Why do guys get upset if their partner flashes her breasts in a non-sexual context?

For example at a sports game. It's not flirtatious or anything, it's fun and the crowd loves it.

The only explanation I can think of is that they have a patriarchal mindset that they own their partner's body, so they think nobody else should get to see her breasts.

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  • I would have no problem with her doing that as long as she wasn't doing it as a come on to somebody.

    I mean, what's the problem with tits? Everyone knows that women have them. And most women's clothing is designed to show them off. Even bras are designed to lift, shape and accentuate them.

    If my wife wears a push up bra and displays cleavage, it doesn't upset me. In fact, it makes me proud. I'm totally okay with her going braless. I'm not afraid that she is seeking other guys. But so what if she catches some admiring eyes?

    I think boobs are delightful. They bring joy. I don't think tiny bikinis, low cut blouses, short crop tops, stretchy tops, cleavage, braless, side boob or nipple points are promiscuous or indecent. I don't think that boobs are indecent. They're beautiful. And the sight of them isn't a signal that she is looking to hook up. They are more of a signal that she is comfortable in her own skin, finds the clothing comfortable, and doesn't give a fuck about prudes or social conventions.

    I want to go back and talk about women's outfits and cute behavior. Does anyone think that cheer leaders aren't deliberately sexy? Their outfits and dance moves? What kind of guy would be jealous if his wife or girlfriend was a cheer leader? I'd be proud as hell. Right after high school, my wife was on the Cincinnati Bengals squad for one season. I was impressed when I heard about that.

    So how much more over the line is it to flash tits for a moment? I've seem women do it lots of times, and it makes my day every time. But it doesn't make me want those women. It just makes me happy. Flashing boobs is a celebration.

    I think you're right, guys who have a problem have a patriarchal mindset. They think they own their partner's body. "Nobody's allowed to see her tits except me, me me!" "I'll kick anybody's ass who looks at my partner." They're jealous, insecure and controlling. They don't trust their partner.

    I say it's up to the woman, not her partner. And he should grow up.


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  • I think the question is why would you flash your breasts in the first place, because i dont see how that makes you a die hard patron of a sports team.


    I get it you you live once
    Maybe ill just pull my dick out at a hockey match and justify it as faith to my team , not a band wagoner

Most Helpful Girls

  • Pfff, if I do that my boyfriend would be the one screaming his lungs out going "WOOOOOOOOO THAT'S. Y WOMAN!"

  • Because most guys don't like the realization that their girlfriend is a dumb bimbo.

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  • My wife is welcome to flash her breasts whenever she wants, I won't get upset at that. Bonus points if I'm within the viewing range!

  • The crowd loves it because it IS sexual. She is not flashing her hands or her feet. Those would be non-sexual. Not saying anyone has to get upset, but it is sexual.

  • So, flashing your chest that a sports game is non-sexual? But the crowd loves it? Why, exactly, do you think the crowd loves it? It’s definitely sexual.

  • Nah, if it's something you're doing on the regular, then it's nothing. But if it's something you're doing on the fly, then of course he's going to be.

  • Reason being they dont want people 2 see girl boobs. They are suppose 2 be off limits. I said let her do what makes her happy.

  • In my case, I don't love seeing women's breasts in sports contexts, it disgusts me.

  • Do they? As far as I'm concerned, if she wants to flash her tits, go right ahead and flash `em!! They're just tits. Everybody knows what they look like, everybody knows that girls have them. What's the big deal? Besides, the way some people dress today, the only thing she's REALLY flashing is her nipples!!

  • I agree that they must believe they own her body, although I suspect they are looking at all the others flashing.

  • Because he wants things like that to be reserved for him... it kind of cheapens the intimacy you share with your boyfriend if everyone at the ball game knows what your tits look like. It's about what's contextually appropriate in a situation.

  • Any flashing of breasts is misconstrued as sexusl unfortunately.

  • Calling slut shaming "patriarchy" is stupid.
    The guy she is dating DOES own her body, and she owns his body, thats just how being exclusive and setting boundries works.

  • I would be very upset with my partner if she did that. She would not be the person I know she is if she did.

    • Why?

    • I think it's cheap and shallow. Her body is worth more than cheap entertainment for random people she will never see again.

  • I wouldn't care. She can flash her boobs anytime anywhere she wants. They're her boobs.

  • She can do it at the park/beach/resort/campsite/swimming pool. At the sports stadium where 80,000 people can see and take snapshots of her and upload it to twitter? Are you wanting her to become infamous and the subject of gossip in the whole country? Use some common sense unless you want her to become like Janet Jackson.

    • Times have changed. These days a nipple doesn't make the evening news, let alone be the talk of the decade like what happened with Janet Jackson.

  • I have had a girl flash during a concert or some events before and never really got to upset but I might of said you probably shouldn't do that. I just think you never know who could be around seeing it. One time I had a girl flash during a football and a security guard kicked us out.

  • I don’t my wife can flash who she wants to

  • Because no man wants a hoe for a girlfriend or Wife, and this is hoe behavior.

  • My hubby likes it when I flash my tits in public

    • He must be proud to have an appealing wife.

    • @Red_Arrow yup.

  • I used to encourage the wife and her girlfriends to flash truckers while we were on the road. Every time they did, the truckers sounded the air horn in appreciation.

  • Doesn't bother me at all

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