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Sexual Health What do guys think about girls who've been sexually abused?
Anonymous
So many girls have been sexually abused during their childhood and it's a huge burden for them to carry. Sometimes even when they don't remember specific moments of the abuse, they still deal with the long term effects of it. Some have intimacy issues, commitment issues, or turn to promiscuity because they were taught at a young age that that's what they are useful for. Others become avoidant and do not get close to anyone at all. I was just wondering, what do guys think about girls who have been sexually abused? Do they feel bad or do they even care? I have a feeling it scares some guys to be in a relationship with a girl who's been molested or raped. Am I right?
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What Girls & Guys Said
5 29i just feel pity for them and respect, just as i respect other women
It will okay to date with you, if you don't bear the abusing pressure on your mind and don't react bad while I touching you
My first thought is to hold them tight and let them know that they are safe with me. I want to be their protector.
maybe also some boys have been sexual abused earlier and they have also ill sexual behavior because of that and have problems to work out a health sexuality. maybe those guys are more into girls what are early victims and they don't want a good sexual relationship because both know it won't work and so they maybe can handle what happened better?
Generally speaking, I don't believe women who claim to be victims of sexual assault because the vast majority of women who claim to be assaulted turn out to be lying to excuse poor choices. Real sexual assault is rare. It happens to less than 0.8 in 1000 women. That includes bullshit like "Hey nice tits" as part of the definition of sexual assault. The definition of sexual assault and rape have been so skewed that it's easy for a female to claim that ANY interaction with a male is sexual assault now. You have femintwats claiming that a guy saying "Hi Beautiful" on the street is sexual harassment, ffs.
If a female has been actually sexually assaulted, then obviously I would feel bad for her having to have gone through that, the same way I would feel bad for a male who was sexually assaulted by a woman.
I know stupid things like that happen they cause the misconceptions about real sexual abuse. When it happens to anyone (boy or girl) as a child, they have no control of what is happening to them. And if they are accused of lying or blamed for it, the effects of it can cause them to have very low self esteem as adults
It's slightly different when it's a child because children need to feel safe coming forward. When I was stating I generally don't believe women I am talking about females 16 and up because at that point they know enough to lie to avoid trouble.
It doesn't bother me because i know how hard it is
- we feel really bad for them.
- we feel very uncertain how, if in a relationship with them, to behave in a normal sexual way
- we feel very guilty about our more aggressive sexual impulses.
Because of the above... some guys - especially more experienced ones tbh - avoid dating girls who they know have been abused, not because they look down on them, but because they are concerned about the impact on the relationship.
no it dosent scare me