Why am I so fucking kinky if im so shy and quiet?

I dont have sex. Im also shy sexually But i am kinky in my head snd think and get horny about getting dominated a lot. I love daddy daughter. I just love weird kinkiness too. Talking dirty.
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  • You now you just like my twin and I don't have a twin I am the same way I am really kind of shy and quiet but there are moments of every minute of every day that I want to please somebody and I mean I want to turn them into the most naughtiest sexiest hottest girl ever I'm single at the moment but when I do have a girlfriend I make it all about her. Since covid-19 things have changed with me we all have an energy inside of us when bonding are touching another person's energy is the most beautiful feeling in this world and I think you know exactly what I'm talking about I think you are probably also an empath and you feel People's Energy for me that's what gets me so turned on just by reading your question I can feel you and we haven't even talked and I could almost bond with you that's how strong it is I would love to chat with you just because I already know what you're looking for and I would love to give you that it is totally intense if you sent me a private message within the first message back and forth I guarantee you we would feel each other and give me just get so hot it would be unreal intense

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  • TL;DR you are kinky because you don't need to conform to societal norms in your head, and if you become sexual the same will be true in sex.

    L;R There are plenty of people that are one thing in public and another in private. Some of the most dominant women in society are the most submissive in the bedroom. In contrast some of the most submissive men (janitors or such) are the most dominant in the bedroom. It's really just a thing where you can be whatever you want without anyone judging you. For dominant women they can just relax and not have to take the lead. For submissive men they can finally take power and have some control. I remember reading a book where a culture had a custom where the dominant one in society was the submissive one in the bedroom. In other words they both had to do what the other said, but only in the roles they were in. When they were out, he had to do what she said. When they were together in private, she had do what he said. If he disagreed with her in public he could, but she made the final say and if she wouldn't change her mind then he had to accept it, same with him in the bedroom if he wanted something that she didn't and wouldn't change his mind then she had to agree to it.

    • Well i hve heard that time and again but I am submissive in every way in and out the bedroom and I want to always be that way everywhere. XD

    • Some people are like that. I am just saying people that like to be dominated or dominant aren't necessarily the ones that are like that in society. You're shy and quiet. That can actually make you very powerful in whatever job you have. You're quiet because you're shy. Keep quietly doing the best you can and you'll rise quickly. Then you can be totally submissive with whatever guy you are with and relax because you know he truly loves you.

    • I feel like i get overlooked and the loud types get ahead but i appreciate your encouragement.

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  • Being in the BDSM/kinky world, I've met man women who are this way. They may be naturally shy and quiet, but their little brains are as kinky as it comes, and once they finally start experiencing things, it's like a dam bursting, and their sexuality just starts pouring out.

    And given that so many of them are submissives, and when they start getting involved in BDSM, they quickly want to try and do EVERYTHING all at once. We call this "sub frenzy" - and it's common, but it's also potentially dangerous, because people with sub frenzy tend to take foolish risks - hooking up with wrong people or putting themselves in situations they aren't really prepared for - and sometimes things go badly. I don't say that to scare you, but just to caution you that if you decide to take that leap, move slowly and carefully and find a solid female mentor in your group that can help hold you back if you start getting too frenzied about all of the exciting experiences you could have.

  • the reason your shy is because you think that your fantasies and likes are not normal and people will laugh or ridicule you for them. so you lock them away and dont tell anyone about them. this then leads to you not want/liking normal sex so you dont participate in it, as it doesn't live up to your fantasies and thoughts of what you want/like.

    what you need to do is sit down with your partner and introduce them to it, naturally take it slow and maybe lead them a little (i know that will be hard being submissive). maybe as its getting hot and steamy whisper in their ear "take me and do what ever you want to me". i know that if someone done that to me i would be in haven and make me even more horny as i think most men would. from that, your partner would then maybe next time just take the lead and dominate you more.

    once they are satisfying you more on a regular basis and enjoying that, you could then instigate getting dressed up, maybe a sexy/slutty school girl style and call him daddy, see how he reacts. he may like it, he may not. but what you will have done is seen his reaction in a controlled and simple way, rather than just blurting out, i want you to dominate me and be daddy lol which could go one of two ways lol.

    i know that i usually gently and gradually bring women into what i like as, if i just blurted out what i really like they would run for the hills lol, but over time they get used to it and often come to enjoy it. but its the way in which you introduce it slowly, bit by bit. you open up a idea that they never had before or knew about and nurture it.

  • "NO risk, but ALSO limited 'reward'...
    in YOUR imagination, YOU hold ABSOLUTE dominion WHERE & HOW things progress.

  • It’s just how our brains are wired really.

    even without sex, our brains at some point find out they can get endorphins in certain situations, fear, pain and pleasure.

    From what you have said, your brain is sitting in the masochistic side of BDSM and also Discipline as well.

    At a guess, you find yourself reading or thinking about different new things and getting even hornier when certain bits come up. Your brain remembers this and when it feels like a buzz from Endorphins (candy / opiates) it will give you a nudge with a say Daddy Daughter thought, then it will see how much it can go down the dirty route, sometimes our thoughts can get extreme even though we would not in reality consciously think if it.

  • Sexual repression can make you more kinky

  • Pretty normal

    • Yupp

  • You know the saying "It's always the quite ones" 😂

  • You know the saying, watch out for the quiet ones they are the real closet kinks. Personally i noticed that the more intelligent someone is the more they crave the mental experience that comes with this. And the mental experience of domming and subbing is quite fun. So if your sexually very focused on mental play thats probably why it resonates with you so much.

  • maybe if you explore your kinks in real life you will become more open as you embrace who you are but whilst its still in your head it will seem like a dirty little secret you should keep to yourself.

    • Well im waiting for a good man to marry me so me and him can have kinky sex hopeuflly he's into that. But nothing gay please!

    • And no role reversal either.

    • i wish you well in your search for a 'daddy'. there's plenty of us around ;)

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  • It’s pent up and there’s nothing wrong with being kinky or having fantasies as long as you’re not hurting anyone without consent and no kids or farm animals involved your good

  • What every man wants, a lady on the street and freak in the sheets. Id say its probably natural, thats why so many men desire it.

  • You have these thoughts and feelings bottled up inside you. I think you need a legit boyfriend who will be open to letting you express your sexual nature without being judged.

    • I dont fornicate

    • Okay. But you need to date a guy if you want a husband. Before you're married, he's your boyfriend or fiance. That's how it works.

    • Fornication is sex outside of marriage. I wouldn't want to talk about sex this way with anyone not a husband.

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  • The quiet ones are usually the freaky ones lol.

  • Some people say that the shy ones are the kinkiest, I see their point

    • U extroverts r boring?

    • Uh okay

  • Quiet ones are the hottest.
    Own it when the time is right.
    DM me if you want, I'll tell you if you're REALLY kinky.

  • I have the exact same issue 😒. Extreme introvert, extremely kinky in multiple categories

    • Lol do you become dominant?

  • You are not alone. Try to get social and come out of your comfortzone.
    Start interacting with people. If like to talk can message me. Can start to open up

  • It's normal, don't get upset about it, enjoy it, lol

    • Ok haaaha.

    • Have fun :)

    • Thankssss. What do you like by the way?

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  • Because it's who you are. Embrace it. :)

    I'm a virgin, and I'm very sexual.

    I think we're both just waiting for the right person to get into a relationship with. And there's nothing wrong with that. You should choose carefully, because you don't want to give yourself to someone who won't appreciate all of you.

  • People are quite different in there normal lives than there sexual lives I believe they are not really the same person. I don't swear or and somewhat shy and quiet in my daily life but when I get sexual with a girl I swear like a sailor and become a very confident and vocal man.

    • Thats so hot imagining shy man going to a beast mode

    • @Jegrbdid yeah I guess that's a good way to think about. A man in the street but a beast in the bed lol.

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