Why can women never do anything without being sexualised?

[Anonymous]

I burped out in public by accident and a random man said that it was hot. Why can women not do anything without some weird men finding it sexy?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's because there are a lot of people with all different kinds of things they like and many guys don't mind saying stuff like that. And even at that they'll all have different reasons.

I've seen something like that happen before and the girl was visibly embarrassed and someone would say something like "that was hot" or something to take the unwanted portion of the attention away.

Some dudes will do it because they genuinely think the woman is going to circle back to them later and find their comment arousing.

Woman are going keep hearing these things until they earn the same respect they used to have. Society is changing, it's not a realistic expectation for an average woman to be a ladylike housewife. For a multiple reasons.

In order to be less sexualized, woman have decisions they need to make. They're going to have to make sacrifices and find new ways of navigating the social world.

They have to stop complaining about the pay gap (which I'd say is pretty much already done) they need to start more business in competitive markets, they need to stop with the men are useless shit, and get comfortable saying what specifically they don't like and standing up for their beliefs in a direct way.

They need to fix the WMBA or at least get one of their sports popular. Theyre also going to need to stop divorcing men. And that's going to start with woman being more confident in themselves, vocalizing their needs more and putting an end to the whole idea that just because you have a vagina that makes you more important than anyone else.

I think the biggest problem is that on a big scale woman are lost. They don't know what they want because they keep listening to people telling them they're wrong for "settling" or setting unrealistic relationship expectations.

To that end, it's not completely their fault. Not at all actually because men share a lot of the blame too.

The unrealistic expectations woman have in my opinion are set by men being overly endearing to them at a young age all the way up till their 20's.

Women also don't have a lot of great options which is a complicated issue that I'm not going to get into. But men need to stop being simps, they need to get jobs and women need to stop dating guys who are comfortable to leach of them.

Also, woman should get more involved in politics.

[SomothErgai]

Here's a counter question. Why can't men find the things a woman does as sexy without it always being seen as weird or creepy or a problem? There is nothing at all wrong with a man finding something you do sexy. every single person on earth is entitled to be drawn to the things that excite them.

Now I might not personally find the burping thing sexy but i can understand the logic of someone who does.

Most women are socially conditioned to be terrified to let anyone know that they have bodily functions. burping, farting, shitting, Pissing, etc. Most women go to great lengths to hide those aspects of themselves from the rest of the world.

To some men, a woman who is not ashamed of the fact that she is human, is a turn on. I can understand a man who finds a woman with the confidence and the don't give a fuck attitude that she can simply be herself around him.

So yeah, while I personally wouldn't go as far as to call it sexy, I can certainly understand the mind of someone who does. And I think you should try a little harder yourself to understand where people are coming from instead of being instantly judgmental about something you clearly do not understand.

[red324]

Exactly, we have too many prudes

[red324]

That's why he thought the burp was sexy

[Papisongo]

There is nothing wrong with a man finding a woman burping arousing. It is completely inappropriate to comment publicly about it. If you absolutely must make any comment about a woman’s appearance, try complimenting her on her glasses, handbag, jacket, shoes, or similar accessory instead of any physical trait. It’s a lot less creepy, and some girls might even appreciate the compliment.

[SomothErgai]

@Papisongo No, it's disingenuous. A man should be honest about what he finds appealing instead of trying to mask it in a dishonest platitude. The fact that anyone finds an honest compliment "creepy" is the real sign of an inappropriate response to something that is entirely innocent. It's also incredibly sexist to imply that men have the responsibility to ensure a woman isn't clutching her pearls at the merest hint of sexual interest. If women, or anyone really, can't handle the fact that on occasion people are going to have a sexual interest in them, then they should stay home

[Papisongo]

It’s not necessarily Disingenuous to compliment a person on their appearance. What draws the eye of a given admirer is as individual as the person doing the admiring. It’s usually the entire package that gets my attention. Given the choice between saying “nice ass” or “I like your boots” , I’m going with the latter. The boots certainly play a roll in how that ass looks, but I’m good letting that be implied. Not making women feel uncomfortable when paying them compliments has served me quite well over the decades. Your suggestion that women should stay home if they don’t want to be complimented is both immature and misogynistic

[DishLady]

Oh… men are also sexualized — like “mansplaining” to describe a guy explaining something (typically to a woman) in a condescending way… but when a woman does that to another woman no one says anything… and when a woman does it to a man… Go find a cave for shelter.


I think everyone needs to grow up. We’re in 2024. Can’t we let go of our 1920s-50s stereotypes at last and embrace the current reality?

[milknhoneyy]

I mean that man may have been expressing sarcasm tbf, still weird and off-putting to make comments like that to strangers tho lol

[NamerOfStars]

They can- easily. Men don't sexualize women; nature did. We just acknowledge it.

The REAL question is, why do so many women object so strongly to simple honesty?

[Siri137]

Why would anyone think a burp was sexy? LOL :D That guy must have been a real weirdo.

[blueonblack22]

Simple. Gain 50lbs of fat, don’t shave your armpits/legs, cut your hair short and dye it blue. Also full time protestor and nonstop crybaby. Don’t forget to say “Trump this” and “Trump that” every other sentence.

Then get secretly angry, depressed and sexually frustrated and get even louder, angrier and nastier to people. Complain about “fat shaming” and “patriarchy”. Then you will be completely fine.

Anyway satire aside there will come a day when Father Time will take away your youth and fewer and fewer men will notice you. Then you will long to complain again about what you are complaining about right now. I don’t dismiss the annoyance and occasionally creepy bs youth have to deal with. But you have no idea how much power and privilege you have as an attractive young female until it’s gone.

And it won’t last forever.

[tiajoka]

I've been fat most my adult life. When I lost a bunch of weight, I kinda gained it back because the attention from men made me so uncomfortable. I also felt like many women viewed me as a threat. Maybe you have an idea of a fantasy, but in reality it is much more comfortable and enjoyable to be at least a little frumpy rather than to be a desirable young woman.

[blueonblack22]

@tiajoka well that is something you CAN control. Not easy but you can control it. Try telling a short guy to grow taller (I’m 6ft by the way) I dont doubt she has to deal with jealous women and creepy guys on occasion. But there are a long list of huge unchecked benefits she has no idea she has until they are gone. Nothing drives me more nuts when attractive western young women complain about being “victims”. And worse they somehow still find shoulders to cry on. Unless she was full sexually assaulted or something then I’m sick of hearing about it.

[blueonblack22]

@tiajoka I will also mention she is WAY more privileged then her male counterpart when everything else is equal. A good looking young man is NOT the equivalent to a good looking young woman. Not even close.

[tiajoka]

I didn't find any privileges when I was attractive. I'm sure there are some, but you have to be manipulative to have them. I'm autistic, my brain isn't really capable of thst even on a minor level. I also think it's not great to try and say a woman should be manipulative just because she can. It's just a bunch of unwanted attention, and often negative attention. Can you describe actual benifits to it? I also understand the height thing. I am tall, so growing up I would always drink coffee and avoid milk, to try and stop growing. Since I was bullied a lot for it until high school where I was just average male height.

[blueonblack22]

@tiajoka given your mental condition you won’t be able to understand this.

[tiajoka]

I just want to know what the benifits are, or do you not know?

[b_lova]

Society sexualizes everything we are just unfortunate to speak it outloud. And women sexualize themselves and each other far more then men do, but females don't think about it from that perspective and get mad at us for saying the quiet part outloud.

You do realize the guy was joking. We also joke about sex more than you may realize.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Why? because too many women give out very conflicting and polar opposite impressions. Most men get confused and the others just don't care and will act out no matter how the women react.

[spartan55]

Couldn't come up with much to complain about today?

[patois]

I don't find you sexy at all. You could give me a lap dance and I'd probably want to puke.

[TommyMountainFigure]

He probably thought he was being clever, or funny. or both. There's nothing sexual in a burp!

[OfMiceandMen]

Not so sexy to some of us. I may laugh but I would not find it sexy.

[MadhuriDixit]

Don't burp in public

[Wetdreamz]

They sexualize themselves for the people they want and forget that they still presenting themselves to all guys who doesn't want

[Summeroflove]

It’s NOT all men and there are women who are whores too. Unfortunately some people are perverts and some girls sleep with guys who are weird.

You just gotta say fuxk off and it will never stop. There will always be perverts. Everything is sexual to them. It’s all they think about every minute of the day

[Dargil]

No doubt that one man who commented about tour burp represents all men, right?

[Dargil]

Typo problems. It is in men's DNA to sexualize women. Never.

[JacobJordan]

Guess it depends on the women. If women don't want to be sexualized they should prove that by not sexualizing themselves. Little wonder why they get sexualized when they dress like hookers and sleep around like whores. Women that act like women are not sexualized...

[Tim2nice]

Because women are sexual beings. That’s what intended for you.

[CALIGVLA]

Oh, white women don't sexualize men, right? They never objectify men. 😬

[David94358]

Because women usually dress extremely sexy?

[andreasderjuengere]

Ah! The never boring question of mating rituals. Let me dive into my reply right away :) :

Don't show up in public and your matter is settled.

You will then post your next GaG question as i. e.:

''Why are men never interested in me?"

Please consider: in 100 men around you you may only find 1 who ''sexualise'' you.

[sheikalana]

Because women are the first ones sexualizing themselves and then play the victim.

[laly520]

the more u r selective with whom u wanna be around the less sexualised u would get but still yes we women get sexualised all time