Should you have sex on a first date?

[kay2003]

Should you have sexual interaction or full on sex on a first date?

[MrOracle]

That depends. Are you holding out any hope for a committed relationship, or are you just looking for some casual sex? Because if you are hoping for a committed relationship, that's among the very worst things you can do.

Why? Because in order for most men to consider you for a relationship, he has to see you as "relationship material", and one of the biggest factors in that is whether or not he can trust you to be loyal. If you have no boundaries, and if you can't delay gratification, then you can't be trusted to be loyal - and thus, you will disqualify yourself from being potential "relationship material." That's not the only way you can disqualify yourself, but it's certainly a common way.

If all you want is some casual sex, then obviously none of that matters. Guys will happily take you up on sex if you offer - but they'll still disqualify you - permanently - for relationships if you do.

Why is this the girl's job? Because women are - very much by choice - the GATEKEEPERS of sex. WOMEN decide when sex is okay and when it isn't - you certainly don't want to let MEN be in charge of that decision, or you'll never be off your back again! But when you are the gatekeeper, you have to be able to keep your gate shut until it's appropriate to open it and let qualified persons inside. If you don't take gatekeeping seriously, you can't be trusted to take other important aspects of a relationship seriously, and relationships ALREADY favor women over men heavily and tend to cost men a lot more on average, so men today are reluctant to get involved in them unless they are VERY sure that the girl is trustworthy.

[BossLady16]

Good answer

[Losalt]

It's entirely up to you.
It also depends on the culture to some degree.
There's countries where where asking someone what they're named and going on a date you typically do *after* sleeping with them.
And there's countries where not waiting till marriage with sex will make people think twice about having to do anything with you (not to mention countries where sex outside marriage is illegal)
In most of the western world you're free to do it either way.
But never feel pressured into anything regardless of the culture.

[KrisPW]

Not me! Anybody can fake it through the first date. I need to know a little more about a man first, and to have at least some indications that he is indeed what he has portrayed himself to be.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Personally, I would never.

And I would never say when you "should" have sex with anybody.

[laurieluvsit]

If all the chemistry is there, I don't see why not

[JoannaBillings]

Make sure to check the online data first.

[MrNameless]

what data? I just see graphs

[katiesmuff]

Why not if it feels right do it!

[SnakeBoop]

If you want.

[ChrisMaster69]

Greatly depends on both of you.

its definitely not something anyone should expect.

It was the case I would meet a girl on a Friday, have sex then if we hit it off would start dating.

equally, I’ve met someone then waited 3 months before sex

[dustybiker]

I would never say “should”. It can happen naturally, especially with strong meant to be feelings.

[Berethor]

Sure, if you don't mind being seen as a ho.

[Emilyis]

I was a virgin on my wedding night at 21 so NO!

[Guy__]

I'm dreaming to meet the perfect girl for a long term relationship and sleeping with her on the first date.

[DonkeyDan]

Not if you want to to progress to a second date.

[Nata2496]

Absolutely not. Save yourself for marriage.

[SphynxUK]

If the chemistry is there and you cannot help yourselves, why not?
It’s a personal choice.

[slatyb]

If you want to, and he's agreeable, and one of you has a condom.

[GingerGuy]

It's rare, but if you're both comfortable enough with each other, nothing wrong with it. It's a great ice breaker also.

[20yearsolder]

Depending on whether you're really into that person. If you're horny and you want them then go for it. It's your decision

[Bricealan]

Have done both, and see nothing wrong with either or both, if both agree.

[crossdressingrihno]

Honestly there's no right answer to this question

Some guys would prefer it some guys wouldn't

A lot of people will say that a guy who prefers it won't be good for you but fact is we can't guarantee that this is true because it might not be

It's a gamble either way honestly no matter what people say

[glennos89]

Depends... If it's someone I don't wanna be in a relationship with it's okay for me I guess. But if I want a relationship with that person I definitely wouldn't have sex with her the first date

[TheMajesticKing777]

Whatever floats your boat

[Crafteroon]

Completely up to you. However if this is your first date and you haven't met or talked otherwise for quite a bit, chances are it can end up as your last date too.

Do it when you both want it and are ready for it, and if you want the relationship to go anywhere, there is no need to rush or overtly delay it either.