Tips for having sex for the first time?

[Anonymous]

I like this guy and we both trust each other, he knows I’m a virgin. We both want to have sex, I just want to know any tips, like stuff you wish you did during your first time?

[integrale77]

First of all don't have any high expectations for the first time it might be uncomfortable, painful even and you might even bleed but know things will only get better.

Things to do to make it better and minimise the above. First of all lube if your apprehensive you might not get as wet as you need to be don't be afraid to use lube.

Second thing is foreplay this helps you get wet and is a perfect time to introduce some lube if he's apprehensive about it you can show him how good a hand job is with a little motion lotion, he can add some to his fingers to play with your pussy this will have you lubed up ready for sex.

Finally masturbation is good to prepare with especially using toys. It will help you get ready for penetration, and it will help you understand the sensations you will feel during sex. I've heard of women who can't orgasm simply because they are not willing to loose control not even for a moment. Knowing what will happen saves you from panicking when something unexpected happens.
You also know how to get off better and can guide your partner if they are doing something wrong.

Also a big part of sex is mental so just setup for it to be a comfortable relaxing experience that either of you can stop at any time if it gets too much.

[Asker]

I have masturbated with sex toys, can I still bleed my first time?

[integrale77]

It's difficult to say but I'd say less likely

[Dargil]

A nuts and bolts, non-romantic answer.
*Be prepared for things to go wrong and don't be anxious about it. You are on the same team with the same goal. Be prepared to say: "Better luck next time."
*Foreplay will help prepare you. If you are doing oral, now is a good time.
*When first entry arrives, butter up with water base personal lube. You will likely be very snug and you don't want any abrasion. Don't rely on nature alone to make you wet.
*I favor this position because it distributes his weight comfortably for you. It also gives you some control.

*You should agree that you control how this goes with pre-agreed coaching words for "enough on this push" and "try again". We used a firm OK! for "enough" and a softer Ok. for "try again".
*He should enter you in a series of short pushes; a little farther each time, not all at once. It may take several and you may not get him in at all on the first session if it becomes too uncomfortable for you. Be prepared to "regroup" for later or another time.
*The last push will likely pinch and will be "stretch-and-give". Once he is in, he should stay in and not withdraw and re-enter if that "stretch and give' pinched a lot, because it will happen again withdrawing and re-entering. Better just to enjoy the ride the first time.
*One more thing. First times for a virgin guy may result in instant ejaculation before he even gets in (it did for me). Suggest to him he masturbate in the morning before you are together that night so he doesn't have a quick trigger. Good luck.

[Asker]

If I've masturbated with a dildo will it not be as painful?

[Dargil]

If the dildo is about man size, yes. It's width, not length, that matters. You are ahead of the game. Don't forget to lube, however. You can do that on the potty before you begin sex.

[maceygirl]

Do it missionary style, with him on top, thrusting himself into you
Save the other positions (like cowgirl) for subsequent times when you are more comfortable with the whole idea of having sex
One thing I wish I would have known was to "warm myself up" a bit more before, then it would have felt better. I was wet before he inserted, but it could have felt better if we would have done more before penetration.
Also, I dunno what your condom situation is, but don't expect him to be able to pull out in time if you guys are having sex without a condom.

[ushagomez]

Well to me it rather depends what have you been doing together so far. If you have already been enjoying oral sex and everything like that then it is a small step. If however you haven’t even seen and played with each other naked it’s a big step.

For me, we worked up to it over several weeks stopping short of him entering me. We decided to keep that for a special and wonderful moment, which was my most favourite birthday present ever.

[Bad_Man55]

Bottom line you have to be confident and feel what you want and act on it. Any guy regardless of his experience wants the girl to be satisfied that makes the sex the best when she gets off

[Dinklex3]

Wish I had lube.
I was super anxious, nervous, and refused to let him eat me out.
Was obviously tense and couldn't get it in. Tried again a couple days later with lube and was able to get it in. Had to use it 2 more times after that until I was able to relax, lol.

[Valnac]

Use lots of foreplay, make sure you get sexually aroused and soaking wet.
Then I suggest you get on top to control how deep you let him inside you, and to control any pain.
I used this on one virgin and she loved it and thanked me.