Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Alright I finally talked to my boyfriend about why his friends are so handsy with me and have spanked me and why he hasn't said anything. At first he just tried to say they were weird and it's cool. But I kept up and he admitted it turned him on and he even suggested his friends should do it which explains a lot. I didn't even know what it was and did a lot of research. He told me it wasn't necessary for him so if I wasn't into it he could let it go. But before that he was saying things like "It's so important to me. And do you know how hard it is living with this secret and feeling like a freak?". It just seems really important to him. And because how he handled it the first time I am worried he might go behind my back and do creepy shit like tell guys to do things to me and just claim it had nothing to do with him.
Any girls boyfriend's into this? Are any of you okay with it? How do you handle it? It also just kind of makes me feel weird about him. I expect a man to be able to protect me. Does he still have that instinct? Or would he just let some robber rape me if they broke into my house? 😒
Guys feel free to answer those questions. How can it be just a kink? Can you live without it even though you like it? Should I still feel safe with him? Would he protect me?
Note: he is an amazing guy other then this. He seemed perfect. He lifts and is attractive. He is very caring and smart. He believes in equality and is totally cool with my feminism. Like I would hate for this one thing to ruin it.
Help?
So my boyfriend is into cucking? WtF do I do? Dump him?
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6 35No I doubt he'd do that. Blake I personally don't want to fuck anyone else if I have a girlfriend
Cuck him
I think it's a very interesting thing, personally I believe female sexuality is really complicated, and while girls would want an amazing caring guy to settle down with, they enjoy having sex with a "bad boy", with guys it's different, if they have a hot girlfriend, they are completely satisfied. It is also my belief that while feminism means equality, it wouldn't be wrong to allow women the sexual freedom, and for men to be true to one girl, it would still feel like a feminist thing to do, I mean I wouldn't want my girl to not be sexually satisfied while I am.
most people I've met aren't able to live without there kinks and eventually go back to it
this is totally weird
he probably won't let them rape you hell probably let you know what he wants
I am in to this and would be happy to talk you through it. it's a very interesting topic and there are degrees of the fetish. a lot depends on how much your boyfriend is into it and what he wants.
That would be cool. Tell me a little but about the psychology behind it.
I'm still new and can't message you or make my response private. can you message me
This kink comes down to this he has a low self esteems, nothing wrong with that, but wants to see you satisfied and doesn’t feel like he can fulfill so he brings someone else to do it. It’s like when you fuck and you make your partner cum so you cum too reason being thot you know they are satisfied, Which in return satisfys you. It gets dangerous when he starts to think you have gangbang fantasies and pushes you into doing them. It’s kind of ironic tho cuase low self esteems causes this but it take real acceptance of ones self to admit that you can’t please the women you love so you put her needs before yours cuase your scared that is she’s not pleased she’ll leave you. It’s a vicious cycle... good luck
It's not right that he didn't talk to you about it. My boyfriend is into the same thing. He loves for other guys, or girls to touch me, want me, and even have sex with me while he watches. It doesn't mean he loves you any less, it just turns him on that everyone wants what he has, and they have to ask his permission to go further.
As for protecting you, that's based on the relationship. My boyfriend still protects me with his life, we just have fun. But, I am also into it. I used to think it was odd, but I kept an open mind. We are stronger than ever, he is on dating sites, and we decide what girls we want. We decided what guys can have me.
Ugh. Dump him. Most of that is bi/gay guys looking for a way to straddle the exit to the Closet.
Also, how TF is he caring when he treats you that way?
That would be a deal breaker to me since I would want the guy to be possessive of me (and me of him).
go ahead and dump him.
i'm a cuck but i always ask the girl I'm with if thats something she is ok with. most times i meet couples though. Its a lot hotter when a guys with my girl in front of me though.
Now if someone was trying to hurt my girlfriend or a burglar came in, i would protect her of course.
If it was a fantasy and your girlfriend didn't want to do it could you deal?
no its what i enjoy
I don't think it would be the same with an actual rape. With that there's the implication that the perpetrator is dangerous and you or your boyfriend are in physical danger so I don't think he'd literally stand there and jack off while it was happening and he'd do what most guys would. Fight or at the very least call the cops.
Then again I'm not into that type of thing so I'm not totally sure.
The bigger concern should be he asked his friends to do those things to you without your permission.
Search your feelings. Can you live with it? Can you live knowing that he would never protect you and would rather submit to others? Do you like the guy freinds doing that to you cause they will only get worse and more sexual.
If you don't like it and he knows he needs it then RUN!
Few guys are like that but some are. If you can stand it then talk to him and only let a freind that you like and trust to play with you that way. With him you would always have another guy showing him up. Maybe being dominant with him in bed might help but some day he will want you to have sex with another guy in front of him.
im not a cuck, and im not in to cucking, trump voters are cucks though