In our day to day lives - my girlfriend and I have lived together for ten years and have three children - it is pretty equal. We tend to defer to each other in the things we do best. I tend to give her the lead with the kids in terms of what they eat, wear, things like that. She gives me the lead in organizing the house, etc.
It's hard to describe because it just sort of happens. We compromise a lot and decisions are broadly made as they come up. We don't have a lot of arguments, but when we do it is usually because the lines aren't clear.
My girlfriend is a professional, articulate, intelligent woman who knows her own mind and speaks it politely but clearly. However, in the bedroom, she is submissive and I am dominant. Not always, and sometimes rarely we do switch it up, but overall my girlfriend believes - and she even says that this is a bit old fashioned - that a man has needs and that she should be sexually available to the guy she loves whenever he needs sex..
For my part, because I love her I try to be sensitive to her moods and not take advantage of her, but I don't always succeed. That said, and I guess here I am old fashioned myself, I provide for my family and I take seriously my role as a protector. So I admit that I think that my girlfriend giving herself to me and making her body there for my use is the way she should express her appreciation for that.
In terms of the sex itself, sometimes it is romantic and loving. We are sharing the gift of each other's naked bodies and are giving of ourselves to each other in the deepest possible intimacy. Other times it is like we are two animals breeding in a field. We just have that primal urge to breed and she submits to me.
Having written all of that, it is in practice a bit more nuanced than what it sounds. However, in broad terms, that is what it is like. I would certainly, in the running of the house or in a social context dream of thinking of her as anything less than my partner, my best friend and my equal. I love her with all my heart.
When it comes to sex, it is much more about animal instincts and sexual needs and I can be more demanding. It is not equal, though I always, because I love her, try to keep her needs in mins. It works best for us.
Wow that was interesting
Well, thank you. Very kind.
I wear all sorts of pants.. I wear jeans, I wear cargo shorts, I wear athletic pants.. I wear work pants.
And I dominate in the bed like I dominate on the field!
I like ur dress style
Thanks... they are all very comfortable
I don't want to go so far as to say I wear the pants, but I do most of the future planning/decision making. Not because he's submissive, but he's very laid back and rolls with the punches. He will make decisions too, but it's mostly me.
He's the dominant one in the bedroom though.
That means you wear the pants lol. My guys the same way
I prefer wearing the skirt, he doesn’t have the legs for them. 🙃
Lmaoo
Well, it needed to be said. But seriously, there is “give and take” in any healthy relationship.
Thank you for MHO
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!In general life I’m more bossy and controlling than he is, he’s so easy going that he just doesn’t care about most of it - but if he does take a stand on something 99% of the time I’ll back down because I know it’s important.
Bedroom he’s always in charge, which I think has balanced our overall relationship
Haha niiiice
Relationships are all about sharing my dear,
i am single now, but in my previous relationships, I used to let the choice for my partner to decide what she likes. in fact, this is the way I like to work things out. sometimes she is dominating, sometimes I am. I just don't plan it and go with the flow :-)
If something bothers me, or her, then we used to sit down and talk it out with maturity.
Regarding the bedroom, most of the time she was dominating, and seeing the amount of pleasure she used to have, made me go crazy about her :-D
I'm a pushover by nature, he wears the pants, but he can be so adorable gentle with ne that I don't mind at all. But funnily enough, non-metaphorically, he is usually the one not wearing pants.
Hahaha
We'd each wear the pants in our areas of expertise
I am married but i think most of the time he just does whatever I tell him to do to make me happy.
I read a ton of self help books so I usually make good decisions. With money, I control it 99% of the time. I follow Dave Ramsey so I try to save most of our money, and spend very little. We invest in our Roth, and try to pay off debt so we have little to none. I do all the bill paying and I also do most of the investing and saving.
With raising the kids and also family time on the weekends, I plan all of it and I tell my husband how I want the kids raised. Again, I read a ton of books on how to raise kids so I know what I'm doing with the kids.
I leave when I start wearing the pants
Lmaoo
We both wear pants but I guess if I had to choose one person to be in charge, it'd be him. I usually organise things and make the decisions but I feel like that's mstly 'cause he doesn't want to do it so he sits back and lets me :P Either way, I think we're at least mostly equal. In terms of the bedroom and stuff, we do switch but I'm like 85% sub.
Ooooh i see
We both wear pants but in the bedroom he definitely takes in the more dominant role.
Its Saturday. Neither of us have had pants on all day.
Hahah love this
I like to wear the pants, but I guess maybe with a future guy it will be both with me a little more lol and in the bedroom I want him to wear the pants and be dominant haha
Freakayyy
I'm pretty much like you.
Lol good
I voted C... I would not want any of us to wear the pants. In a relationship there's the two of you :D
Single, but I would for sure wear the pants. He can wear em too so long as he's aware that he's not the only one.
Hahahha
Sexually she's dominant and I'm submissive so that makes her the boss in bed. I trust her not to inflict any permanent damage.
Social roles are quite different. There I'm the dominant on and she's more submissive. We both get a say but in general I make the final call.
Hahahah i bet
It's a safe bet. She's a smart lady and I hear all she says. As often as not we go with her thinking.
I’m single but we both would wear the pants as to who would be the dom/sub, we’d take turns.
I was lookin for this pic haha
I'll tell you in a few years or so.. LOL.. But, I like dominant women usually... But, at the same time I do want my respect as a man and not to be walked all over and underappreciated.. So, I don't know I don't want to be a competitive of basically who's in charge in the relationship.. For me if you ain't willin to make the hard decisions step back and let the leader come forward.. 8)..
Lmaooo
LOL.. My response sounded a bit mean to me for some reason..
My left hand is dominant
My gal can handle herself, but she becomes so passive and submissive around me... and I like it.
Haha i bet
Yup I like the control, classical guy over here :)
I'm single. But she would wear the pants. I like dominating Women.
And we like dominating men
I see LMAO
We both wear the pants in day to day life.. In our bed room I'm the the he's the Dom and I'm the very willing sub
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