Why are men jealous of women they are dating having sex toys?

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adventurous-1 · Accepted Answer

In my option I believe its because many men are intimidated by the toy, especially if it's a big toy. They may feel inadequate compared to it, or they have insecurity issues about the size of their cock and feel they can't measure up or compete against a toy. They think you need the toy to satisfy your needs and they're scared of the thought they are not enough for you.

Many men don't see or realise it's just a sexual tool, to increase a woman's excitement and pleasure. It's not and never was meant as a replacement for an actual cock for sex but for self pleasure when there's not a real cock around, the idea is to enhance her sexual experience when she's alone or with a partner willing to incorporate it into the sex play. I find toys add to the excitement and experience of pleasing the lady. they are not meant as threat to replace you as a man but an accessory to utilize in maximizing the pleasure you're able to give her. In short just get over it and enjoy what she enjoys. You may find you like using them on her as it really does add to the fun, excitement, and joy of sex.

epicsoundwaves · Accepted Answer

A subconscious worry that you won't be able to satisfy your partner the same way their toy can.

AmyHew1tt · Accepted Answer

Separate issue, but I honestly think it's annoying and frustrating that instead of teaching men to be better lovers for women, we're being offered sex toys instead. I've literally read three separate articles in the past month, that were like: "Women, not satisfied in bed? Try this technique!" Or, "Men, having trouble pleasing your woman? Try this revolutionizing tactic in bed!" And literally, all it ends up being is a new vibrator. So basically, having an unsatisfying sexual relationship? Go solo with this new toy. Now that's not to say that sex toys should be shamed. Neither should using them be. But don't want my partner to have to rely on a separate device to please me in bed.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

The type of guy jealous of a sex toy is the type of guy who thinks he's in competition with that toy.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

I never got jealous of it but it seems kinky in off-putting ways to me.

I always saw sex as a maximal intimacy between two flawed human beings so the idea of introducing toys always seemed alien. I might be one of the few guys on here who detests the idea of sex dolls no matter how realistic they look.

Still a doll, no connection.

I suspect I'm abnormally "demisexual" in this regard. So I'm not jealous of people who use or even almost need sex toys but we are looking at sex in a very different way between us and so I suspect we're sexually incompatible.

Snkrhoss · Answer

I love seeing my wife experience pleasure and orgasms. So I enjoy using Certain toys that give her a different type of pleasure and orgasm than I can. I bought a $550 realistic dildo that’s significantly larger than my penis. She can get off from my penis surprisingly fast so that isn’t the reason behind using it occasionally.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

are they? none of my partners ever was... not sure what is there to be jealous about...

electromagnetic · Answer

Because we be zapping the shit outta or organs every time without missing a beat.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It doesn't bother me, as long as she doesn't mind me using it on her once in awhile.

NathanDavis · Answer

I've never been, never had to

Miristheiss · Answer

My wife doesn't have any.

SweetDripp · Answer

Is that really a thing?

Dargil · Answer

They are afraid they are inadequate.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If I was dating a Woman who wanted to use sex toys, I wouldn't be jealous of her.

beebella · Answer

Maybe it just makes them think, "What does she need that for when she has the real thing? 🙄" Lmao

Redstang88 · Answer

We are? News to me

LiamS95 · Answer

How could anyone be jealous of a sex toy?

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

From their pov they have to compete with sex toy or think women have sex toys because they can't satisfy them.

DrPepper12 · Answer

If you get the answer lemme know. Men will be jealous of a can of beans if their feeble brains saw it as a threat. Why her pleasuring herself is in any way a problem is beyond me. Too many insecure, possessive, selfish, childish boys, not men, running around.

DextroShade · Answer

These toys desensitize women much like porn desensitizes men but worse. No mortal man can compete with the Ultravibe Jackhammer 9000. I imagine if a man had a sex doll or bot most women would have a problem with that.