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Sexual Health What does it mean if a female friend puts her feet on your crotch area/lap deliberately? What if she sucks her finger and flirts with you? PLS HELP!?
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1. One of my female friends (let's call her L) is a feisty attractive Spanish girl. I get on well with her, because I listen to her. Some of the others in my hall (including her friends) find her a little too talkative. I do think she is hot, but I didn't think of her in that way, not as a potential gf. She's been getting touchy and I'm not sure what it means. She has texted me saying she wants to see me, but when I get there nothing happens except talking. L once asked me to carry her when a couple of us were hanging out, although I didn't because I get a bit nervous round her for some reason. Two days later, L puts her bare feet on my crotch during a game of cards in public. It felt soooo good. I got a phone call though and had to get up. I was literally finding it hard to keep calm. She sucked her finger suggestively at breakfast the next day from across the room! 2. I fancy a few girls in halls and she knows this. She seems to walk into a conversation I am having with my crushes and blanks the other girl, essentially interrupting proceedings! She only does this with hot girls. 3. She seems adamant to block me meeting a crush I have on her course. I was told by three friends that this girl has similar interests to me. I saw a picture and she is beautiful! All 3 said that L should introduce met to her. L who up until this point was happy to discuss me meeting other girls, quickly changes the subject "No she's not his type". I was hoping crush girl would be invited to a party at halls (as she invited L and the others to her own birthday party), but nope. 4. At a bar night out, she asked if she could put her legs on me to rest and wanted me to sit next to her so she could be close to me at dinner. 5. As well as fantasizing about meeting my crush, I now keep thinking about female friend L. But... get this, I just found out from someone else that she has a long distance boyfriend! For some reason, I keep imagining her giving me head.
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Imagine if I was sitting down. My legs go out in a V shape with my torso at the base of the V. L put her bare feet on the base of the V, one foot right there, another touching the left leg slightly. She kept them there for a good 40 minutes. It was so hot, but so hard (literally) to keep calm for so long!! Does she want me? She has done this twice, but I am still waiting/hoping for round 3.
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I don't like her. Although the thought of her sucking is hot.. I don't want to do anything/have anything to do with her. She is flaky and a blocker and a poor friend. I just want her out of my head and to be able to think about and talk to other girls!
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16 21She's tryna fuck bruh. Go get it.
How can you be sure though? I don't know. I prefer the girl on her course who is hotter and nicer too. This girl is manipulative isn't she? But the thought of her going down on me is hot. I have masturbated about it. But I don't like cumming to the thought of her? Thoughts?
She wants you
Based on?
But I don't want her?
How do I get a girl to put her feet on my crotch I did before it felt good
wow what a bitch she is... she has a boyfriend and still does things with you...
I don't like her either. Why did I think about her when masturbating the other day? It felt hot, but afterwards I regretted it and didn't want to cum to her. I guess I don't like her then?
i just think that you should stay away from her as she might get you in trouble... i mean if she was single then i would say "dude fuck her"... but she is not... she looks unhappy but thats her problem... so dont be a part of her problem :D
Agreed. I don't even want to bang her if she was single tbh. She's very flaky, not out of this world attractive in my opinion and she is a poor friend with all this blocking me meeting a nice girl on her course. I just want her out of my head. The fact that I don't like to cum to her is a sign I don't like her I guess? What do you think?
yup you are right... you dont like her.. what did you mean by blocking? she blocked you on facebook? is she playing games lol
Yes, that's good news. I fapped to the thought of her sucking me off, but did NOT want to cum about her. I think it's just her teasy touching that got me. Can't stand her little mind games. Blocking as in interuppting conversations with other hot girls. Also she is adamant on blocking me meeting a hot girl on her course who others said would be a great match for me. I think she is jealous of said girl. what a terrible friend!
wow dude she is interrupting in your life by blocking you and all... hahahhaa you better run
Will do. The masturbating about her before, that didn't mean anything did it? I mean it was brought on after her touching me. For some reason thinking about her mouth sucking me is still hot. But I don't cum to that thought. It feels bad.
Obvious flirting
What to do about it? I don't want to go out with her.
You don't find her attractive enough?
I don't really like her personality or see her as my type of girlfriend. I think if I had done it before, then maybe I would bang her if she offered, but I don't want her to be my first time. I find the thought of her giving me a blowjob really hot for some reason though. I have masturbated about her foot rubbing on my crotch and then her sucking me off. There is a p*rnstar who looks like her and I was pretending it was her. But I don't feel happy if I cum about her and so try to change to a picture of a different hot friend instead. Would I bang her? - No unless I had already had sex, even then 60% Would I let her give me a blowjob? - If I was single, 100% Would I want to date her? - 100% No. Is she the one? - 100% No. Why do I seem to enjoy masturbating about her, but not releasing to her? Thoughts/advice?
If I were you I would welcome her advances, declining her would be like a girl rejecting Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum, nothing wrong with casual sex, hook-ups, but its your choice
But for first time? Also in my opinion, she's not stunning or anything. She is feisty and fairly hot. But I think she also tries to block me meeting the girl on her course because that girl is so much hotter. How do I deal with that?
Sounds like she does want you. Girls don't really do that to men they don't want. I know a girl who is just a tease and she doesn't even do that to men if she isn't attracted to them.
So she does want me? I felt nervous when she put her feet on me. And the sucking finger thing was hot. Was she suggesting something? Thing is I keep fantasizing about HER sucking me off. And also a footjob from her. I mean I ended up finding a p*rnstar who looks similar to her and was masturbating pretending it was L. I find the thought of her going down on me very very hot. But for some reason, I don't like to release to her. I prefer changing picture to some other hot girl. Does this mean i don't like her?
What does she want? What do you think I should do? And how do I get her out of my head? Although the thought of her giving me head is hot!
I think you just need to start talking to these girls. I'm an extremely shy girl so I could never do that stuff to men I am interested in, but if I did I would only do it to men I am interested in. The best you can do is start talking to them more. For me, I prefer the communication.
I agree with you. I too prefer communication and flirty glances and then intimacy with someone I like. Not sure what this girl is trying. I don't really fancy her, but for some reason now, I find masturbating about her rubbing her feet on me or sucking me off very very hot? Why is that? Though I don't like to release to the thought of her. What does this mean?
I have met a few girls who I both find attractive and love talking to. Some of them have now started to enter my thoughts. But why do I find masturbating about L hot? I mean, she is fairly hot, but I don't like her! Is it just because what she did aroused me? If I cum about her I always regret it, so I end up changing to another picture to feel happy about a different girl at the end. How do I stop finding it hot thinking about her sucking me?
Any advice or thoughts on why this is so?
She wants you my gf used to do the same b4 we started dating
Dude she wants u to make the move she's teasing Nd feeling horney js go for it next time any of the above happens again
I really don't want HER to be my first time though. It feels hot to masturbate to her, but I don't like releasing/cumming to the thought of her. I want her out of my head.
How to stop feeling horny about her?
Find someone else n js screw them.
Last night, I got excited at the thought of her and fapped to a picture of her and a similar looking p*rnstar. It felt really good and I was pretending it was her and moaning her name. I felt like I wanted her even though it was feeling dirty. When it came to releasing my sexual energy.. I looked at her picture and immediately wanted to stop. I changed to a different picture of a celebrity to cum. I felt happier then. Does this mean I don't like her?
I would faint with pleasure.
I almost did.
Lol. Of course she wants you. She's not exactly being subtle.
What makes you say that? Bullet point list?
Do I want her?
Dude! Putting her feet on your crotch, flirting like crazy, bashing any girl you like, sucking her finger, etc. SO obvious. And you do want her. I don't think it's smart because she's taken but if you have sex with her is up to you.
Thing is, imagine I was sitting down and from a bird's eye view you see a V. Her feet were on the base of that V, one literally brushing the tip of my D. It felt sooo good. Ever since she did that, and the sucking her finger, omg... I bet she gives great head. I keep fantasizing about her giving me a footjob and a blowjob..
But thing is: 1. I really enjoy masturbating to the thought of her rubbing her feet on my dick and then sucking me off. 2. But when it comes to cumming, I don't feel happy if I keep thinking about her the way through. 3. Whereas if I think about her, get hard, and then cum about someone else, it feels more satisfying. Does that mean I am not attracted to her? Why does she block me meeting the hot girl on her course? Is this all just to control me or does she want to suck me off?
1. Would I bang her? = 90% YES. 2. Would I date her? = 50/50 3. Am I in love with her? = 100% NO 4. Would I let her give me a footjob/blowjob? = 100% YES if I were single 5. Would I want her to be on record my 1st time? = 75% NO. I don't think I would want her to be my 1st. That's the crux of it. If I had already done it before or had a girlfriend and was now single and ready for a fling, then perhaps, but I just don't feel a personal connection with her.
Lol bro you're making this way too complicated. You think about Her sexually because you do want her and that's ok. If it's your first time having sex and she isn't someone you want to share that moment with you need to forget about her. Focus your attention on a girl that you think is a better match. Stick to your values and judgement and don't sleep with her just because you're horny. You'll regret it if sex is really important to you and you want to share it with someone special. It does seem important to you from the way you're commenting so I suggest moving on. There will be plenty of other girls who want you, trust me. She sounds like a ton of baggage because she's taken anyways.
I think I would bang her/let her go down on me if she was offering.. if circumstances were different. You're right, it is important to me. I'm resisting and I think it's the right thing to do. I think this girl has a jealousy issue. Does she even like me? She is blocking me meeting the other girl so has scuppered that unfortunately. I will have to wait for another girl sigh. Are you sure I like her? I mean I'm not feeling emotionally connected to her. But I do masturbate about her going down on me.. for some reason the thought of that is so hot. I ended up finding a p*rnstar who looks similar to her to get off to. But when it comes to erm.. cumming.. I don't feel happy unless I change picture to another girl, rather than think of her then. What does this all mean?
Why do I keep imagining her rubbing her feet on my dick and then giving me a blowjob? Why is the thought of HER doing that so hot?
Ok let me try to explain. This girl does seem to have some kind of jealousy issue. I also think it speaks about her character- she has a boyfriend but is clearly ready to have sex with YOU, a guy she is not involved with. She's a hot mess. Stay away. You like masturbating to her because you are a normal guy with sexual needs. It doesn't mean she is ANY good for you though. I'm similar. I'm a virgin and sex is extremely important to me. I dated one guy and we did some physical stuff- heated make out sessions basically. I HATE this guy because he is a complete douchebag, but I still think about whatever we did. I don't want to be with him but he's the only guy I've done that stuff with. I haven't felt like that with another guy before so I don't think it's crazy for me to think about how great he made me feel. Making out felt really good. I'm a girl with sexual needs and its normal to think about stuff like that
You may not have anyone else you can picture doing sexual type stuff with so that's why she seems like a good fantasy right now. At least that's my interpretation of my case. The rubbing feet and blowjob fantasy is just an extrapolation of reality. It felt good when she put her feet there and you liked the sexual feeling. That's why you can masturbate to it so easily. You don't picture her when you want to release sexually because you don't actually want her. You just like the sexual feelings she gives you. I'm the same- I don't think about the douchebag in that sense either
Do not sleep with this girl and do NOT compromise your values. You will regret it. I'm thankful I didn't compromise mine.
Thanks! This makes a lot of sense and is a big RELIEF to me!! I really don't like the thought of me liking her. I'm glad I don't want to picture her when releasing sexual energy... so grateful it means I don't want her. I much prefer to think about another girl or a celebrity. I just wish I didn't have to think about her or find it hot when I do think about her rubbing her feet or sucking. Why is this so? I get that it was recent, but for some reason, I find thinking about her doing that hot. It's really strong and sometimes I actually start thinking about her and like it. I won't compromise. Will stay strong. In any case, won't be around this girl after finish at halls! Any idea on how to get her out of my head giving me head? I don't release to her at least..
Really appreciate this solid advice!! @catpetter do you agree with this? I too think that I don't release to her because I don't actually want her. I think the masturbation is an extrapolation of reality.. her being the sexual experience I have had so far. I think one of my other friends is much hotter and lust for her more tbh. And another girl, I do actually think I have feelings for. I just wish I could remove or not find the thought of L sucking me off hot!
Dude you're getting there but you still over complicate things. L did everything she did to PUT sexual ideas in your mind. So having such thoughts is natural. She knew it would get you to think about her that way. I argue that you would feel this way with just about any girl if she were to do what L did, unless you were EXTREMELY unattracted to her. It's perfectly normal. You do NOT actually like this girl.
If any girl were to come up to you and be very forward you would be aroused and think of that girl instead. I guarantee it. Don't freak out that you find the idea of her being sexual with you hot. She made it that way, bro.
Thank goodness. So I am NOT attracted to her? That's so good to hear. I really don't want to be. Why does it feel so good to think about her and I get hard and imagine HER sucking me off? But I don't want to release to her? I'm worried because I seem to get horny when I see pornstars who look like her as well. I was erm.. moaning "Oh yess L" when watching one. But I always change the video to something else or a picture of a hot celebrity to release. Is there a way to get her out of my head? She did her job well. So stressed with these thoughts.
That is a good point. I mean a different girl I do find attractive and have been flirting with on texts and in person put her arm through mine and called me darling one day. When she video called me, I felt excited. She also kissed me on the cheek at a bar when she was tipsy. I have thought about having passionate sex with her and I like thinking about / releasing with the thought of her or her picture.
Let me put it this way. If you really do not want to be attracted to her, you probably aren't. That's different from like though- some girls can be hot but not you don't want to date them because of their personality. Sounds like neither for you and you're just thinking she's hot because she deliberately acted to get you to think about her sexually
Dude I explained why you imagine her :( it's a somewhat realistic fantasy- you have a girl all over you in real life and it's something to get you horny, because she made you horny in real life. Just like the douchebag for me- he made me horny in real life so I think about him but more how he made me feel just because I have no one else who did that to me. You can get her out by seeing that you're not actually interested and that she's playing games to get you interested! Focus on the cute girl at the bar'
Basiclsly when you masturbate you use her thought to get you horny but because you don't actually want her or are attracted to her, you change the picture. It's simple! Fly through life a free bird now :)
Thanks!!! This helps a lot. I do feel much freer now. Appreciate this!! Respect :D
lol you're such a funny guy. Fly away now ;)
Appreciate your really great advice!! If you have time, could you help me with how to text a girl I like pls? You can find the thread on my profile page.. how to text a girl I like! Thanks!!
I've made some progress. Flirting with another really nice girl. I have also had a few thoughts about her. She is really pretty! Thinking about L is less, but I still found it hot to masturbate about her the other day. I keep visualizing about her sucking me off? It felt soo good and I regret it now. But.. I did imagine releasing/cumming to the new girl. So is this a good sign?
Lol yes It is. Don't be freaked out by wanting to masturbate to her. It's natural. Just about every guy finds how she approached you really hot
And I'm glad you've found the new girl! What's she like and where are you guys at?
But is it all right? I seem to really enjoy masturbating to her sucking me. I think I found her face/lips hot when she sucked her finger. And there's a p*rnstar who looks like her, and I pretend it is L. But I don't want to be attracted to her or release about her. So I guess that's a sign. What do you think? Why do I find it very very hot to masturbate about her?
New girl is really lovely! She's very pretty and I find her fun. Personality wise she is really awesome too. But we're living far apart atm. Trying to flirt when I can!
In regards to the part about L I've covered that the best I can. I don't think I can do much more for you there. Just read my previous posts. I definitely addressed that several times. And I'm glad you like the new girl! Hopefully she's interested back :)
I do! Okay so yesterday I started to think about L for some reason. I was masturbating to a p*rnstar pretending it was her. But as I started to cum, I actually thought, wait L is not hot. In fact I found the thought of me releasing to her disgusting. I now get more aroused thinking about a different hot girl. Is this a good sign?
Thanks! Could you help me out with another question pls? It's about a pretty friend I may fancy living abroad atm. Would really appreciate your expert advice. It's on my profile - the recent question about fancying a girl and erm.. finding her instagram picture hot.
Lol you're funny. Yes good sign. Ok I'll take a look and see if I can find it
Actually I see that you're anonymous now so I can't check your profile. You can message me. My username is asianchic
Thanks will do! Main question is about a different girl. I have a question about L again in a new thread too.
I kept L out of my thoughts for a while, but recently she came up again. I ended up getting off to a p*rnstar who looks like her a few times the other day. For some reason I got super turned on pretending it was L and was loving it? Why is this?
she likes getting guys hard, probably does it to many guys
I too was wondering this. I mean I'm the only guy in halls who hasn't thrown himself at her. Is this what she is doing for attention? Is she jealous I like another girl more than her and trying to block it? I wouldn't mind her giving me head though..
Derp derp derp, what could this all possibly mean, derp derp derp. What should I do, derp derp derp...
What does it mean? I haven't done it before, so seriously is she trying anything or is this all innocent friendly behavior?
She wants sex, dumbass. She's hit you over the head with scandalously blatant clues several times. Sex doesn't just happen, the next time you two are alone and she makes contact with you, do the same to her. Escalate--she wants to fuck, she'll tear her own goddamned clothes off by the sound of it.
Trouble is we are never alone and she keeps doing this stuff!! She sometimes texts me "I want to see you". When I go up to her room, she just talks? I wish she ripped off her clothes and made clear her intentions then and there. That's why I am confused. How do I hint to her/escalate if she does the foot thing in public? I want her to take me to her room and do it in private?
She just talks when you two are alone? Ugh. She's a touch nervous (because who isn't when they're ready to fuck...). And she's waiting for YOU to make a move. Go sit next to her, put your hand on her lap, poke her side, get physically playful (she sounds like the playful crazy type, so don't go romantic style on her). When she starts getting her hands on you (or you guide her hands onto you), go for a playful kiss. Clothes will come off pretty quickly.
Okay this is good advice. Finally!! But I'm worried. If she was being innocent, then I guess I can tell? Should I take condoms or is that too presumptuous? But how do I make sure it is clear that this is physical only? Another thing, I am worried.. I'm not sure I want her to be my first time.
If she was being "innocent" (which she fucking clearly wasn't), then she'll turn you down. She might give token resistance (most girls resist, even if they want to fuck, it's part of the game), but she'll give you clear no if she doesn't want sex. Absolutely take condoms. Have several with you, never just one. I don't step out my door without condoms on me at all times, you should do the same. Clear that it's physical only? Don't take her out on one-on-one dates and be romantic with her. Keep treating her the same. Don't start seeing her more or less. You're not sure you want her to be your first time... Dumbass. Shut up. Shut the fuck up. You don't have to be in love with a girl to have sex, and your first time doesn't have to be some magical fairytale. It's fucking. People have been fucking long before anyone conceived of any rules for fucking. What do you want your first time to be? A Gilded Vagina sent down from heaven? Have fun with a girl who wants fun.
Should I lift her feet and put them on my D? Would that get her excited? Okay, but I'm not sure I want to date her? Rumor mill might start around uni. She's hot, but not my type and I don't want her being clingy. It's bad enough being a friend how much she walks into my conversations with others (especially girls).
Yeah, you can do that. Try less sexual touch first, just to gauge whether she's in the mood first. If she's seems playful and up for being touched, then put her feet on your dick. You don't have to date her. If you don't want that, like I said, don't get romantic with her, don't go out one-on-one and do those sort of things. Sounds like she wants just physical too, don't worry about it. As for people talking, keep your mouth shut. What happens between lovers stays between lovers, no one else needs to know. If someone asks, you simply deny it, tell them it isn't their business. Problem solved. Keep your mouth shut and you're fine.
Got it, thanks for this, really solid advice!! Any other tips on how to get her horny? And would it be presumptuous to take a few flavored condoms with me? How do you transport them innocently? Should I give her an ice lolly or something?
If you are touching each other and she lets you put her feet on your dick, she's already horny. You don't have to make her horny. For condoms, take what you want, nothing presumptuous about it. Just have them in your pocket, you want to be able to get to them quickly, you don't want to have to fumble around a bag and spoil the mood. As for an ice lolly, maybe wait until after the first time. You don't know if she likes BJs yet, so find out what she likes first. Start off with a new partner a touch on the conservative side, then get experimental.
Okay. 1. In terms of BJ, she did suck her finger at breakfast and look at me one day. I'm willing to bet money she would be good at it and am happy to be a guinea pig for her to try it out on! 2. In terms of getting horny with her, how do I just start being playful with her and get us touching each other? Also do I just say hey give me your feet for a second and put them on my crotch? 3. If it comes to us making out and her taking my clothes off, do I just whip the condom out suddenly? And go which flavor?
Okay, last question I can field before I have to go. If it looks like she'd be ok with bjs, cool. Just approach it gently. Never want to come across as pushy. Just joke around verbally, then just poke her on the side--have it be part of a joke. If it makes sense for you to touch her in the context of a joke, she'll be cool with it. Then you just gradually keep touching. voila. When clothes are off and she starts handling your dick, then you say "oh, I have a condom, let me grab it for you" or you just say "oh, wait, hold on a sec..." then grab it. She'll appreciate it.
Okay thanks, great tip on sex and the touching. How would you approach is she's keen on a bj?
She wants your balls in her mouth
What makes you say that? And what should I do?
You should place your balls in her mouth as soon as possible
Advice on how to get cosy with her? Does she want it? How can you be sure?
How?