Why do guys underestimate women?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is telling me about this girl he used to date. And they were going to meet up to diddle yesterday, but after an hour of sexy talking and naked photos, she said "she wasn't horny anymore" so i explained if you and her were guarenteed to sleep together and she cancelled out of the blue, no emergency or details of why just "im not horny anymore" she found someone else, and that's fine it's not like you guys were exclusively seeing eachother. And he was like she told me she was nervous... So this girl you dated? And diddled? Was nervous to sleep with you? I said "dude, don't be a simp. I'm shy and nervous during sex but if i send pictures better believe I'm getting shyly dicked down" from my experience being shy, i have the most confidence texting, but when i call you or get in the car with you. I turn into a virgin. She was texting confidently, calking and talking with so much confidence and sending some pretty intense pictures (i was described them, not shown) I'm trying to explain this to him, but its like he can't fathom a girl doing this to him. I said EVERYONE has done this at least once, stop underestimating us.

[Spookydood]

Guys are generally clueless about gals, especially around your age. Tell the poor guy he's been had. I mostly want to talk about your proclivities tho, if you're really forward via text but more shy in person, make sure you warn the guy beforehand. I had an experience with a girl we were both early 20s, and the shift from texts to in person almost gave me whiplash. Had to make sure she was still interested in getting going.

[Asker]

Oh i let them know. I say im shy in person. And they say thry dont believe because of how i text. Next thing you know i get in the car and I'm breathing really hard. They are like did you have to run? I'm like No ✨Anxiety✨ and once they make me laugh. Im little more relaxed but still shy i prefer dark sex, if not i cover my face because i know it looks weird. I would need like 4 shots to get abit relaxed, but i know how uncomfortable people are about that now, because they are saying once you are under the influence you can't consent. Even though i have only been drunk once after having 7 shots of vodka 3 of tequila a bottle and a half of Hennessey a joint and some rum. But i don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable with me, so if i fuck i do it nervous and sober

[Spookydood]

Does sound like social anxiety, maybe a confidence issue. If a guy is into you enough to take him to bed, I'd wager he doesn't find you unattractive. Social lubricant is fine in small amounts, but sloppy drunk sex isn't how you make a great impression 90% of the time. 😂 But yeah, if you can do you and it isn't getting in the way of a good time, keep it up.

[Birdlegs]

Holy freak that’s a lot for your first time getting drunk😭

[Asker]

@Birdlegs i have a high tolerance for everything. Lol i dont get drunk just like that. Three or four drinks dont efrect me. I prefer only straight alcohol when i drink, but sometimes girls want to get together and have those fruity drinks which i hate. Not a fan of wine or those drinks. I prefer white liquor but i enjoy dark as well.

[Asker]

Lol to be honest i don't even go out as much, so i couldn't do the social lubrication if i tried. Yeah i know, i have testing anxiety. But when it comes to just hanging out or even getting the guys number, Im good. I seem so confident. But during job interviews or tests or dates, hooking up. I see it as a test, gauging my skill, seeing if I'm capable of getting the job and it makes me extremely nervous. My mom constantly made me feel like i couldnt do things correctly, and would even go so far as to test me, fuck shit up to see if i would fix it correctly, say a certain thing to see how i respond. So tests make me very VERY nervous lol and a lot of things in life is considered a test. But its just as you said, confidence issue. 😌

[SamFromFL]

Sounds like he doesn’t have much experience. Women can be even more sexual than men and many of them have lots of options to get dick. Society prevents them from sharing as much openly due to double standards but def women get theirs and some

[Asker]

EXACTLY. I can't believe he bought "I'm shy and nervous" dude... I'm a prime example of "shy" and "nervous" and will get fucked while telling them not to look at me or in dim light. It was insulting yet cute that he thought we weren't capable of things like that. Some guys think that they got the girl to let them "smash" and go brag about it when a lot of times its a wait and see thing. We couldn't care what so called "game" was being said. We look at you and say "I'm horny, should i go for him or wait it out? He's not that bad, nice body, he looks like he can etc. Fuck it" thats the conversation in our mind, nothing else. Nobody made us change our decision, it was already made when you walked up. And if we aren't attracted nothing you say can change it. I love that a lot of men think they say the special words and ladies legs fly open, we've already decided if we want to entertain you when you make eye contact or come over. If a lot of men knew a woman's mind...

[SamFromFL]

You are right, women make the sexual judgement in less than a minute. But many feel like they can’t be forward or they are labeled as slutty so they wait for the guy. I’ve been out with girls and add some alcohol and they will point to every sexy guy in the bar, without even turning around. And if they are ovulating forget about it lol. Guys learn this over time and some can keep up

[Asker]

EXACTLY, and yes when I'm ovulating lol i will approach a guy, grab his hands look him in his eyes and rub it and kiss my hand on his and flirt their asses up, and they will give me their numbers easy. Imagine a 5'7. Girl making a 6'4 man blush.. It pretty funny. Some guy said "you can just marry me now" I'm a sweet talker when I'm ovulating lol and then i when i get their number i blow a kiss and watch them walk away. If they are with friends they look like WTF just happened?

[SamFromFL]

Being 6’6 that’s happened once or twice and I had to learn that’s when girls are in heat. Confidence is sexy

[Asker]

Yes it is lol