Should I leave him for not giving me sex?

[Anonymous]

My husband hasn't been giving me sex that much anymore, cause he masturbates to pov porn a lot. When he does give me sex, he loses it in the middle, and gets frustrated. Hed blame it on me, yell at me that im too loose, or im too dry, or even say i stink. He even say that i suck, i dont pleasure him anymore, and compare my vagina to his ex wifes. When he says im too dry, id put on lube, but it still doesn't help. So i dont even believe him when he said im too dry. Also, he never gets hard, i have to give him a handjob to have sex. But when he watches porn, he gets hard, and he gets off easily. He told me he needs porn to get hard and want sex. Now this is making me feel like he doesn't even think im attractive, or even want me cause he needs porn to get hard. There has been many times when we had sex, he couldnt cum at all, and loses it all the time. He gave up and got off to porn instead. I've never wanted him to watch porn, cause im scared it would make him no longer attracted to me. And i believe it already has made him no longer attracted to me. I dont have big boobs or butt like them. And i feel like its cheating. he's having sex w her mentally! He doesn't care about how i feel, and still watches and gets off to porn. Should i leave him? Our sex life is no longer good. Everytime we have sex, we always end up arguing. Cause he will lose it, gets frustrated, and say bad things about me and my vagina.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you guys have a lot of problems, bigger than this that trickles down to this also (communication is very bad by the sounds of it). As far as "should I leave him?", do you want to leave him? Answer that for yourself first. If the real answer is no, then I think you guys need some couple's counselling maybe. And/or a sex therapist. You guys need to "connect" again (if you ever were?) as a couple. There's not only a lack of communication, but anger, fighting and a lack of respect by the sounds of it. Do you love each other still?

One thing I will say, which is of little comfort probably, but something, is that porn for guys is a visual aid and usually nothing more! This is something a lot of women don't "get" (because you're not wired the same way we are). There's no "attachment" beyond the visual. It's simply watching sex. It's the equivalent of a toy for you, it's an aid right and nothing more? Same with us and porn. But although important, I think your issues run deeper than just the sex in your marriage.

[Cellestial]

"My husband hasn't been giving me sex that much anymore, cause he masturbates to pov porn a lot. When he does give me sex, he loses it in the middle, and gets frustrated. Hed blame it on me, yell at me that im too loose, or im too dry, or even say i stink. He even say that i suck, i dont pleasure him anymore, and compare my vagina to his ex wifes. When he says im too dry, id put on lube, but it still doesn't help. So i dont even believe him when he said im too dry"

That should be enough to convince anybody that it's not worth it to spend a single minute with that idiot anymore.

[AustinMan]

I'd strongly suggest you find a good couple's therapist to help you two work through the issues.

[Red_Arrow]

I suggest giving him the option of going to a couple's counselor with you or divorcing. Couple's counselors are great at getting both sides to open and share thoughts with each other. That can fix a lot of problems. If that does not work, divorce him. Lots of men out there that will treat you like your inner goddess deserves! You will get to love sex again.. :-)

[0112358]

If you don't have kids, and he doesn't consider this a problem he wants to resolve, leave him.

If he's actually willing to try fixing it, work with him.

If you have kids, it's complicated.

[chriscdi]

yea leave him, he's green, let him and his porn have a relationship, see how long that lasts

[Stan_Control_]

That sucks. I think you've come to a point where you'll have to ask him to stop watching porn or much less at least. And the fact he always blames you for him not being able to keep it up sucks even more. He should self-reflect a little more...

If this frustrates you too much to live with, then you know what to do.

[Caliguy88]

I would.

[Daylight7550]

Leave him. he's made it clear that porn is all the sex he needs.

[Naughtyboy71]

Yes leave him buy you a dildos and vibrater

[Twalli]

It's not that he isn't attracted to you. He's addicted to porn. It's a serious problem.

[sahil77]

God that's disgusting mate really feel bad for you... Only thing i suggest is please don't back for him if he doesn't want you anymore... Let him be inside porn world.. u got your own life enjoy with one who can really make u feel better and would enjoy with u on bed and off bed 😉

[Cryptic-Game]

It is better to seek sex therapy and marriage counselling.

[mhead9]

Find it elsewhere. Maybe figure out a arrangement

[JSavilesComputer]

yes ofcourse, sex is the key ingredient for any relationship,
whats a relationship without sex?
he's greedy and only thinking about his own wants and desires not ur needs... dump him right away
AND get with someone who cares about ur and will fufil ur needs, someone like me

[Anonymous]

When I read that he had ex-wives that’s already a red flag to me so obviously it’s him that has the problem so maybe you need to take time out and separate for a while until he gets the point

[Anonymous]

He probably has a medical problem. If he is overweight or depressed that could be the problem. Maybe he just has an erection problem and needs pills. Either way I would leave if the relationship is no longer working at all. I don't think people should stay with someone they're unhappy with.

[Anonymous]

What say of your vagina.. what can be... All are great

[Anonymous]

This is nit something related to sex. Did you guys had an argument? Or does he hate you for something you did?