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So my boyfriend will be turning 21 next week and his friends wants to take him to the strip club. I was happy for him and said he should definitely go, I even searched strip clubs that was near by. But he said no because if he goes he will be cheating on me. Is that really true?
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68 142yes it is. he sounds like a good boyfriend
After reading everyone's comment I'm starting to understand everything and thank you.
yeah with how some of those strippers get pretty personal or touchy depending on what kind of dollar bill you toss them. some married women hate those things
If you look at another with impure intentions, you've already cheated in your heart.
Have you asked him if he would be sleeping with any of the strippers? It wouldn't be cheating if he just gotta lap dance or two.
I haven't asked him that but I did ask why he thinks it's cheating and he told me, that he wouldn't feel right going because he's with me.
Don't think this is cheating if there is no sex or emotion involved however I would probably take my girlfriend to the strip club with me and buy her a fair share of lap dances as well lmao.
Its really how you look at it. If he is just throwing money on her and watching her dance then NO. However, if she is grinding on him or wants to give him sex then Yea
Strip clubs aren't that big of a deal. But it's up to your boyfriend to decide if he wants to go or not.
Yes that is true, I even told him that I now understand his feelings about strip clubs and will be supportive with his decision.
Nah, at least I don't see it as such.
Whether or not it's even close to cheating depends on your area and how much the clubs get away with.
Since you've said you're okay with it, though; golden. 😎
Here's my personal rule:
Lap dance from a STRIPPER= not cheating. she's just doing her job
Lap dance from a random girl in the club= cheating
Simple as that.
But just to confirm what other people have said: YES, if your man gets a lap dance from a stripper her bare breasts will be in his face, her ass will be on his package and she will caress him a little. Just know that she is just doing her job and DOES NOT want your man at all. But if knowing this makes you uncomfortable, say something to him.
Thank you and actually I still want him to go though, I mean I figured women might be nude and he will get a lap dance I just didn't understand strip clubs and being related to cheating. But after remembering our conversation and reading everyone opinion. He really just don't want to go. Even with my permission and knowing that I'm okay with it he still doesn't want to go.
What is the difference exactly? He's receiving the same thing isn't he? So since he paid for it it's not cheating? So a prostitute would be ok?
@TuMeManques prostitution is a different story because it's sex work. Stripping, contrary to popular opinion, is not sex work (it doesn't involve having sex with the patrons). But duh. If my man were to hire a prostitute, that'd be cheating.
I agree with you @misstalia_95
So what's the difference between a lap dance from a stripper or any other girl? That's where I'm not following your logic?
@TuMeManques I explained in my opinion...
Because it's her job. That's the difference for her, not for him. Either way he walks away with a lap dance from another woman. The emotional level/connection is exactly the same for him. Your explanation makes zero sense...
@TuMeManques going into a strip club and rejecting a lap dance is like walking into a restaurant, sitting down and not wanting your server to serve you My reasoning makes perfect sense, you're just slow AF
Right... exactly why he shouldn't go to a strip club... You still haven't told me the difference by the way. Guess I'm not the only slow one. Either way he gets a lap dance or to use your analogy It's okay to get food at a restaurant but not eat at a friend's house lol whatever
@TuMeManques I don't know how many other ways I can say this but here I go: a strip club is a place of business and a lap dance is one of the services offered. How can you logically say that paying for a service (done by an EMPLOYEE) at a place of business is cheating? And before you bring up prostitution (again), prostitution is exempt from this whole discussion because it's illegal. Make sense now?
So if he goes to a prostitute where it's legal say in Amsterdam then that's fine. Thanks for clearing that up lolol
@TuMeManques believe it or not, it would be. Happy? Now stop embarrassing yourself by picking a fight with someone almost half your age.
Actually prostitutes are really independent contractors so that still doesn't work. Oops.
offer to go with him if your not the jealous type let him know you trust him even if he doesn't trust himself
In my opinion: If a man has his eyes on another woman, he's already thinking about it. Now, there's nothing wrong with admiring beautiful people, but going to a place where sex is advertised already encourages one to commit adultery. I went through this with my ex, I told him I was fine as long as he went with a few friends and was home at a decent time. He stayed out all night and woke up next to a stripper in her car. I still forgave him, but he went out again and again behind my back.
Sorry I got a little off topic, but it's all dependent on the mindset and "rules" that you two put into place before the celebration begins. Best of luck!
I wouldn't say it's inherently cheating but its a pretty scummy thing to do behind your girlfriend's back or if she disapproved of it.
Only if they are hookers also and he pays for sex. Otherwise, I think it's pretty harmless. I mean it's not my favorite place my guy goes to (2-3 times/year.) but he took me to one last month and it was fun.
They breed the entertainment of the idea of sex as something to be used for power and exploitation, and for self-serving agendas. That by itself makes them a bad thing. If he's with you, he shouldn't be soiling his attitude about the purpose of love and sex at all. But especially not with other women.
I'm about as single as it gets right now, and I don't dare set foot in one. I feel like it'd be dishonorable to the wife I may or may not have in the future.
No. most certainly not. Your not naked. You can't have sex with them. Your not emotionally attached to them.
I am 48. I have never gone to a strip club since I just don't see the reason. Why over pay for drinks, see tits I can't touch, and just get frustrated? Also, it is very awkward staring at tits when your not being physical with a woman. I was at a bachelor party where they hired a couple of women to get drinks and be topless. If your going to put a naked woman in front of a man, he is going to look. so she brings the drinks and I have to try and pretend I am not looking at her tits? it was just weird.
You're 48 years old. Learn the difference between 'your' and 'you're'.
@deathcat42 Haha, I second that
Depends on peooples view/definition of cheating I guess, remember my ex girlfriend wanted to take me to a strip club but I wasent interested. Be kinda funny an ironic in a way if in that case it would be considring cheating by me, cause only reason would go was for her sake then.
woah whats wrong with my keyboard at times (certainly not my typing skillz) >.> <.<
It all depends on what you do. Just watching/chatting/tipping girls isn't cheating. If you were with a dancer that does more for $$$ then obviously that is cheating.
From the bachlorette videos with male strippers I've seen... the women cheat more than the guys.
Yes IT IS cheating. And if he goes to a strip club things will be ugly. I hope he doesn't mind me flirting with his friends.
Exactly! As long as you don't have sex anything goes right? It makes no sense to me.
Lol ur crazy and insecure. And flirting with friends is way different, any man is better off without women like you haha dump him and do him a favor, I go to the strippers with my girl and make fun of strippers it's fun lol
@Mikeeboyy oooooo I so wish I cared what you thought about me 😂
@TuMeManques You will win every man you're with leaves you because you're a psycho crazy woman, or you'll end up with a man with no backbone that's a little pussy
@Mikeeboyy hahaha I've been married for 15 years to a guy who is a 7th degree black belt and national champion of Korea in taekwondo lol
@TuMeManques I didn't say he can't kick someone's ass I mean he's a pussy with no backbone because you fucking have him whipped
@Mikeeboyy he seems to thoroughly enjoy it.
He might get TA TA's in the face with the nipples poking his eyeballs out.. might get a lapdance where her tushy is making him hard maybe to the point of explosion... once he leaves though it's all forgotten... LOL
Well hey if he goes and enjoys his experience, I'm happy for him, I hope he doesn't forget though because I would like to know how it went haha.
Wow you saucy little minx!