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Why do guys get offended when I ask them if they have been tested or is clean?

I asked this guy that I met online if he had been tested and his response was, "Now I am annoyed. I haven't had sex enough to even wonder if I should get tested." He also doesn't want to wear condoms so I totally ditch him, unfriended him, and blocked him.

Why did he get offended by that did I ask it in the wrong way? My sexual health is very important to me and if someone refuses to get tested or wear protection I will not sleep with them.
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  • Quite frankly, I’d say the only reason a guy would get offended over you rightfully and respectfully asking if he has been tested is if they are just incredibly selfish and self absorbed. I mean, that reaction? Utter lack of any maturity or logical thinking! Those types of guys feel as if they are somehow entitled to sexual pleasure with no prior precautions or any given respect. Another reason (more cynical and assuming) could be if they are worried or know they are not clean, so they cover it up and act all offended in hopes you wouldn’t push.

    • Well I definitely dodged a bullet.

    • Oh for sure!!

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  • You should have asked for a full doctor's report before sex. :)

    • Loool

    • @Shihab-91 Nah fr fr people have std's and won't tell you they have it.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Perhaps he is embarrassed that he is in a position where your question is relevant and he has not taken care of that detail.

    I don't do casual sex now. I do get tested after a relationship ends. At my age - and my partners' ages - pregnancy is not a concern. If we are both tested and clean, then there is no need to use a condom and sex is much more enjoyable without.

  • I'm not sure why he got offended but his response was definitely wrong. I've asked women if they've ever been tested before and they have never blown up on me. It's just part of the adult conversation you have to have before sex. Maybe you didn't have to block him but he definitely over reacted.

    • That's what I told him that he had the wrong response. It doesn't matter how much sex you had, you should get tested after every partner. I told him I get tested every 3 months and can share my results to prove it but he just got even more mad. I meet up with him a few months ago and we just made out but I refused to sleep with him because he didn't want to wear a condom and his response was," I never got tested before and if I have something you should have it too." and I'm wtf. I'm going to get tested again even though I didn't sleep with him.

    • I had a few guys get mad at me for asking them if they got tested. My ex being one of them and I never understood it. I thought that they should be happy that I care about my health and there's.

    • Whenever I get asked if I'm tested/ if I have stds, I get excited because 1- I know im clean And 2- that means she probably wants to fuck lol

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  • Because guys are dickheads.

    Also his response shows lack of understanding with STD’s.

    Just having sex once unprotected can lead to anything, it’s a lottery.

    It’s very important that both sides are open about testing.

  • maybe he associates that with the notion he is a man whore.

  • Weak boy. If you asked me as a partner, I'd get tested again if it meant not having to use condoms.

    • Yeah he just wanted me to sleep with him unprotected no questions asked. Luckily I am smart enough not to do it.

  • Bhahahaha lol

  • https://youtu.be/6NM3yd2lrUc

  • Anyone who is insulted by that is an idiot.

  • Cos it’s 2020 and people are sensitive snowflakes who think they are entitled to Be offended by everything

    i wouldn't care

    • It’s a perfectly logical question, why the duck would you get offended by it?

  • You had every right to ask him, any was very insensitive to you. I’m glad you dumped him.

  • Sounds reasonable, only a jerk would get mad at that

  • Because guys don’t want to be safe about it. They just want a slam bam thank you ma’am. But only the smart ones understand how it works.

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