Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Why do guys always want to try anal sex with a new girlfriend?
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Even if they're not really into anal it seems they just have to do it?
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4 33not all are like that lol
Not my thing
to see if she is willing
They gay I'm not I've never wanted my dick to have shit on it
Not all want
For me it's disgusting
If the girl like to learn it can be wery good. But if you get a boy that only think to get in whit the bone, then it can hurt.
Thats need to bee learning to like anal sex. Lot of lube and only a finger or two the first time.
Only 2% of women enjoy anal-Laurie J. Watson, LMFT. Often women are pressured to the point where they seek counseling due to distress. No means no. She does nkt like it. Leave it alone or leave.
@Whitemeatchicken I think the percentage that enjoys anal is a lot higher than 2%. I think it's more like 1/3 of all girls like it. I am one of those girls.
@Paige90 oh I think you may be wrong on that. 35% have tried it. Only 2% decide to do it again. I’m studying to be a therapist. If I could post links I’d share some of the sources but I can’t.
@Paige90 you look like the type that would too. Haha! See it’s not something I like. So if the guy isn’t willing to do it, I’m not going to. I get absolutely nothing out of it. o have read credible studies that say 2-10%. The 2% is from a much better source though. But yes about 35% of women have tried it. Almost none liked it enough to try it again though.
Howe can you say that almost none liked it? There is many girls that like use here bum hole. Its only that there is almost none that ask or say it. If they ask 100 000 there is soo many more. Almost every girl i been whit or have had sex whit liked it and still like it. Soo i think if they learn to use it they like to try i again, but if you get one that only push it in first time then she will not like it.
They are pigs so they need shit on their dicks
No one wants a poopy dick 👎
New frontiers. It shows her enthusiasm.
There’s lots of ways to show enthusiasm.
Sure, but we like that one.
You like doing what you know women hate? Only 2% of women like it despite what their partner says. Get help.
Also anal sex is dropping drastically in interest according to google trends. It seemed at its most popular in 2004. Unlike you, most guys respect their woman’s boundaries and want both to be pleased not just himself.
@Whitemeatchicken Based on polling, it's closer to 10-15%. But the point is to at try it with those who like it. Also you're making a lot of assumptions about what boundaries I respect. Back off. I never said I'd make her do anything. Chill your buns.
Depends on who is doing the stats. I have never read 10-15% though. Those aren’t numbers to be proud of either. Plus most guys say all or most women enjoy it. In fact, many women feel so pressured they have to seek counseling due to distress. So if that’s all that shows her enthusiasm, evidentially you don’t have your priorities straight.
I will say anal was very popular in 2004. It is now becoming less and less popular because most people don’t like what their partner doesn’t like doing. Based on your first response it seems like you’re just trying to back out of what yoh were saying. If this is true please get help before you ruin someone’s life and sex life.
@Whitemeatchicken The percentage that like it doesn't matter. You ask them if they like and if they do then that's better than if they don't. "most women like it" is not an argument for anything, even if a factual statement, so it's not something to care about. Girls that do like it, are offering a next level of engagement and trust with a partner. You say there's other ways to show enthusiasm, okay, girls who like anal can do that too. But yet you won't do this where those other girls will, which makes those girls that much more notable and leaves those couples with more options and avenues to explore together. Even if it was only 2% of women, well they can do all the things the rest of women do... and then some. So it doesn't change the assessment.
I’m sorry to hear you think only women who agree to anal are good lovers and exciting. Best of luck finding a long term relationship.
I have too much respect for people. I wouldn’t ask someone for something in big I know most people hate. That puts undue pressure on that person and alienates. But then again, maybe that’s why I’m engaged and have kind friends.
@Whitemeatchicken There you go being toxic again. I never said that was exclusive to women who like anal.
Don’t know you said women who are jnto it can offer so much more. Best of luck finding a decent relationship. There’s also guys who are into gangbangs and other degrading acts. But sure that offers so much option to a relationship. Pffft.
I’d say it shows next level trust to build your lives with one another. I’d say it shows next level trust to care about your partner’s boundaries. But hey yeah I guess to you only anal sex shows that. yeah okay. You know what there are so many things men could do to give so many more options like cuck, bi sexual threesomes, gangbangs, hell even shit play. Nothing more respectful than thinking less of men who won’t. Personally, I celebrate men who have class and standards. Too bad you dii ok by for women. That’s why you don’t deserve one.
@Whitemeatchicken @Whitemeatchicken "I wouldn’t ask someone for something in big I know most people hate." Nonsense, life wouldn't happen if people didn't do that. People hate salespeople or adverts, yet we have these things and it works enough to be valuable to society. Most guys hate approaching women, and most women reject the guys that approach them, but it all still happens anyway because that's life. Proactive people ask for what they want and deal with a no if they find it. "you said women who are into it can offer so much more." You're putting words in my mouth again, I said "more" that's all , not "so much more" that's a different context, but it is "more" is it not? If there was a clone of you who was also willing to do anal, does she not offer everything that you have... and that little bit more? Does your clone who is also into anal offer less than you because she likes anal? How does that work? You're being disingenuous by leaping to the conclusion that all other women must be gutter trash, nope never said that, so cut it out. "You know what there are so many things men could do to give so many more options like cuck, bi sexual threesomes, gangbangs, hell even shit play." But if neither of us like those things then it doesn't matter because they're not good examples. "Personally, I celebrate men who have class and standards." An obvious projection of your own standards, since if include taking it up the butt as part of a standard then you'll spaz out. "That’s why you don’t deserve one. " So you're kink shaming people? Wow. What happened to being a nice and respectful person?
Obviously you don’t see your hypocrisy. This conversation is over.
Oh yoh mean how most men would spas out if a women asked them to cuck or something else I mentioned. But yes absolutely those guys that do have so much more to offer because hell people should only amount to abunch of holes. People like yoh dont deserve respect. Sad thing is, I let my fiancé play with my ass. too bad that’s not enough and I should be open to all sorts of sex acts though just so the other person thinks I’m worth something and love them.
@Whitemeatchicken "Oh yoh mean how most men would spas out if a women asked them to cuck or something else I mentioned." Yes, that's a projection of their own standards too. Thank you for agreeing with me. "People like yoh dont deserve respect." People like me who can accept an individual's choices and tastes? Do only judgmental/disrespectful people deserve respect?
You don’t respect it though. All goes back to your first and some of your comments below it.
@Whitemeatchicken Well, all I did was voice my interest. Are you trying to say I don't respect my own choices?
I’ve made my point very clear.
@Whitemeatchicken Your point is wrong though, evidenced by you talking about respecting choices when the only thing I had said at the time was about my tastes. You're the one who got uppity about my tastes and started accusing me of things, then ended up agreeing with me because you didn't know what you were talking about and thought you were disagreeing with me.
No I disagree on you about a lot of things. But that’s fine. Base your opinion of a person on one act. That always goes over well and makes for meaningful relationships.
Also it isn’t a projection of others if it’s a known fact, people in general hate it. 👎👎👎
@Whitemeatchicken "Base your opinion of a person on one act." Show me where I said that? Oh you can't? Whoops. Read before you speak. You invented that thought to make me seem worse than I am, to smooth yourself. In reality it's just one minor quality among many, but of course you wouldn't dare read what I said in an honest way now. "Also it isn’t a projection of others if it’s a known fact, people in general hate it." People in general hating it is called a "taste", all you're referencing is that's it's a common set of tastes, and you're getting judgey about people who like things different than you. How about you let people enjoy themselves with people who share their interests instead of making them out to be all-around evil sinners?
I think you should take it in the ass. If you can’t then I guess men who can are better than you. Let my black boyfriend fuck your ass. Men who do that can do everything plus some.
@Orangesareyummy If that's really what you want in guys then yes "men who do that can do everything plus some" and my answer to your request is no. See? It's that simple. Thanks for helping to illustrate my point.
Guess you’re inadequate. Doesn’t it feel great to feel like your nobody. Funny you can’t even figure out what’s going on.
@Orangesareyummy Yes, I'm inadequate for girls who want me to be buttfucked. Do you not understand how that fits perfectly into my point?
Not so much fun being made to feel less than over one sexual act. Go get a prostitute.
@Orangesareyummy I don't feel less than. It's perfectly fine, that's the point.
You were the one saying one sexual act means more to you than other ways of showing enthusiasm and that they have so much more to offer. To hell with you. I’m into deep meaningful relationships where sex is only a fraction of what makes it successful. But that’s fine. I don’t base a person’s value on sex and what they will do in bed for me. I certainly don’t think just because one person won’t do something sexually they are less because Of it either. I think maybe more men should use men though since that’s all that matters haha!
Women who have your children are also offering next level trust too. Bet you did them too. Anal or no anal, that’s not the point. Point is there is more to a person and a relationship than sex, especially when yoh break it down to one act. You likely do guilt trip women though by saying to them what you said to me.
Then watch what the fuck you say and think before you type. Limp
“I’m into deep meaningful relationships where sex is only a fraction of what makes it successful.” So am I. Nothing I’ve said is to the contrary. “I don’t base a person’s value on sex and what they will do in bed for me.” If they refuse to have sex with you all together is that a dealbreaker? Because if it is, then yeah you do. The point is that it’s just a portion of their value. “Point is there is more to a person and a relationship than sex, especially when yoh break it down to one act.” At no point did I boil it down to one act, so you are not talking about me, you’re talking about someone else who didn’t in this conversation. “Then watch what the fuck you say and think before you type.” I do, there is zero wrong with anything I’ve said. You’ve just jumped to conclusions multiple times instead of identifying the substance of the text. “You likely do guilt trip women though by saying to them what you said to me.” So I guess that asking for anything at all in a partner is guilting them. You shittalking me here must be guilting me then, shame on you. Oh, it’s not guilting? Well then maybe it’s you who should think before you type.
Yeah okay haha. I love backpedaling because now you know you’re a douche bag. Care about human beings, not just yourself.
Blue anons are idiots that’s why they hide. Bye.
@Orangesareyummy Point out where I didn't care about human beings? Oh you can't? Whoops. You can try and weasel out of not understanding my point and looking like a fool, but it still happened. Sorry. lol. Imagine having a problem with anon. It's not like your showing anyone your face, you fool.
You evidentially don’t. You based your assessment of a human’s worth based on anal. How very lame. Also most guys who ask women for anal like it because they know it hurts women. That’s why painal and forced anal porn is so popular. It makes up the vast majority of anal porn. So you know what that’s okay that most women aren’t satisfies or to you. You lack social queues which is one trait of criminals. I’d rather women stay safe and with good men who appreciate them.
Also what’s sad is that you’d pick a chick who likes anal over a woman who is even more rare. A woman who actually knows how to be a companion and even a wife. I’d say they have MORE to offer than what you’re looking for and too good for you anyways. You’re a blue anon because people like you are scum.
@Orangesareyummy "You based your assessment of a human’s worth based on anal." Again, point to where I said their only worth was based on anal. If you can't then stop being an idiot. "Also most guys who ask women for anal like it because they know it hurts women." lol retarded. How is that any different from what the other user was complaining about: "Most women like anal" "You lack social queues which is one trait of criminals" You lack reading comprehension, another trait of criminals. "I’d rather women stay safe and with good men who appreciate them." That's right, I appreciate them.
Well anal is very porn based and yeah most guys who like anal watch anal porn. Anyone with any sense would know the vast majority of women don’t like to be hurt. That’s just common sense unless they are jntk an alternative lifestyle. All you have to do is go to a porn site and you’ll know why some guys ask for it. They not only like hurting women because they know women don’t like it, they also lack social queues that help people adapt to others. That’s a trait of most criminals.
Oh I’m listen ok nag and reading. I just know you’re a lying sack of shit.
@Orangesareyummy OH so in other words I didn't say any of the nonsense you're accusing me of due to your raging ignorance, but you *just know* I'm lying. Okay, whatever. You haven't even been able to articulate the premise of my position, which means you couldn't even begin to discern whether it's a lie or not. You just misunderstood what I was saying, took it to an extreme place to demonize me instead of being reasonable and now you won't correct yourself because you're obtuse. Maybe try some Socratic method next time
No I just don’t trust you. I don’t believe much of anything anymore though.
@Orangesareyummy Even though you've been given no actual reason not to trust me -- everything I've said is valid and fine -- you've just decided like magic that I'm wrong somehow. Not through any substance of argumentation or evidence, just "I know you're wrong". Genius. Fkn genius. If that's all there is then get out of this thread and let someone more intellectually honest interrogate my ideas.
If yoh had anything new to say, I’d have been more interested. All the same rhetoric though. I’m going to get back to people who love me now. I treat them like gold.
@Orangesareyummy The *whole* thing is still new to you because you didn't even get the first part. It's "not interesting" because you've presumed you understand my point and tucked it away in a box because of your bias. You *literally can't* represent my point accurately and honestly -- a failure of reading comprehension, but I can represent yours accurately. You can't even begin to have an argument when you fail at the first step to even understand what was said.
I just swallowed my fiancé’s cum. Lol!!! Bye.
@Orangesareyummy Cool, stick to what you're good at and leave *coherence* to the people with a brain.
Nope sorry hater. I listened to what you said. I see through you though. Ha!
@Orangesareyummy Exactly what you would say if you didn't understand anything. Quick, you better get back to running away from the argument before you pop a blood vessel from thinking too hard.
Lies
I can't speak for other guys but I don't ask for it from a girlfriend right away because i want us to be comfortable together first. But I will eventually broach the subject because anal is important to me and I won't stay with a girl long term if she isn't into it.
They might not be into it, but they might be doing it for you because they think you're into it.
You never have to do anything. But many guys do enjoy having anal sex, so of course they pursue it. You do have the option to say "no."