What does it mean if a guy never wants/refuses to be on the bottom during sex with his girlfriend?

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That's not normal

ohshee · Accepted Answer

It means he's a fool and is missing out on soooooooooooooooo much lol,, one of the hottest things about sex is fore play before sex one if the hottest things is to roll her over on top of you please and guide her hips so her. Pussy lips are straddling ur cock and pull her hips forward and then back. In slowwwwww motion and do not let her put it in pull her down on top of ur hold her tight. Push her back up let her. Move on her own. But do not let her put it in. And that's just foreplay

Dargil · Accepted Answer

It means he loves Cowgirl. As do I. The show is wonderful visuals.

jellyroo · Accepted Answer

Could be a multitude of reasons. Talking directly to the boyfriend about it would be far more efficient than asking strangers who don't know him.
And if he refuses to talk about, could be trauma or something personally embarrassing involved.
At that point, either bail if it's too much of a hassle somehow, or accept it and foster the relationship so that he'd be comfortable to talk about it in the future.

Moonchild714 · Accepted Answer

Lack of Control Dominance

My Ex who was an Manipulative Abusive Narcissist hated being on the bottom, he would say he loved it but the moment he he'd start fidgeting cramping up and we'd have to stop...

AmandaYVR · Answer

That's a problem. It means get out of that relationship, girl.

Almostoverit · Answer

He prefers to be in control. Could also say he has a difficult time with vulnerability, but that's not necessary the case either.

katiesmuff · Answer

It means he is losing out on a lot of extra fun!

Lliam · Answer

He's an inexperienced lover and doesn't understand the joy of different variations.
Or, he has some pathological fear about a woman being in control. Which is stupid, because he can still have a lot of control when she is on top. Plus, he has the advantage of enjoying her tits to a better extent than almost any other position.
Either way, he is a dumb ass.

Red_Arrow · Answer

It means he is missing the best view of sex with his partner!

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

It's normal. My husband likes to be in complete control mostly during sex and that position puts a woman in control.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I have no idea... did you ask him? Maybe he's a bit clausterphobic? Maybe it doesn't feel good? Or... his sister used to beat up on him so it feels bad emotionally?

spartan55 · Answer

It means he secretly a CIA Agent.

Apple1996 · Answer

Probably a control freak and feels the need to be dominant during sex cuz he isn't dominant in any other aspect of his life

ChronicThinker · Answer

I don't think it's "not normal" - I think it's a preference. My man doesn't dislike being on the bottom per se but he really prefers being on top.

i1T2daty · Answer

He needs to have his face sat on by an insatiable woman willing to teach him some manners

ImSparkly · Answer

It means he better be amazing at getting me off on his own, or he's getting dumped. I enjoy cowgirl/reverse cowgirl, and sometimes its the only way I can bring about resolution.

Jjpayne · Answer

I feel like he might be uncomfortable not having a way out like being blocked into a resturant booth. But yeah it is kinda strange...

anonbrunette99 · Answer

That’s so weird... most guys want to be on the bottom. Lazy assholes. But yeah that’s odd.

Blublub · Answer

It could be for a number of reasons. Maybe she’s too big to sit on him

LiamSawyer · Answer

My three most favorite positions are missionary, cowgirl and doggy so at least one out of three.

DictumVeritas · Answer

He has terrible piles.

reptocarl · Answer

Means he’s a piss poor selfish lover

alice55 · Answer

He's just not a submissive, I don't see in what refusing to on the bottom is bad or weird. To me that would be pretty weird if a guy wanted to be a bottom.