What is asexuality?

[unknwown101010]

I came across a youtuber who came out as asexual, to be honest I've never met an asexual person before. From my understanding, they do not feel any sexual desires, so does that mean they just dont prefer having sex? And they prefer to be single? Or could also have a partner? If so would they have sex with their partner? Or they would have a partner but just not in a romantic and a sexual way? But doesn't that count as just being friends? Why and how are they apart of the LGBTQ community? Also if they don't choose to be romantic, do they fall in love? Pardon my shallow understanding about this matter, the internet gives myriad insight which kinda confuses me sometimes, so it's better to hear out explanations from other people :).

[ChrisMaster69]

The entire Asexual this is itself a bit of an umbrella term as it does contain other groups (just to confuse things lol), yes it has its own spectrum which includes Greys and Demi’s (sexual and romantic).

@ms_vanderquack and @lillie_xo have it covered.

https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-asexual#takeaway

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/trvr_support_center/asexual/

https://www.whatisasexuality.com/intro/

I mention Demisexuality as it’s part of the Asexual spectrum but it is or can be sexual (very including kinky)

http://demisexuality.org/articles/what-is-demisexuality/

so just because someone is within the Asexual spectrum does not mean they are not having sex, a lot of people within BDSM community tick the majority of the boxes for Demisexuality.

best thing is to live without labels.

[MrOracle]

An asexual person means they have no desire to have sex. Some asexuals are also aromantic - meaning they don't want relationships either, and prefer to remain single/unattached. Other asexuals want romantic relationships, just not sex. They like the kissing and cuddling and all of the other romantic stuff - they just aren't sexual.

And as far as the "LGBT+ community", there really is no such thing. In the real world, gay men rarely hang out with lesbians or care much about each others issues, and many of both groups have "less than warm regards" for trans folks or transvestites or gender fluid people. The idea that there's one big community that supports all of their various and often conflicting desires is an idea that is purely an invention for political purposes. Few asexuals would self-identify as being a part of that alleged community anyway.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Best as I can explain it asexuality is exactly what it sounds like, the lack of any sexuality. True asexuals are pretty uncommon, but do not feel any sexual attraction. Although they can still enjoy companionship. They are physically capable of having sex and could probably even orgasm. They just don't feel sexual attraction or the desire to have sex. They are part of the LGBT+ community because the LGBT+ is everyone who isn't strictly heterosexual. And yes, they have their own flag. Don't apologize for genuine curiosity, it's rare enough as is.

[Lillie_xo]

okay so the simple of it is
there are lots of different types of asexual people
like there are people who dont want sex and people who only want it
or people who prefer doing sexual stuff alone and dont like doing it with others
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[Inexpensivefurniture]

Asexuality is a bit of a spectrum, and it's different for everyone. Some asexual people enjoy sex, some are neutral on it and may ir may not have it, and others dislike it and don't want to engage in it ever. Some asexual people are also aromantic, meaning they feel no romantic desires either, while others do want a romantic relationship. Those relationships and the level of physical intimacy vary couple to couple. Some may never go beyond kissing and cuddling, others might involve sex. It depends on a lot of things.

The main thing that connects asexual people, or 'ace people' is a lack of sexual attraction to other people. Beyond that, sex, relationships, love, that all comes down to individuals. Aces are part of the LGBT community because they are not straight, though there is some fighting in the LGBT community over whether asexuals are part of the group, it's generally accepted that they are

[Gwenhwyfar]

They don’t have sex or sexual desires but they do masturbate once in a while