you don't seem to have strong feelings for her, and I don't think you should need to feel the need to stay with your current girl just because she has feelings for you because the relationship won't work.

    I know above I seem like an ass but I was just analysing what wrong, any relationship that wants is long term, I believe that there needs to be a strong two-way connection and I don't think you feel a strong connection to your current partner, so I personally don't think you should marry her as you don't love her and the other girl is just an excuse.

    Marriage is a lifetime commitment so I think you should only do that with someone you generally want to be with.

    as the other girl, you seem more attracted to her but I only see as attracted to her image if you plan on going to her go with the thought that it may or may not work to lessen the risk of hurting yourself.

    as for your current girl if you plan on leaving her be subtle and gentle about it, just to not hurt her you owe her that much for everything.

  • You said that your current partner developed feelings for you but didn't say you had strong feelings for her. My opinion is that if you don't have strong feelings for her, you should not feel obligated to stay with her just because she has feelings for you. For a relationship to be successful in the long term, I believe that there needs to be a strong two-way connection and commitment.

    If my assumption is correct that you don't really feel a strong attraction to your current partner, then I personally don't think you should marry her whether there's someone new or not. Marriage is a big commitment and sometimes a lot of work so I think you should only do that with someone you really want to be with.

    As for the new woman, you sound much more attracted to her. I will caution though that you don't know her all that well yet and there's no guarantee that a relationship with her will work out once you get to know her better and she gets to know you.

    But honestly, since you don't really seem all that connected to your current partner, I personally think I'd take the chance on the new one with the understanding that it might not work out.

    And I really don't feel like dumping someone you don't have a strong connection to is being an asshole so I wouldn't worry too much about that. If you don't have the feelings, you don't have the feelings, and that's nothing to feel guilty about.

    If you had a strong connection to her and dumped her just because some new hot woman came along, I think that would qualify as being an asshole, but breaking off a relationship that you're not really heavily invested in doesn't.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Been with 9 men in 46 years. Guess what. I have never been ghosted and I have always been respected. Sent many a man who thought I was going to be a hook up home with blue balls. My current man likes the fact that he can walk down the street with me and not run into someone I have slept with. No stories floating around about about a threesome. Its called pride and self respect. I'm not going to sleep with someone just because I need an itch scratched. When my man asked my number I didn't have to lie or tell him its none of his business. Its damn well his business as is his past sexual history to me. Promiscuous people should be viewed and treated differently than non promiscuous people just as a person who invested and saved for his retirement should be differently than someone who didn't. An obese person shouldn't be viewed in the same light as a thin person. A former drug addict shouldn't be viewed the same as someone who never done drugs. People do stuff with the live for the moment attitude and when it catches up they cry about it. Like the fat girl not getting invited to the prom. If a woman sleeps around I'm not saying she deserves to be treated like shit but don't be expecting to be treated and viewed like a women who didn't.

    • We are close to the same age. They are the generation of entitlement. Little Ms Fucks a lot thinks she is entitled to the same white picket fence as a woman who doesn't.

  • To break up with a woman because of her "slutty past" is very hypocritical. Why can dudes have multiple partners and woman don't?
    But apart from that: Did you play games on the current girl to sleep with her or she knew from the beginning you just wanted sex? If so, I don't think you have any obligations with her.

    • I love 'looser' ladies. <3 I agree that that double standard is insane & unfair!

    • For the same reason broke ass women can marry men with money. Your standards are your standards. Nobody is owed any explanation. Once dated a plus sized model that would not go near a guy who didn't have an athletic body. She laughed and called herself a hypocrite. She had every right to have her own standards. When you bring a lot to the table you can pick and choose. And have your own standards.

  • It’s more of an asshole thing to do to make her think she has something with you that she clearly doesn’t. Break up with her and be happy with who you really wanna be with. Life is too short to drag people along.

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  • Her past should be irrelevant. But you have to do what feels right for you. Not what others think.

    • How is a past not relevant? Its relevant to meteorologists in predicting the weather. Its relevant to insurance companies in determining your accident risk. Its relevant to banks in determining your credit risk. Why is a sexual past the exception?

    • @maestrodematimaticas because according to you sexist men your slutty past shouldn't matter either

    • @unyieldinggirl I don't have a slutty past. 9 total women since 1982.

  • dump the current girlfriend but if she wants it continue to be friends with her, if she doesn´t want it, the better for you.

  • You should dump the current girl to allow her to be with a real man.

    • why is he the bad guy if he dont want a woman with a lot of partners

    • @alexei1000 then he should be choosier before he puts his dick in someone.

    • Whats a REAL MAN? A guy thats okay marrying a sperm receptacle?

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  • Dump your current girlfriend cuz it seems like you don't care about and she's probably better off without you

  • You go with the new one, because you're not in love with the first one.

    That's the reason you dump her.