Sexual Relationships 
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So I've been married for a year now, only been together for 3 and a half years. We never really talk about our sexual pasts in detail. He knows I've had quite some casual sex and was far from a prude. I know he only had sex with his previous girlfriend, never had a ONS or anything like that. I know he used to have some issues with the fact that he wasn't very lucky in that department and I was pretty loose. That's why I don't talk about details.
There was one guy, and yes I know it was really dumb and I regret it the day after when I was sober, I gave a blowjob for his birthday. His friends made a bet with me when I was really drunk, I lost and I had to blow that guy on the bar toilet for his birthday, wearing this stupid "happy b-day" tiara. So not the classiest act you would rather not tell anyone about in detail (which is why I keep this anonymous ;) ). Also this happened at a time when me and my husband had two dates. We weren't exclusive or anything so I didn't really do anything wrong, but it wouldn't add much positive.
Now, pure coincidence, this guy is a cowrker of my husband. I have been keeping this a secret for 3 years, constantly on the edge of trying to tell him but it was never the right time, never seemed like a good idea and now it's been so long I don't know if I still should. The awkward feeling when I see this guy doesn't go away though and I feel like I'm lying to my husband about something. I don't want to cheat my husband or give off that feeling. what should I do?
What Girls & Guys Said
5 29You want to spoil your relationship?
I wouldn't say anything unless it comes up... I never thing it would lol. But in my opinion it shouldn't matter since you guys are in a commited married relationship.
Lol a pass bj shouldn't cause a divorce. Else I would consider this a pretty toxic relationship.
will he leave you?
You know what I think. I think you want to give that guy a blowjob again. This should be in the past and your husband doesn't have to know yet your still thinking about the time you sucked his coworkers dick.
This is so gross. That's why a guy should always make sure he's not marrying a 304. This is why guys shouldn't commit unless she's marriage material. Who wants to walk into a room and wonder how many guys in there have fucked their girl? Naaw.
Yes tell him and tell him you swallowed in a toilet. I'm sure he will respect you more after thay
lmao omg. have you ever done anything like that?
I wouldn't say anything. Him seeing the guy every day could be a constant poke at what would likely be a painful thought.
yeah you prolly right. have you ever had a scenario like that?
Don't tell him
Ugh, there is no good outcome for this scenario. Best of luck.
Wait so you cheated on him? The math suggests you did, since this was 3 years ago and you've been with your husband for three and a half..
I suggest you tell him and prepare for divorce.
no the guy started working there about 3 years ago. About half a year after we were together
Ah ok. Umm I see no reason for you to disclose that honestly especially if you weren't together the time.