Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My boyfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago. We broke up because he was being lazy in our relationship. Not making time for me, not going on dates he just got lazy. So I walked away.
Last night I was out got drunk and had sex with someone else. I had fun and wanted to have sex with him.
The next day my ex boyfriend is texting me talking about working things out and hows he's gonna be less lazy and make more time for our relationship. he's willing to try.
Should I tell my ex I had sex with someone else?
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I didn't cheat on my boyfriend. We were broken up for 2 weeks but still in contact with each other. My ex boyfriend asked me did I sleep with someone or kiss someone. I didn't answer. I told him I felt it was none of his business. If he cared that much we should talk about our relationship.
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36 76Who you have sex with is nobodies business
Don't tell him. You were out of the relationship when you had sex with the guy. In essence, your ex is offering to start a new relationship, with hopefully different ground rules about him not being so lazy. The only exception to this would be if he thinks you are a virgin.
You should move on. His loss! However this is up to you! Who do you like better? Your ex or your friend? ! You have to look deep withing yourself (no pun intended!) and see who is the better guy but one thing is for sure! Clearly your ex didn't value you enough while IN the relationship so what makes you think that he will change now? ! It's your choice to give him another chance again and to take that risk but it's still your time, your energy, your emotions that will have to suffer if you guys break up again! ... But again, like I tell people, when they sleep with someone, you form a strong BOND with them! It's called oxytocin as well as vasopressin! You will associate orgasms and pleasurable feelings with them! Especially if you liked them as a person! You will be addicted to the deep intimacy that was form and it will be hard for you to break that (normal people will!).
Think about this entire situation. You broke up with your ex two weeks ago and decided to make a spontaneous decision, get drunk and have sex with supposedly a stranger. Now, you’re thinking about getting back together with your ex and contemplating whether you should tell him what you’ve done or not. In my opinion, this is something that seems important and relevant enough to tell him because it’s only been two weeks and you perhaps had sex with a stranger because you were somewhat affected by the break up. Is it correct of me to assume that the break up had some affect on you, to where you had to get drunk and have sex with a stranger to somehow feel good about the whole situation or yourself? I’m open to the possibility of being wrong. Now, for me, I want to know everything about each woman I’m going to be with, when it comes to their sexual past however extensive or insignificant. I want to know how many people they had sex with and how many instances of indiscriminate/spontaneous sexual interactions they’ve had. If you’re going to be back with him again, then tell him, be honest. If you don’t want to get back with him then you don’t have to tell him. You have a moral obligation and requirement to telling your ex that you’ve slept with another person while you were broken up with him for two weeks, if you want to be back with him.
if you weren't together when you slept with someone else then, no... your sex life when not in a relationship with a particular person doesn't concern them... it only concerns yourself and who you are with at the time...
however if you were with him when you did then i would say yes, cos he would need to know as 1) part of closure as to why you both broke up but also would need to know why you then slept with someone else if you were together at the time...
2) also if for example you had contracted anything you would need to inform him
but since neither of those issues were a factor then no i wouldn't bother
I do agree with you though his question should be directed more at the why the relationship failed and also ask if it was something he did or whether something you both could have worked on... but jumping straight into the did you sleep with someone or kiss them without adding the questions why you both broke up is short sighted to say the least
I can tell you one thing.. He will continue being slack, that's his comfort zone and you gota make that decision if you are able to accept it
yeah i think you did right... its none of his business really
I would tell him you need more time. Go out and meet some more guys. Have fun, get plenty of sex and if you have feelings for your ex then try it. I wouldn’t tell him about your sex with someone else though. Then he would do something stupid like pay for a escort. Plus he could lose interest in you quick if you only waited 2 weeks to meet someone else.
Yes you should tell him
You broke up, the relationship ended there. You have no obligation to tell him this or anything else, even if you two get back together, it's like a black hole where you weren't part of their life.
Yes u need to tell him NOW
NEVER go back. That's my motto. Then it won't matter what you tell him. The things that you were frustrated about when you left will still be there, even if it takes a while for them to resurface. Just my two cents.
No. No. No. No. No. You broke up. Keep your trap shut.
Totally agree!! No reasons to tell him
No it’s not his business.
Why would you communicate with an ex at all? Are you stupid?
If you desire to give him a second chance update him on what happened (tell him you had sex with someone else) and if he judges you for that change to plan B stay single and find a better person, he has no right to judge you because he wasn't appreciating you being his girlfriend wich is no given.
If you don't want to give him a second chance tell him that you aren't interested any more, he doesn't need to know
Don’t tell him. guys don’t tell us everything so why should we
Shitty pov
@selfdestruction absolute trash perspective. This is why most women are not worth crap
Dont tell him
Sorry, i didn't see update. If he's asked you outright i think you should have told him the truth. Not answering would come across as a yes. The real question is do you want to rekindle? What really went wrong and what has changed? If ypu're going to rebuild a relationship it should be on a bedrock of openess and honesty. You did nothing wrong. If he wants to know I think you should tell him. Maybe see if he brings it up again.
Seems kinda selfish to tell him about your sex record so soon after breaking up.
Why would you tell him?
I'm sure the topic will pop up eventually if y'all get back together. You're going through some stuff, don't add anything that could hurt or offend him.