Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I Live with a guy who helped me through many bad things and he’s letting me stay with him without paying rent, in return he asked me to do chores and cook while he’s at work. I didn’t buy it! So I offered him sex but he refused and told me to not say these things for guys because they’ll try to use me & hurt me. I told him i’ve been there and I’m used to it, yet he said that I value more than what I think & he’ll help me see it. He said I’m pretty & sexy but he’s not gonna use me sexually because I live with him. It’s been 1 month and I still don’t understand.
What makes a guy refuse free sex?
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What Girls & Guys Said
7 68He sounds gay. Or he is some religious freak.
It means he is one of the rare ones and doesn’t want it like that, he wants you to respect yourself and be helpful, maybe as time goes by you will create an emotional bond between you and him and then he might do that with you but not as payment
He's being a gentleman that's all.
Some guys just like to be wined and dined, you know? He's obviously into you or he wouldn't be giving you house room.
I really don’t know because I’ve never been in relationship.
Wow. Is it really that strange to you he values you more than sex? You may be hot and great at sex, but he sees you more than just for sexual pleasure
More like what?
More like a person than someone to just fuck. Be yourself and if you want him, ease into it. He might want you as his girlfriend
Spiritual faith, asexuality, lack of sexual desire, STI awareness.
It's called having a conscience. He doesn't want to take advantage. Your situation reminds me of the anime Higehiro, can't hurt to look into it.
He feels like he's taking advantage of you by having leverage. If you offered for free when you weren't depending on him he would feel like you genuinely like him and he could also argue that point if anyone questions him.
You have to take into consideration that we live in a time when loud-mouthed feminists are looking for any excuse to bring men down and a new norm is forming around that that basically says men arn't allowed to be intimate with women who in some way depend on their man. It's considered (financial) abuse.
It's good you found a guy that lets you live with him with him wanting sex in return, he may want you but doesn't want to take advantage like that, he cares for you, prob wants more with you but wants you to want it too because you feel for him too, not because you feel you have to repay him
he's young and dumb and probably has low T
Bad private part hygiene, arrogancy
Yeah it's called self respect and he wants to love you but you want to be another one of the whores of modern day. You probably hurt him when you turned yourself out like that. He valued you more than you did.
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He's what's called a decent guy. They're rare, but they do exist. You should learn from him. by the way, you didn't say, but how old is he?
maybe he really loves u and take care of you...
u have to appreciate that and ask him to marry him then he will not be using you for sex...
Please don't offer yourself for sex just like that to repay or something, it's good that this guy is a good person cause a lot of people would have accepted your offer.
Please value yourself a little more, you might have had a bad past but don't let it ruin your present be more appreciative of yourself.
maybe he done what he done from having a good heart not every guy looks for just sex there are still good men left out in the world and maybe he wanted more then just sex from you as in he didn't just want to have sex for a helping you and that be that
That's a CHAD right there. A guy should sleep with a girl when he wants to with love. Not anyone he can get his hands on. He has values. I respect that.
Because he's a really nice guy who doesn't want to take advantage of you
Cause he's a good guy
He is