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Why are guys so desperate for sex?

Ok I get sex is normal and healthy, but I've never had sex, so I know it's not that bad to not have it either. But it's like guys obsess about it beyond reason. The other week I saw two of my brothers get into a physical fight over the prospect of sleeping with the same girl, who by the way was clearly playing them both. It's like they're so desperate for it, they'd do anything. It kinda annoys me, because I have a lot of brothers and a lot of male friends and it's sad when I see get played and hurt by girls that are using their sexuality to get what they want. I get that it's the girls that re being mean here, but stil if they weren't so desperate to get laid all the time it wouldn't happen. But it happens so often it just make me roll my eyes at this point. And then I have to admit, I found myself doing it as well and I'm not proud of it, but it's so fucking easy
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Most Helpful Guys

  • 1.(Sex drive) Supposedly guys have a higher sex drive due to testosterone.

    2. (availability) There's this dynamic that sex is something girls give and guys have to earn. The typical girl has an easier time finding casual sex than the typical guy. You could probably go up to 10 guys of your level of attractiveness or even a bit higher, casually introduce yourself and say "want to hookup at my place later" and you'll get one yes. For guys the same would not be true. Guys generally have to put more effort into winning you over with their conversational skills and then prove their interest by paying for dates. They generally can't just say "do you want to have sex with me" and expect good results.

    You could also probably ask your male friends for sex and have pretty good odds of one of them saying yes. Now, even if you aren't interested in doing any of that, you still know you could. Having that availability makes you less desperate for it. You generally aren't going to feel desperate for something you know is easily available to you. You turn down one offer for sex its no big deal because you know if you changd your mund you can easily find 10 other offers just like the one you passed down.

    Now this doesnt' apply to the guys who are really desirable and can consistently get girls to send them nudes and hookup no strings attached. They are less likely to act desperate for it because, like the typical girl, they know they have plenty of other offers and don't need to put all their eggs in one basket.

    3. (standards) I also believe that even the girls who like casual sex tend to be pretty selective about who with. For girls, the bar on sexual is attraction is set higher in regards to what it takes to get them to desire sex with a guy she isn't committed to. Its not uncommon for guys to act desperate for sex with any reasonably attractive girl. Girls too, are capable of fighting over guys the same way you witnessed your male friends fight over that girl. However, girls aren't likely to act desperate to have sex with just any guy. Its mainly if it's a guy she perceives as out of her league.

    So overall I'd say its a combination of guys desiring it more, having a harder time getting it when they do desire it, and desiring sex with a wider range of girls.

  • Not all men are like this. I can control myself. The women are like open book, She want's to be treated like princess and will set up a trap to capture you as her husband. Marriage is like Dooms day in 21 century. Sex is their primary weapon usually dominant on tears (secondary). I think if you control yourself and don't show her, you are animal She will automatically give it you. Which by the way She want you to taste so that you can turn in to animal.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Every guy is not after sex, just like every guy isn't desperate or obsessed with sex. Hormones play a part in it. But you brothers should just leave that chick alone and focus on their lives. If you have to get into a physical fight over a person who is not your family member, that is a sign the person is not right for them and that the relationship is unhealthy. But they are desperate, because they are told that sex is what's in, sex is what's hot, sex is what will make you popular, sex will get you any girl you want [which is load of BS], sex is natural and nobody has the right to deprive you of it [which is wrong period]. But when sex is done outside of marriage, it can make a guy very selfish for it without earning his right. But women needs to stop using sex as a bargaining chip or to reason with a guy. The media however is very guilty of teaching this to men of all ages, even as children. That's how my father got interested in sex early as a child. I remember he told me that the advertisements, and rumors was that white women with blond hair and blue eyes have better and satisfying sex. So back in the 60's and 70's that is what they would tell you to do, find a white woman with blond hair and blue eyes to have sex with. It's sick! But overall people have to have common sense on how they handle their sex life.

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  • Hormones and attitude. In the younger years it is all about hormones. As us guys age it is about attitude. Love being a guy! :)

  • Hormones at their peak. Its also powerul drugs and emotional stuff

    Sex is powerful... thats why it sells or girls can flaunt themselvesvand manipulate. They will wisen up at some point

  • No, not all men are like that.

  • It's sheer biology. Humans are animals, and like other animals, the sex drive is paramount. Have you seen other mammals in rut? The males will do anything to get to a receptive female. The unique thing about the higher primates (including humans) is that the females are fertile all the time, and the males are constantly thinking about sex.

  • Probably because of higher testosterone, at least that's what my health teacher told me.

    • I'm not one of those "desperate guys" though.

  • its the biggest desire in us so we as a species can survive.

    if we didn't, women would feel powerless and have lots more inner beauty lol

  • Some guys are some are not. I was dating this cute blonde but she wanted to move in and no way lol. Sex is great but I'm not moving in with anybody lol.

  • I don't know I don't deal with these issues because I'm saving myself till marriage.

    • That's really cool. I hope I'll be able to too it's just so hard to find a guy who will wait

    • Yeah a lot of mens are assholes. They just talk about women in a sexual way all the time. It's really cringe.

  • Testosterone. You should try it before you bad mouth guys for lack of control ;)

  • Well you have a pretty level head. :)

    I don't do anything to get sex. I do the complete opposite. THat's why all the girls hate me on here.

    • Well you are the General (☞ﾟヮﾟ)☞

    • @Bandit74 ayyyy (☞ﾟヮﾟ)☞

  • because they think it is manly to get laid a lot and that their masculinity is partly determined by amount of sex and sexual partners.

  • Generalising just a tad don't you think

  • Actually women are too desperate
    You can't imagine what the things girls do and how so they manipulate men yo get the dick

  • Have sex, THEN comment. But it's only guys who lack self control, they're known as Betas OP.

  • Not all men are. Some just can't control their impulses.

  • Why was evolution so desperate to make them that way?

  • We have a lot of testosterone and it has to do with biology too.

  • A man who is not getting any will become a desperado, (they'll do anything for sex) desperate for sex, not all men are like that though.

  • Because guys are just far more sexual than girls.. Girls are nowhere near as sexual

  • Young guys are desperate. Older people just get the sex.

    And the reason they are desperate is that sex is the best.

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