What would you consider as light/mild bdsm?

I've been seeing this great guy, and he told me that he was into "mild/light" bdsm. I really don't know what to expect. Can you guys give me examples? Thanks
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  • I use an untied loop of rope: if I let go of it, she is perfectly able to get up, etc.
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    velcro wraps on the end of ropes tied to the bed posts or bed frame legs is popular, reasonably priced.

    I would expect some spanking, maybe nipple suckers, vag vibrators.
    Do NOT use a pillory or X-frame with someone the first time.

    Create green, yellow and red lights for safewords. Green = OK with what you are doing, maybe try a bit more. Yellow = OK with what you are doing, but NO heavier and preferably a bit easier. Red = STOP INSTANTLY - NOT ACCEPTABLE.

    Do NOT use the word "NO" or "stop" or "stop that" or "don't" for safewords: they are too likely to come up in a roleplay rape scene, etc. Use the color code or some odd/distinct word (s), (ie, aardvark, cranberries, piano, etc.) or "Morse code" taps or grunts if gagged and can't talk.

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    In the end, the submissive person (you) is really running the show vie the safewords. It is up to the dominant person's (his) creativity to make your wishes seem like HIS. If he can do that really well, you have a BDSM "keeper". Smacking a butt isn't hard, but keeping it within the context of a role/scene/event- and the recipient's tolerance- can be difficult. Do not be afraid to offer feedback, in context at first, out of context if needed for your personal safety.

    I think we'd like to hear an executive summary of how things went after the fact.
    Good luck!

    • I'm glad you brought up safe words here. I forgot to. And I think the bondage where you let go is a wonderful idea for mild BDSM.

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  • He might do things like restrain you in various ways like tying you up or putting you in hand/ankle cuffs. He might want to spank you, maybe hard.

Most Helpful Girl

  • It could be something as simple as wearing a kinky outfit in the bedroom:

    What would you consider as light/mild bdsm?

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  • Ropes/handcuffs, soft nonpainful spanking, commands that don't actually change the way you practice sex with your partner from vanilla sex, saying "yes sir" when he makes those commands. Stuff like that I think would be considered mild BDSM.

    • Blindfolds

  • Maybe tying up but no physical abuse.

  • Everyone's interpretation of it will somewhat differ, the best thing to do is either Google it, or speak to the guy himself see what he actually means.

  • We all see it differently so just go with something feel comfortable doing

  • I would say getting blindfolded and tied up.

    • Yup - forgot about the blindfolds for a pinch of sensory deprivation!

  • handcuffs, spitting, spanking, light choking, dirty talk/name-calling

    • I don't know that spitting or degradation is mild. Some vanilla people can't even slightly handle this things.

    • I think it pretty light on the sadism/masochism

    • Its not extreme, its more middle of the road.

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  • I don't know it is bdsm or not but always fantasy about girl walking all over me in heels

  • He means using a BDSM cloth and maybe a little tools like the red ball or the whip.
    don't worry BDSM is not what it looks like it's more like a theme rather than what it looks like
    if I were you I would try it