What kind of moans do guys like?

[Anonymous]

do guys like when a girl moans? if so.. what kinds of moans? loud.. soft.. medium, etc. explain

reason I want to know is because I've never been very vocal... with my little experience as a 19 year old and only a few sexual experiences that I've had (& they have never ended with me cumming)

this sounds weird but I've been trying to practice when I masturbate to see what's natural n good for me and so far I've gotten a bit better but my noises are just relatively soft-medium

[Obtuse]

I actually don't like the loudest types because it feels like we've disconnected mentally and plus I start becoming mildly conscious of the neighbors. I like to feel connected to the woman, especially during intercourse. Naturally, I'm trying to bring her into ecstasy land if I'm going down on her, and there I don't mind more of a disconnect. But I really enjoy a style of sex where, especially during intercourse, we feel very connected... that things are very two-way as far as how our minds are connecting with each other and not one-way.

[Asker]

omg good answer. that connection and feeling loved etc is quite good

[Obtuse]

There's this feeling I never liked very much where I start to feel, for lack of a better description, like the woman's 'sex toy". I don't like this feeling. That's when I feel disconnected. And I started to get the feeling when I was with women who were very dom and trying to order me around with the way they talked in the bedroom, or just started moaning to the point where they were practically screaming while I feel like she's forgotten that I exist beyond the physical pleasure I'm causing for her.

[Obtuse]

At the same time, I don't like starfish for the exact same reason. The "communication/connection" feels one way at that point, like I can't even tell if she enjoys this or is just laying there for my sake. I want her to be satisfied too. But I like the expression to feel very two-ways like we're both getting a lot out of it... not skewed one way (not on my end as with starfish or on her end as with a screamer or bossy type).

[Asker]

tips on how to not be a starfish?

[Obtuse]

If you express any sort of pleasure at all and participate however you can, you won't be a starfish in my book. I genuinely suspected with the couple I was with that they didn't really enjoy it or learn to enjoy it so much yet... they were trying to do me a favor -- at least I got that feeling. And I'm not the type to take advantage of that. A lot of my sexual satisfaction is tied to the feeling that they are satisfied too, but not to the extent that I feel completely overlooked. As a disclaimer, I'm kind of a peculiar type. My idea of great sex is like "great communication". It's two-way and deeply connected. And I don't consider the highlight of sex to be physical stimulus or even orgasm... after all, if those were my priorities, I could cause that very easily with my own hand and some lube. It's the communication, the ritual, the embrace, and the sense that we're closer to each other than any two human beings can otherwise be: the intimacy of it. And I don't mean that in the most boring, slow-paced, vanilla missionary position. My favorite position is actually Doggystyle. But there is still a way of doing that which feels connected and intimate, and a sense after we both climax that and talk and cuddle that we're closer together than ever before... whereas there's another way it can go down where I feel disconnected even if she's very satisfied. I like sex to be both "hot" and "warm", not "hot" and "cold".

[Obtuse]

The greatest sex always felt the most "genuine". It wasn't rehearsed. It wasn't role-playing. It wasn't an act. It didn't feel like an act. It felt very "genuine". I saw her at her most genuine state, trust me, and I trust her, and it feels like the deepest level of connection and trust two people can have. Actually, my fondest memory of sex sounds kind of cheesy but it involved a time when I was on top of a girl and she tried to lean up to kiss me and I tried to lean down to kiss her at exactly the same moment like we both wanted exactly the same thing at exactly the same time. And we bumped heads like goofballs... then laughed. :-D But it didn't break the mood for us -- instead what followed felt even deeper and more connected mentally as the laughter subsided and we got back into it. That felt among the most "genuine" moments of all my sexual experiences, and I was a bit promiscuous in my 20s.

[ZSean]

Honestly medium is probably the best route. It isn't really only about the moaning that is hot.

My ex used to get vocal too like " fuck yeah keep going" or like "oh fuck" mixed in was super hot sounding.

Just moaning wasn't really the hot part but when she started saying stuff like that kind of out of breath that is the feed back that really got me excited

[Asker]

I feel you. it's the words mixed it that make it what it is getting out of breath is good like that heavy breathing reaction

[ZSean]

Exactly especially gasping mixed with the physical grasping of either me or something else. Whenever she would say "oh fuck" when first entering her def was a huge turn on. Verbal feedback like that def is hot more so than trying to be super loud moaning. I rather hear stuff like that

[Asker]

what about like saying your name?

[ZSean]

That is hot too or anything you can say equating to the person. Honestly verbal feed back is hot in general. Or gasps like you mentioned (though dont fake any of this lol) if you are getting this hot and bothered dont just say it to say it. Homestly I think the hotest thing my ex would say would be "choke me or choke me daddy" which she didn't say often but was super hot

[Asker]

good tips, thank you for your time lol!

[ZSean]

Haha no problem always happy to help and talk with people

[archiz]

Hahahha it's not weird don't worry
Listen, when the girl is happy the guy is happy.
So moan away and let him know you're very into it.
It should come naturally... if the experience is really any good, you shouldn't be restraining nor controlling yourself at all but actually you will be letting go.
But a main point to keep in mind, you should feel comfortable with the guy, at ease.
As long as you are paranoid you are not going to enjoy it very much.

[CHARismatic110]

I would say anything that is normal. I'm not a loud person either and actually hate hearing myself.

[TheHonestBlock]

Those loud, teeth-gritting, ascending "oh yea"s that get repeated and those breathtaking "mmm"s during insertion. Those are the main two. I don't think any straight man could ask for anything better.

[devdole]

I kinda like loud. Screaming. I don't know the reason.

[chriscdi]

soft, they are more real and believable

[winterfox10]

Of course we like it when girls moan. I tend to like soft whimpers and panting.

[Asker]

good opinion

[JSmuve]

Authentic ones. Don't fake it.

[user66345667]

I don't care if they moan or not. Just hearing them breathe harder tells me they are enjoying. There are many ways to tell if she enjoys it. If she just moans and I can tell she doesn't seem to be enjoying, I most likely would feel worse because doesn't she doesn't want to tell me. I would rather have a chick tell me how I need to improve if I ever fail at pleasuring. But yeah, don't worry about moans.

[Stan_Control_]

I don't like loud people.
So quiet and short moans are the cutest and best to me.

[dudeinohio]

Yes I like it... any moans at all.

[COMMODOREII]

That sounds good to me.

[bklynbadboy1]

You can't practice your moans cause when you have good sex you won't be thinking you'll just do what comes naturally

[In_Trance]

Be as vocal as you want. Guys love it

[andy530]

I really like moans they help me know what she likes and I should do more of it’s great feedback and as far as volume goes... medium I guess

[askmewhy66]

As loud as possible especially when others can hear

[Reddwolf]

Just the way I like it

[whynut111]

Real ones in the ear are good

[more_than_a_guy]

Be yourself, this is the best moan, natural

[Nachowedgie]

Whatever's natural

[Abdulwahh]

Meduim to loud

[fett253]

Whatever your natural reaction is! That's the sexiest.

[kelscw6309]

I like whimpering, and crying, begging for me to stop because it hurts, oh and being called Daddy!