Why do guys watch porn?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have had a lot of talks about him watching porn, he used to be subscribed to a site and would scavage through his junk box just to look at the pictures of naked girls i even caught him watching those vine after dark videos once. Like every single one that was on that worldstarhiphop site which really hurt because it made me feel like he preffered to look at other girls than the one he has at home. He has calmed down, or so i think, he does have the private mode on his phone and he can always delete stuff off of his history which i recently caught him doing so he's just sneakier about it. He has an obsession with big butts and although he swears thats not all he is about, thats all he looks at. He was even following a page on instagram with nothing but asses. I send him pictures, he records me all the time, & i send him videos but he still has the need to look at other asses and other videos. I dont get it? I used to be insecure, even started taking protein and doing intense butt workouts but I have two kids and after 3 years im not about to try to change myself. I have a good body for 2 kids and if he can't appreciate it then he should just leave me and go on a big booty quest. Back to my question though, considering his phone is FULL of my nudes and sex videos and solo videos and everything else you can think of, why does he still feel the need to watch some other girl get fcked online or look at pictures of asses that millions of other guys are jacking off to online?

[AustinMan]

This may help, which is my hope and intent. It may also inflame the situation, which I would sincerely regret. That said, you asked so please don't shoot the messenger if you don't like the answer.

Okay. Let's take a major step back and try to not make this all about you, shall we? When a man engages in sex with a woman, it's a complicated affair, pun intended. He has to take into account her needs, boundaries, stated preferences, feelings and a host of other factors. All this before he even gets to the part about his needs and trying to achieve the closeness he seeks. You wouldn't have it any other way. You want a considerate, caring lover, no doubt.

When he watches porn, it's all about two things: fantasy and convenience. If you really, honestly expect him t never lust after another woman in his head, you sadly mistaken. He was a girl watcher when he found you and finding you, no matter how satisfying, doesn't kill that desire to look. There's an old saw that is absolutely true: when a guy's through looking, he's through. He is, to put a point on it, NEVER going to stop looking at other women. Nor do you want him to.
It's that sexual desire that's the engine of your intimate relationship. Nor do you stop looking at attractive men nor does he want you to for the same reason. That he looks at other women and porn says nothing about how he feels about you.
So porn is about him fantasizing. It's also where he likely finds new ideas to bring to your conjugal bed that you'll hopefully find very entertaining.

The other reason men watch porn is convenience. He doesn't have to take all those factors I mentioned into consideration. It's just him and his dick.

Bottom line: fear not!! Just relax and enjoy the man in your life and ignore the porn. Or better yet, offer to watch it with him. It makes a great warm up.

[5k1nny]

Well I couldn't tell you exactly why he did such things unless I spoke with him personally. However I would say perhaps he does it because he has a high sex drive? He could also be addicted to pornography, or he could just innocently enjoy looking at asses. I understand your concern and I do think it's a bit much for him to have that much porn on his phone at all times, but what you need to realize is, those women are just faceless asses on camera for entertainment, they aren't a threat because they are merely sex objects at that point. And looking at a big ass on video is a far cry from actually interacting with a flesh and blood woman in his everyday life. He obviously finds big asses attractive, but he is probably more than happy with you the way you are. Porn is simply a fantasy, it isn't real life and it's strickly entertainment, so you shouldn't worry too much. Although I agree he should hold off on it a bit.

[tinyclit]

That's just human nature. Perhaps not your nature, but certainly his and most males. The worst think you can do is react negatively to it and make him go "underground" and do it in secret. It needs to be something you approve of. Be positive and channel it in your direction. It sounds like with your private porn pictures and videos you have done that very well. That's a good thing. So what's causing your residual negativity? Are you not getting all the sexual attention you need? Have you talked to him about your needs and still not gotten him to satisfy them? Is it the porn or is it something else? Hint: It's almost always something else and the porn is just a diversion.

[Asker]

I must say you are on to something. He isn't an affectionate person towards me at all, & he only acts like he wants to be with me when he's ready to go. Right after sex, he will go back to ignoring my existence lol. won't even look at me again for the rest of the night. So maybe it is not so much the porn. Hmmmmm.. Lol

[Blackjack_]

I am actually having a big problem with this in my current relationship. I feel like it's kind of ok when you're under 18 and you just have to get it out a few times a day, but when you reach your mid twenties and have a willing partner and you still choose your hand over her, there's a problem. With him.

Yesterday I actually looked at naked guys and dick pics on instagram infront of him and made comments about how big they are. And then I made a joke about his size. He wasn't too pleased with that. Just feels good to turn the table for once. Sick of it

[Asker]

If i did that, i would never hear the end of it. Never! My boyfriend wouldn't learn from it just guilt trip me into apologizing and taking it back. Hopefully yours learned a little from it.

[Blackjack_]

Nope exactly the same like yours. In the end im the bad one and i give him stress. Its nor changing. So what am i doing now? I smile, i be happy, i let him do his thing BUT next time he wants to bang, which is usually on the weekend, since je can't use the laptop since im home, i WILL refuse him. He doesn't wanna learn so he gotta take consequences

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

You never watched that episode f That 70's Show did you?

[MrOracle]

If only there was a MyTake article on this subject...

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a5423-why-men-watch-porn

[JuicyBrain]

@Ozanne just made a take about this, you should really read it...
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11052-for-the-ladies-being-at-peace-with-porn

[HighValue]

When single it is understandable, but when in a relationship, the only reasons I can think of are so they can get that kind of pleasure whenever they want if they aren't having sex as often as they want within the relationship, or if they have fantasies that they are too ashamed of to do in real life with their partner. I don't know any other reasons.

[Nicolás25]

A lot of times men will find something attractive to bust a nut because its visually stimulating but in bed they like something entirley different I look at porn although I'm in a relationship I don't when we are having sex like every day but when we don't and I can't see her for be it work or what not I do jack off and typically at girls that don't look like her but that's because although I find my girl really attractive when I'm looking at porn I go to release sexual tension not to actually enjoy of that persons body and share an intimate experience.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

Same reason ladies watch reality TV k dramas or soap operas and rom coms

[ClariceOwen23]

The same reason a lot of of women watch it. They get pleasure form it

[NYkid27]

I don't know. I used to watch porn pretty much everyday but now that I have a girlfriend I'd rather look at pictures and videos of her

[Asker]

Lucky girl (: every guy should be like this especially if she's going out of her way to send you nudes or make videos for you or even letting you record her.

[blondfrog]

Because it gives us pleasure.

[EnglishEuropean]

Because naked girlies.

[Vlover69]

Because it helps hime get off if u are not giving him head or having sex he will wank off to porn, I know my girlfriend gives me head every day to keep me off it, but she gladly does it because then when we have sex I can last a lot longer

[nygiantsfan]

girls watch porn too

[Noend]

Not all guys have same mind :/

[Anonymous]

I expect you to watch porn
I expect you to find other guys attractive

THAT IS REALITY
I do not expect you to cheat
and fuck another guy

huge difference

[Anonymous]

because we get aroused looking at hot naked chicks. and if they're fucking and sucking dick, it's even more arousing.

[Anonymous]

Do not control him, that's not cool

[Anonymous]

Because it's never about one girl. You can't be the only women he looks at, it just doesn't work like that.

[Opinion Owner]

I feel like I want to elaborate more but I can't really put it into words. Concerning your update. I don't think I'd be "concerned," I might be a bit bothered but I get that she finds other guys hot too.

[Anonymous]

Male sexuality just tends to be different than female sexuality. Men are sexually attracted to a woman's body parts, as oppose to being attracted to the woman herself. We can't help it, and you shouldn't make him feel bad about it.

Men are also naturally drawn to variety. A guy will be more attracted to whatever type of girl that he isn't with just do to his need for variety. Porn allows a man to get that variety without being unfaithful.

[Asker]

Why would he be with me then, if he is attracted to big asses and i dont have one?

[Opinion Owner]

A woman's value is greater than just the sums of her parts. Guys just like variety. He is going to enjoy looking at a woman that looks different than the girl he has at home no matter what that girl looks like. It has nothing to do with the girl not being good enough, or him not loving her. Just because he enjoys looking at different types of women, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. There is no perfect body. There is no perfect ass. Guys just like variety.

[Opinion Owner]

@updated. Yes a woman can can go online and watch porn and it won't bother me. Or she can read erotic books or whatever else gets her off. Those things aren't real, and therefore are not a real threat to anyone. The guy bagging your groceries is real, so I can see why he would be upset. I know a lot of women that can't stand me even mentioning a girl I know in real life no matter how innocent our encounter was. What is more important is the relationship the two of you have. If he is neglecting you in some way then you need to try and fix that as oppose to blaming what he chooses to do privately.

[Anonymous]

It causes our brain to secrete a chemical which gives a pleasant, exciting sensation. Basically it's the same reason girls like to look at cute animals but with masturbation.

[Opinion Owner]

To your update: Then your guy is a hypocrite.