So when we have sex and she is on top, she now masturbates. Is that a sign she isn't enjoying sex?

So we have only done a it a few times, but after the first couple of times she rubs her clit when she is on top. Does that suggest she isn't enjoying it?

Yes, that is a sign.
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  • Most women need direct clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. When she is on top with her torso vertical, she can get clitoral stimulation by moving back and forth horizontally, but that will probably not be very arousing for you. She can get you more aroused by pumping up and down in a vertical motion, but that won't give her much clitoral stimulation.

    What she is doing is focusing on getting you aroused and compensating by masturbating herself. And watching a girl masturbate gets many guys extremely aroused. You shouldn't be complaining.

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  • Not a bit. Many/most/some women need and want the extra stimulation on their clitoris to reach orgasm.

    But, that's not actually the point. You should be celebrating: you are with a woman who is confident enough with her body to know what she needs and wants and go for it. More importantly, she's an active participant in your sex life. Finally, she trusts you enough to do that both trusting that she can be vulnerable with you and also trusting you enough to not worry that you're not pleasing her.

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  • Like others posted most women need clit stimulation to cum, just penetration doesn’t work for them. Enjoy it, play with her, get some toys like a wand or or a vibe cock ring and try it

  • Just adding to the fun, I'd say!

    Sounds hot to me!

    Try doing it for her, see what happens.

    There's a world of exploration just waiting for you out there.

    Go explore!

  • She is just enjoying it more. I love it when a woman rubs her clit during sex.

  • No, it's what she wants to feel so she can cum.

    It has nothing to do with you. I've even seen lots of porn where the guy has a perfect dick and she's still rubbing her clit because she likes it.

  • Kinda, it suggest that penetration is not enough for her but at least she enjoy something.

  • Some women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm.

    • Wouldn’t it be more enjoyable if the woman taught the guy how to do it with his hands? I’m just thinking it would be more relaxing if someone else was doing the work and she was just enjoying it.

  • The question is: why aren’t you using your hands to take care of that for her, especially now that she’s giving you the hint?

  • On the contrary, that means she IS enjoying it, and is excited enough to play with herself in addition to riding you.

  • It is maybe what she sees in porn.

  • Not at all a sign she's not enjoying if she masturbates while on top. By the way I love this position, and I love it when she fingers then. The lady masturbating is somehow a way to add some extra stimulation, which allows the guy to take on a slower pace and enjoy with her. Sorry for not having the words to explain more clearly ;0)

  • She’s enjoying it but she wants a boost 😉👍

  • The fact that she masturbates while having sex means she’s comfortable with you and isn’t afraid to do what it takes to get off. You should be happy about it and know that it has nothing to do with your performance. Ask her what she likes and encourage her to share her fantasies. Never shame her for anything she shares with you and always encourage her to communicate her needs and wants.

  • Bruh... Am I the virgin or are you? 🧐 SMH.

  • Nah she probably doing so when she's orgasm it more intense. It also might help keeping her wet or making her wetter until you cum in her.

  • Yes probably. You make it more intense. Don't even make her think about using a finger. Fuck her brutally

  • She’s just helping things move along. She’s just doing some direct stimulation so that maybe she can climax at the same time that you do. It’s a lot of fun that way.

  • Ni, it just means that she derives the most pleasure ribbing her coit while she rides you

  • No that means she IS enjoying it

  • Just means she can get more pleasure. Nothing wrong with more pleasure

  • Yes, nut then why aren't you doing it for her. Don't just lay there.

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