#Survey What are your thoughts on…?

[DizzyDesii]

Please share your opinion based off what you feel suits you and not what you think others should do with their sex life. Im typically judgmental af but today I just wanna see where everyone stands.
WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON…
1. Saving sex until Marriage?
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love?
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6+ mths?
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths?
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side?
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day?
7. Having others watch you have sex?
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch?
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? 10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? 11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)?
12. Never having sex again?

#FeelFreeToList #DeepDecisions
My Answers #1 I was very big on it but failed. I’d be tempted ro try again but its unlikely. #2 Thats the main goal. #3 Closer to a year but yep that's the goal. #4 Too soon for me but things aside from sex may happen. #5 Must be committed first #6 Absolutely not. #7 Yes but I’d need to be at least engaged #8-10 Absolutely not. #11 Maybe if i was 35+ #12 I’d be okay with that. Its good but overrated.

[VarddaanKaushikk]

1. Saving sex until Marriage? I am not against it , you have your own beliefs so you do what makes you feel comfortable.
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? It's definitely more fun if you're in love with the person you're going at it with.
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths? Definitely agree with this , I'm not going to fuck someone who I don't see a future with.
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? Not having sex until we've been dating for at least 5-6 months.
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? Not fucking someone who's still seeing and checking her options.
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? Against one night stands all the time. I find it senseless and a waste of time , no offense to those who are into this
7. Having others watch you have sex? Against it , it's our personal thing , I'm not going get someone to watch us while we fuck.
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? I won't date someone who's into such shit.
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some?
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? Nope , sex with my partner or die virgin , against friends with benefits. It's gets complicated.
11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)? Nah , 5 years is the max difference for me. No matter how hot / sexy you look , I'm not doing it with you if you're even 6 years older/younger than me.
12. Never having sex again? Nah nah nah. Fuck this question..

[DizzyDesii]

2-6 Perfectly agree 7 Its just so funny how you said rhat 8 i agree 9 lol why’d you skip 10/11 lmao ageee 12 funny af

[VarddaanKaushikk]

Ah shit , I completely missed that , my answer to that would be No for sure. I just don't want anybody else with us. It's just me and my girl and that's it.

[Phoenix98]

1. Saving sex until Marriage? It's ideal and preferable

2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? Absolute minimum it would take is for us to love each other genuinely.

3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6+ mths? Nope

4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? Nope

5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? Nope

6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? Nope

7. Having others watch you have sex? Hell no

8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? fuck no

9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? definitely not

10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for
years (friend with benefits)? Absolutely not

11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)? Nope way to young

12. Never having sex again? Nuh uh.

[DizzyDesii]

Could you see yourself marrying someone in less than 2 years of loving them?

[Phoenix98]

I'd need probably around 2-3 years of being in a relationship with someone before marriage would be something I'd consider.

[DizzyDesii]

Not bad but 4+ is ridiculous unless y'all start off in high school

[Phoenix98]

I mean in my mind if I'm with someone for 3 years and I don't know if I want to be with them permanently then they probably aren't for me.

[DizzyDesii]

Right. I heard people know by year 1 if they want to marry someone. I think thats true because true colors have always showed within months 3-6 and i knew if i wanted to stick around or not

[Phoenix98]

They say most guys know within 3-6 months whether they want to be with you for good.

[DizzyDesii]

Holy smokes

[Phoenix98]

That’s what they say I don’t know if that’s true though.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't be surprised cause i said similar. But I've just always heard guys know within the first year

[Phoenix98]

I mean I think that’s probably accurate.

[Phoenix98]

thanks

[HighlyVolatile]

1. Culturally it's a very unfamiliar idea to me. We don't have this tradition in Japan. I tend to see sex as another and really deep form of communicating and expressing our feelings, so I would feel a bit hindered by saving it for marriage. I've also had partners with whom I was so sexually incompatible, like very kinky women when I'm plain vanilla, and we couldn't satisfy each other very well at all. I would be a bit worried if I didn't discover this until after marriage.

2. That seems more practical to me and something I think I could do a lot more easily, especially if we could still be very affectionate with each other.

3. I tend to think it's maybe more about finding the right moment (to me, the ideal is a very romantic one) than waiting a specific amount of time.

4. This makes a lot of sense to me. I only believe in monogamous dating so just the fact that I'm dating a woman means we're exclusive in a sense.

5. I really think I'm incompatible with the types of women into dating on the side. I strongly prefer that we only date each other and devote a great deal of our spare time together. I often dated women 5 times a week, and sometimes just hung out together after we both finished work and while still in our work clothes.

6. I slept with women I met on the very first day multiple times, typically after dancing together and making out in nightclubs. That said, I never wanted it to be an ONS. I even surprised some women when I wanted to have breakfast together and start dating and becoming an item after. I was kind of an idiot but I think I was even trying to find a potential wife in nightclubs when I was young and dumb.

7. No way, please. Sex is a very private thing for me.

8. No, I find that even worse than people watching us. That is horrifying to me.

9. Only FFM would interest me if so, but I still don't think I actually want it. It's something I prefer left in fantasy land.

10. I would want to become an item if so. I didn't want FWBs. I wanted potential wives.

11. I always clicked most with women around my age. I think our lifestyles are at a very similar point. With ones much younger, I would feel like I am taking advantage. An older one might be possible, but the times I've flirted with women a lot older than me, I think they always thought I was a bit young and naive. Some might have been interested but I think they saw me as trouble.

12. That would disappoint me tremendously.

[DizzyDesii]

#1 but you’d be married and have time to teach eachother #2 yes lots of foreplay can still happen #6 so what was the longest the supposed one night stand lasted after the sex?

[HighlyVolatile]

For #1 I think the trickier part is not teaching so much as maybe the way we're wired, what we enjoy. For example, I am 0% masochist and 0% sadist, and I don't think I can ever change that. I might be able to tolerate it but I don't think I could ever enjoy it. For #6, I think 4 months was the longest. Those never lasted long for some reason. I think the problem is that we became so physically attracted so quickly (not just the sex but starting by dancing in a loud place) and with impaired judgments from alcohol before really talking and getting to know each other. Probably we never would have gotten together in the first place if we started out talking a lot.

[DizzyDesii]

Im not into bdsm at all. I meant simply teaching them how to treat your body.

[HighlyVolatile]

Oh, I see! Well, the ones I'm so incompatible with are the kinky ones. I tend to strongly dislike all forms of kink: hardcore vanilla. That said, in a culture that valued abstinence before sex, maybe the women wouldn't be so kinky in the first place and it might be fine.

[HighlyVolatile]

I test like this: == Results from bdsmtest. org == 97% Dominant 73% Vanilla 67% Daddy/Mommy 54% Voyeur 45% Owner 42% Experimentalist 37% Exhibitionist 35% Brat tamer 34% Master/Mistress 31% Primal (Hunter) 16% Ageplayer 1% Rigger 1% Brat 1% Non-monogamist 0% Rope bunny 0% Slave 0% Degradee 0% Boy/Girl 0% Primal (Prey) 0% Submissive 0% Masochist 0% Degrader 0% Pet 0% Sadist 0% Switch I am kind of a skewed type so it was kind of difficult to find someone most sexually compatible with me. My wife is extremely compatible though. She's all sub and as vanilla as I am.

[HighlyVolatile]

I've actually only really enjoyed sex with two women in my life even though I slept with so many more. The first one I became engaged to be married but it didn't work out, and the second was my wife. The main problem for me is that I see sex as the most intimate form of communication possible between two people. Yet so many women I slept with would start to act differently in the bedroom. They become totally different characters. And I don't recognize them anymore, and so much of the desire and deep connection I built for them get lost quickly in that moment. It feels like they are putting on an act, and this is when I want a woman to expose her truest heart and soul to me, not put on an act. So I could still get a basic physical stimulation from it but it was only about as satisfying as jerking off. The connection just wasn't there most of the time, and that was even when we had a very strong connection leading up to that point. With the two women I described, the connection wasn't lost in the bedroom. They opened up their hearts to me there and didn't act differently at all. They even smiled and laughed.

[DizzyDesii]

I had a lot of relationships but only sex with 2. The sex wasn't bad but i regret having ever dated either of them although it was like 2 years each. One didn't even get sex until after a year and a half. I agree that people change when in the bedroom. If anything, true colors show and i realize i was likely being used. I had a strained emotional connection with the 2nd because we had grown tired of eachother before the sex came. But the sex was oddly a fresh start... short term until he thought i was pregnant. Then true colors showed again. With the 1st, the emotional connection was apparently one sided because i loved him and he loved using me.

[HighlyVolatile]

Those changes are so jarring to me since I might be borderline demisexual. I get most physically attracted to the girl with the sense that I'm really starting to know her on some deep level. It doesn't require us to be together for years but we have to click in a really big way, like a soulful conversation and the way we dance and look into each other's eyes. So when she changes so much in the bedroom, it actually makes me lose almost all the physical attraction almost instantly. I am like, "Who are you? I want the girl I was with earlier back. She's the one I wanted to sleep with, not you." I think I'm rather extreme on whatever this type of thing is. I can still be attracted to women on a basic caveman level like, "Nice bod, hubba bubba," but to really want to sleep with her and bare not only my body but my soul to her requires that sense that we're kindred spirits. I've heard many guys on here that they'd like a "lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets." I think I might even prefer a "freak in the streets and a freak in the sheets" to the former because at least she wouldn't change in the bedroom.

[DizzyDesii]

I have to have someone similar to myself in terms of personality and i have to love them and have more than a temporary vibe. Thats what takes months for me. I need to know theyre not faking who they are. And yea im the same. I like someone who gets freaky and public an ddoesnt give a dang what others think. I like good boys who will be bad just for me

[HighlyVolatile]

I think my ideal is closer to "lady in the streets and lady in the sheets", but mostly I just prefer consistency in the streets and sheets. :-D I also got a few starfish before. I think those could probably be taught to open up more in the bedroom. They weren't virgins though which puzzled me, and some far from it, so it was so confusing to me that they'd just lie there and be like, "Here is my body." I didn't manage to succeed much though in teaching them to open up, and it felt like having sex with a robot. The emotional connection flatlined.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao i’ll only be a starfish if im sleepy and he's not. But foreplay will wake me in a heartbeat so give me that before sex and im movin around like the olympics gymnasts 🤣

[HighlyVolatile]

For me, the part that bothers me about starfish is not lack of motion so much as a lack of signs that she's even interested. If she's on the stiller side in sex, that's okay with me, but I want to see her at least enjoying herself so I know I'm not making her uncomfortable. So it's mostly the lack of communication that bothers me so much. I start to question if they're just letting me use their bodies and get out of sex. My favorite is actually smiling and laughing. For example, with the first girl I described where we got engaged to be married, the first time we had sex, we actually tried to kiss each other at the exact same time! She kissed from the bottom leaning up and me from the top leaning down, and so we bumped heads! And then we both laughed at the same time, and actually almost said exactly at the same moment, "Are you okay?" And some people might think that's so unromantic to bump heads and laugh like that, but that felt so genuine and like we were so connected. The connection we had outside the bedroom didn't diminish. It got stronger in the bedroom. And it was a similar case with my wife.

[HighlyVolatile]

* I start to question if they're just letting me use their bodies [/just to try to make me happy].

[DizzyDesii]

Okay that makes sense. I was last a starfish like that when inwas with my first ex. The whole first year of Our relationship, i kept telling him i preferred to wait til marriage and didn't want sex. So he’d constantly pressure me and i’d lie there crying. I wanted him to know i hated it. But he didntcare long as he nutted. And yes i love the bump head stuff. Me and the 2nd sexual Partner did that stuff intentionally from the very first time we kissed and so on til we had sex. I actually fell off the bed doing some upside down move and pulled him down with his dick still in me 🤣 it was painful but we enjoyed it. We couldve worked had he not been rude about the thought of me being withchild

[1988fido]

yes to all except 12 and these XD
#7 if its a girl
#8 no way
9 if its a girl ffm
10 no

[Lliam]

I'm in favor of engaging in a sexual relationship with a lady after a couple of dates if it turns out we're into each other. I wanted to be in a committed, monogamous, relationship that included sex and seeing where things lead from there. Marriage doesn't have to be a prospect. For me, marriage is for life. I would never consider anyone who wanted to wait for true love or marriage before sex. Bye bye. Boyfriend/girlfriend infatuation is all that's necessary.

If she didn't want to commit to a monogamous relationship, I'd cut her lose. I'm not okay with open relationships, threesomes or any kind of sharing. And if she cheats, we're done.

Being watched is not one of my erotic fantasies. I'd give that a no.

I have no ethical issues with age difference, but I guess I do prefer women my age or younger. All my girlfriends were at least 2 years younger than me. The widest age gap I ever experienced was with an amazing woman who was 6 years my junior.
The main problem with being with a woman who is a lot younger would be cultural differences. We might have good sex but, aside from that, we might not have much in common

[DizzyDesii]

So rare to see a guy these days who likes women close in age. Nice to hear. People seem so surprised that not all us women want someone much older

[God_of_Thunder]

1. Saving sex until Marriage? - Haha, no
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? - I tend to do this, anyway
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6+ mths? - Maybe not 6 months, but not right away, either
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? - There you go 👍
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? - Eh, preferably not
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? - Nope
7. Having others watch you have sex? - Sure, if everyone is cool with that. Done it before.
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? - Only if they want to die
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? - Never in a million years. I don't share.
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? - Maybe, but only if we legitimately feel something for each other
11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)? - Sure, but again, as long as there are some feelz
12. Never having sex again? - Just kill me now

[DizzyDesii]

Lol i feel like I read peoples minds. They probably go to comment but then see their comment is the next question 🤣

[God_of_Thunder]

Haha, you keep me entertained while I'm at work. 😂

[DizzyDesii]

I noticed. Im glad too haha

[MCheetah]

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON…
1. Saving sex until Marriage?
Noble for those who do it, but that's not me.

2. Saving sex until you’re both in love?
Admirable.

3. Saving sex until you’re in a long-term, committed relationship of 6+ months?
Also admirable.

4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship that's still in the early stages of 1-3 months?
That's okay, I guess.

5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side?
Not for me. I don't like that and wouldn't want to be with someone like that.

6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day?
It's unlikely I'd ever do that.

7. Having others watch you have sex?
Never!

8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch (a three-some)?
F*k no!

10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)?
No. That'd ruin the friendship.

11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)?
I've done that before, so sure, I guess.

12. Never having sex again?
It's likely I was never going to have sex again anyway.

[DizzyDesii]

I like how you called em admirable 😊

[RobT312]

I like your list!

1. Saving sex until Marriage?- No, don’t care and too late
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? No, Just a connection necessary for me but I’m good with this
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6+ mths? No, too long a wait, not necessary for me
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? No, too long to wait
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? I’m ok with that but I have never done it
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? It’s ok as long as there’s a connection, I have done it
7. Having others watch you have sex? No, I don’t like the idea of it
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? No, I can’t just watch, I’d have to join in
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? Ok, Enjoyable with the right 3 people
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? Never have done this, except in a threesome. The 3rd was my best friend
11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)? Ok by me, but never have done this
12. Never having sex again? That sounds painful, no!

[DizzyDesii]

Thank you. #4 how is 1-3 months too long?

[RobT312]

Well... I have always had sex on the first or second date. Only a few exceptions when I wasn’t too into it just yet

[ohshee]

1. Saving sex until Marriage? no

2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? there's no reaon to be eith that person if we are not in love

3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths? nope
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? I would day yes. But i could never do.

5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? no

6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? I use to have 1 night stands when i was younger not any more

7. Having others watch you have sex? Depends on whos watching and depends on what the girl im going with says

8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? I've done that its not as hot as i thought it was going to be i realized i only want to please 1 at a time.. my fantasies were always ten times better LOL

9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? No

*note 8 & 9 answer reversed

10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? yes

11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)? Yes

12. Never having sex again? What? Lol i love please if i couldnt do that i dont no what i would do lol

[DizzyDesii]

#4 whys that

[ohshee]

Because I just I have just way too much passion inside of me I mean the moment I touch the girl's hand the moment I brush my body up against her so I hold on to her you know walk up behind her and holder and I smell that her hair and I feel that her energy just rushing to my body and if I was just start making out I want to make love I want to let her feel me my whole body naked just so she can feel that energy rushing through her body I mean it's like a puzzle it gets put together very very quickly when you start touching a girl everything just starts coming together and more and more pieces are being added to it and attitude and just to put my lips on her lips are put my lips down on her neck I feel that intense beautiful feeling that I've always talked about and it makes me want to have sex makes me want to please her and waiting until we're exclusive I mean that could take five years who knows LOL no I mean it seems to me that after sex is when that all takes place because I want to know how much I really really like her and I don't know I just don't know don't forget everything I just said I don't know but that that's better answer no because I want to melt her I want to feel that feeling as bad as I want to give it to her

[sunflower00]

1. I would never do it and don’t think it’s a good idea
2. Could be a good idea but again likely wouldn’t happen
3. Could be a good idea but again likely wouldn’t happen
4. Probably a good idea
5. I wouldn’t be with someone who is still sleeping with others
6. Unfortunately done it before (just once) and I don’t recommend
7. Would feel uncomfortable & probably would never do it
8. Absolutely not
9. Wouldn’t do that
10. Would maybe consider it if I was in that situation
11. Not younger, probably not 10 years older either. I’m 21 and the limit would probably be like 27 at the most?
12. Couldn’t do it

[DizzyDesii]

#2/3 is it unlikely because you can't hold out if tempted?

[Jassminee]

1. Saving sex until Marriage? no
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? well initially thats my thought when i was a lot younger like have sex with people u are in love but then the temptation is too strong.
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6+ mths? nope
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? i would say yes but i didn't follow it haha
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? no
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? no
7. Having others watch you have sex? uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh preferably not
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? no
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? if both sides dont mind sure
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? yes
11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)? no, im not really a fan of too old people (more than 5 years, i would say max i would do is like 7 years older)
12. Never having sex again? no

[DizzyDesii]

U said no to almost all lmao. So what do you prefer (even if not listed above)

[melanieeeB]

1. Saving sex until Marriage? Bullshit
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? I don't mind
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths? I don't mind
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? I don't mind, but would be already too long for me
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? Hell nah
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? You do you, but that's nothing for me
7. Having others watch you have sex? Naah
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? 9. uestion BIG NEY NEY, I don't share

10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits) ? You do you, wouldn't recommend tho
11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)? Depends on the person, I will say no but who knows
12. Never having sex again? Isn't that great but not a big problem, I won't die lol

[DizzyDesii]

1-3 months is too long? Lmao

[melanieeeB]

Naah I mean it already takes a lot of time for me, to call that relation exclusive and then additional 1-3 months... come on 😂

[DizzyDesii]

The 1-3 months counts from the moment y'all mutually tryna become something. Official or not

[melanieeeB]

Ohhh okay😅😅 that's fine then lol

[NathanDavis]

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON…
1. Saving sex until Marriage?
... too late for any of that, but it was never a thought... I wasn't raised religious

2. Saving sex until you’re both in love?
... never been with someone I didn't love, first

3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6+ mths?
... always been in exclusive and committed relationships.. but they didn't take as long as six months to "formalize"

4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths?
... that's more like my experiences

5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side?
... never done something like and I don't think I would because I am just not into that

6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day?
... I cannot see myself ever doing something like that... just not my thing

7. Having others watch you have sex?
... I'm no exhibitionist, not that kind of performer either... lol

8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch?
.. my girlfriend was bisexual... but thinking about the idea of seeing here with another girl was merely a brief thought/fantasy in my head, hmmmm... nothing else, lol, so I don't think so

9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some?
... not sure, I don't think so... if I were really interested on threeways, It could have happened time ago

10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)?
... same as before... I don't really think so, if that were a possibility it could have happened years go

11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)?
... it would be possible for me yes, actually... I met someone that happened to be 10 years older than me and we almost became a thing, but other things got on the way, wasn't about age though

12. Never having sex again?
... that does not sound like fun at all, not something I would do to myself by choice... lol

[DizzyDesii]

#2 thats good #3 i put he word longterm because anything less is usually not longterm.

[NathanDavis]

on average, it would take me about a month to know that I want to be with someone... but still give it more time so we can get to know as much as possible about each other, and then I've been in relationships four times... for at least 3 years or as much as five years together

[DizzyDesii]

I have to get to know someone a month or 3. But im referring to when we become official. Once we’re official, thats when i start counting the 1-3, 6+ months i mentioned above. Anything before is just “getting to know” eachother.

[NathanDavis]

well... my second girlfriend did say she wanted to wait on all that, she didn't feel ready for it so she said, if we were going to be something, that... would have to wait maybe a year or two, if I was okay with that and then I said yes.. I didn't mind something like that, because there's so much more things than that but those two years, were more like two weeks.. lol, she did have a change of mind and heart so... I could wait for someone else, but I do not need to wait myself, I would not ask someone to wait for me

[DizzyDesii]

My reason for waiting is because i want to ensure that its what i want to do. To not regret as much (or at all), i prefer to be in love with the person and i wouldn't be in love in less than 6 month. I’d love them but not be in love. I also want to make sure the person is with me for me and not just to get laid. So i feel more emotionally safe to do it when im ready and thats usually sometime past 6 months

[NathanDavis]

that does make sense to me... better to not just rush into things

[DonkeyDan]

1. Not a chance in hell! 2. Nope! 3. Nope! 4. Nope! 5. Yes! 6. Yes! 7. Yes! 8. No way! 9. Not with my partner. 10. Yes, actually my current situation. 11. 10 years younger yes, 10 years older no. 12. Never going to happen!

[DizzyDesii]

#1-6 lmao not what I was expecting. #7 nice #10 are you prepared to lose the friendship if things dont workout?

[DonkeyDan]

It's pretty complicated really, we've known eachother for around 20 years, its been about 2½ year we've been intimate, and until recent it's always been casual. We recently discussed where we are, and both see us being together, but neither of us are ready to commit since our divorces. We've agreed to continue as we are while developing the relationship slowly and be open about everything with eachother. This includes other casual sex and ONS. I agreed to stop seeing my other long term fb as did she, and only have one off encounters, same as her. We agreed to constantly review things and just be honest with eachother, and honestly we're both sensible adults past the game playing part of our lives, I can't see things going south for us, we've known eachother too long and in reality the relationship between us has been a long time coming.

[DizzyDesii]

Well thats good y'all discussed boundaries

[VaguelyAsianLisbeth]

1. I definitely didn't wait.
2. Super valid but not necessary for me.
3. I'm sort of doing that in my current new relationships but I don't think it will be 6 months.
4. Yes the 1 to 3 month range sounds very reasonable to me.
5. I wouldn't mind sex when non exclusive just not going that route in my current poly relationships.
6. Done one night stands in the past but it's just not me I don't like how I feel even when it goes well.
7. Tons of experience being watched.
8. I have been the third party for my best friend many many times and in the process did a fair amount of watching her.
9. I have had many threesomes mostly with my best friend.
10. Best friend with benefits recently turned into my girlfriend.
11. I prefer to stay closer to my own age.
12. At this point in my life I need sex. Not ready to give it up.

[DizzyDesii]

I just say 6 months because that's considered the start of longterm to me

[Aqueeld]

🙈🙈 SHIT U HAD ME GO BACK IN PAST AND THINK SO DEEP ABOUT EVERYTHING 😶😶😶
😕😕I HAVE CHANGED SOO MUCH


1. Saving sex until Marriage?
#This was my thinking before my first relationship... Me and my first girlfriend had this discussion and both were so serious about it that we won't have sex till we get married... But we could not do it... after almost one year of our relationship... We ended up having sex.. 😕😕

2. Saving sex until you’re both in love?
#This was thinking... But after 5 years of relationship... And my break-up I'm 2019.. i we t through so much and i ended up being scared of love and scared to open up to anyone else again... And my thinking about Saving sex untill both of us love changed
3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths?
#past me yes and even longer.. BUT PRESENT ME NOPE
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths?
#AGAIN PAST ME WOULD B YES.. BUT I HAVE CHANGED NOW DO NOO I DON'T THINK I NEED TO WAIT..
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side?
#I WAS SO MUCH AGAINST THIS IN PAST.. BUT NOW I THINK AS LONG AS UR ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER AND ITS MUTUAL.. WE CAN HAVE SEX..
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day?
#IN MY PAST NOT JUST THAT I USED TO THINK NO ABOUT THIS.. I USE TO THINK IF SOMEONE DOES THST IT'S VERY VERY CHEAP... BUT BUT BUT 😕 UNFORTUNATELY MY THINKING HAS CHANGED NOW.. I THINK IT'S OK IF BOTH WANT IT
7. Having others watch you have sex?
#YESSS BUT I AM NERVOUS TOO AND I WOULD WANT TO TAKE IT SLOW... FIRST WE HAVE FEW ROMANTIC MOMENTS IN FRONT OF THEM.. LIKE MAKING OUT AND ALL...
THEN SLOWLY ONCE WE GET COMFORTABLE THEN WE WOULD BE READY TO HAVE SEX IN FRONT OF THEM..
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch?
#I HABE CHANGED... THATS what I THOUGHT... BUT AFTER ANSWERING UR QUESTIONS NOW.. I GOT THINKING... NOPEEEEE NO FUCKING WAY I WOULD B OK WITH THAT... NO NO NO
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some?
# EVEN THIS I FEEL I NOOO.. (IF ITS SOMETHING CAUSAL AND ME AND TAHT GIRL R NOT DATING AND JUST HAVING CAUSAL... THEN I WOULD B UP FOR IT.. AND ONKY IF IT'S HER IDEA AND SHE WANTS IT) BUT IF ITS MY GIRLFRIEND OR SOMEONE I AM MARRIED TO OR SOMEONE I LOVE... THAN ITS A CLEAR NOO 😕😕NO NO NO NO
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)?
#FUCKKK U GOT ME CONFUSED AGAIN... ITS BOTH YES AND NOO
•IF IT'S SOMEONE I HAVE KNOW FIR MANY MANY YEARS.. LIKE MORE THAN 4 TO 5 YEARS... THEN NOPE... I AM NOT SURE IF I COULD DO THAT...
•BUT IF FRIENDSHIP IS NOT THAT LONG AND WE HAD KIT OF SEXUAL TENSION FROM START AND KIND OF ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER TOO THEN YES I AM UP FOR FRIENDS WITH BENIFITS
11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)?
#NOT SURE... I DON'T THINK I WOULD B COMFORTABLE WITH IT.. MOSTLY IT WOULD B NOPE... BUT can't SAY IT CAN N BOTH YES OR NO.. BIT MORE CHANCE OF IT BEING NOOO
12. Never having sex again?
#NOOOO WAYS... I can't SURVIVE WITHOUT SEX.. NOW SEX IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR ME...
SO I can't B WITHOUT HAVING SEX.. I ABSOLUTELY NEED IT 😋😋

[DizzyDesii]

#1 yep i fcked up too #2 aww dont change it #4 wow #5 laughable but whatver you prefer

[Aqueeld]

Hehe so deep questions 🙈🙈

[Agape93]

1. Saving sex until Marriage?
No way. If I did that, I'd have died a virgin


2. Saving sex until you’re both in love?
I'm definitely good with that. I won't sleep with anyone unless they're tested and clean, I love them and I trust them


3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths?
Fine with me long as the above criteria are met


4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths?
See answer 2, but I don't do exclusivity anymore


5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side?
Fine by me long as my rules are adhered to on the matter.


6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day?
No, I don't do that anymore. I made mistakes when I was younger but thankfully nothing came of it and I won't risk my safety any more


7. Having others watch you have sex?
Depends


8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch?
Depends as well


9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some?
Long as my usual criteria is met I'm good with it


10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)?
Oh I'm definitely fine with that


11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)?
Good with that, and have


12. Never having sex again?
Why, is something wrong with me then, besides the obvious mental health issues? Lol not good with me

[DizzyDesii]

#1 how so lmao #2 wonderful #4 are you more into open relationships? #6 yea im glad you’re okay. I refused to sleep with a cheater again after my ex. I was so thankful i didn't catch anything. #10 but what if the friendship gets ruined? #12 🤣

[Agape93]

1. I don't believe in marriage nor do I want it. So if I waited for marriage to get laid, I'd be a virgin until death. 4. Yeap. Consensual non monogamy. They know the score before we even start dating. 6. Agreed. Not my proudest nor my best idea ever. 10. If it does, it does. It'll suck but i5s whatever. But my best friend and I have been going strong in that regard regard 11 years without issues. Though if he dropped me, in all honesty I'd likely clock out. He's my everything 12. Lol figured that would get a a chuckle

[Dargil]

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON…
1. Saving sex until Marriage?
*I am good with it if we can run the bases in the mean time (meaning mutual oral).
2. Saving sex until you’re both in love?
*Hard to define that. But fondness should be present. At least being "in like".
3. Saving sex until you’re in a long-term, committed relationship of 6+ mths?
*That's fine, but I am willing to wait t marriage as above.
4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths?
*I don't see "committed after 1-3 months. Takes longer,
5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side?
6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day?
*Never have, never will.
7. Having others watch you have sex?
*Naah. I'm not that entertaining.
8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch?
*Good G0d no.
9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some?
*Good G0d no again.
10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)?
Regardless of the gibberish, that IS a committed relationship. Must be exclusive, though.

11. Having sex with someone 10+ years older/younger than you (of legal age)?
*As long as they are not underage, OK.
12. Never having sex again?
*Good G0d no again, again.

[DizzyDesii]

#1 of course foreplay is still able to be done #4 i see committed after 1-3 months but i dont consider anything under 6 months longterm

[Dargil]

We agree more than we don't.

[DizzyDesii]

Lol yea

[Shiver]

1. Pretty unnecessary for me personally. Don't see any appeal in it.
2. Meh, overrated concept.
3. Stupid to just wait for the sake of waiting.
4. Really not something I would do.
5. Casual dating is pretty much my thing.
6. Sometimes it's fun, other times just a bad idea that turns out a shitty night.
7. Yes, I'm an exhibitionist. Lol
8. Not something I've tried, nor have really wanted to try.
9. That's just an epic W.
10. This is one of my favorite types of relationships.
11. I am horni for this.
12. S t o p

[DizzyDesii]

#3 its not for the sake of waiting. Its to make sure you love and trust someone to give them a special part of yourself. Otherwise you're just letting someone temporarily use you again

[humpbackjack]

I’ve done all the ones most people would think are bad to me sex is sex meant to be fun and dirty safe but dirty and love is something different you can have one without the other

[exitseven]

1) I would not wait until marriage
2) I would wait until we were both in love
3) I would wait to be in a committed relationship. It may not take 6 months for this
4) I would wait until we were exclusive
5) I would not do it if we were not committed or if I was also dating somebody else.
6) I had a one night stand with someone Just met. I would not do it again
7) UI would not let other watch
8) I would not have a 3rd party have sex with her while I watched
9) I would have a threesome with two girls
10) I would have sex with a female friend that I had known for along time under the right conditions
11) I would have sex with somebody older or younger if we were in a relationship
12) I would be bummed out if I could never have sex again.

[DizzyDesii]

#9 have you ever had a threesome? #10 Are you prepared to lose that friendship if things go sideways?

[exitseven]

I have never had a threesome but it is one of my fantasies.

[strawhatEli]

1. Saving sex until Marriage? - Not sure.

2. Saving sex until you’re both in love? - Yes, but like I prefer it to be a little longer than a fewer days cause love can happen at first site.

3. Saving sex until you’re in a longterm, committed relationship of 6 mths? - Not necessarily

4. Saving sex until you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship thats still in the early stages of 1-3 mths? - Most preferably, commitment is the key.

5. Having sex even though you’re not yet exclusive and one or both of you may be dating someone on the side? - No.

6. Having a one night stand with someone you just met that same day? - May be (a very thin possibility), if both of us are available & click at the very first instance. A good possibility of things other than sex.

7. Having others watch you have sex? - Nope.

8. Having a 3rd party sleep with your partner while you sit aside and watch? - No

9. Having a 3rd party join for a 3some? - No

10. Having sex with a friend you’ve known for years (friend with benefits)? - It didn't happen for years, so why now?

11. Having sex with someone 10 years older/younger than you (of legal age)? - Sure, why not? The older, the more experienced.

12. Never having sex again? - Not sure.

[DizzyDesii]

#2 love and in love are not the same though #6 would you not want to get tested first? #11 soooo not true

[strawhatEli]

2. Oh I get it what you're trying to say, yes then I would say it's not necessary to wait till both are 'in love'. 6. Use of protection & no oral sex in such a case IG. But if tested then why not? 11. Yes I get it, but I am attracted to women older than me, although till date have only dated a two-three like that and never had sex with any of them.

[DizzyDesii]

#6 oral is extremely intimate in my opinion and not the to done with just anyone. I guess some people just dont care

[strawhatEli]

It varies from person to person, someone may find oral more intimate, for me cuddling, kissing, etc is more intimate 😅

[DizzyDesii]

Kissing is waaay more important of course which is why i dont just kiss anybody. But same goes for oral. Im not putting my mouth on just anyones genitals. Its like y'all out here just hoping to catch a disease or something

[strawhatEli]

I said right, until I am not sure about tests, I don't do oral 😅