Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Why do I have to be a pornstar in the bedroom to keep a guy around?
Anonymous
I don’t know if it’s just me or what but in the past year or so the men I’ve hooked up with (which has been 3 total) have been so incredibly demanding in the bedroom that I had to ask two of them to leave without even finishing the act. “Let me face fuck you” “Can I choke you” “You like anal, right?” And just a general rough demeanor all around. I’m not sure if it’s my age or if men are just relying on porn for sexual experiences more but I’m starting to get really bummed out. Anyone else experience this?
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8 32I can see why girls like older men.
those guys are dicks!
that’s so immature.
Guys your age are idiots. Men should care more about a girls wants and needs and tailor their actions to her. The guy should focus on your wants and needs
They don't see you as having anything else to offer. Plus they likely have no intention of seeing you again, so they might as well ride you for all they can get.
too many boys think porn is real
Blame porn and the women who like to be disrespected in the bedroom.
Maybe you should get to know them a bit better before you get naked with them.
One word: pornification.
Those things have become part of the mainstream sexual experience now. Is that because of porn? Probably, at least in part. But it's not just guys who want them. Just sayin. More often than not the women I've been with loved rough sex and things like choking and anal. They made it clear they wanted to do them and enjoyed them.
There are plenty of guys who don't want or expect those things. You just need to find one. Maybe stop doing the casual hookup thing and try dating.
I’m good on dating. Dating implies you want something forever and I don’t so, that wouldn’t be fair.
Well you're getting what you deserve then.
lol whatever. You’re acting as though everyone wants marriage or a long term relationship, it’s not true. But most people do want sex that satisfies their needs. I *obviously* will have to try harder but there are hookups out there for people like me.
I know not everyone wants marriage or a long term relationships, but if you do lots of casual hookups you have to understand that you're going to get a lot of sexually incompatible guys. That's just part of the game. One of the benefits of a relationship is that you find someone who is compatible and stay with them so there will be no more surprises. Not saying that's right for everyone, but you need to understand what you're getting yourself into with casual hookups.
I do, but with my boyfriend who says that exact thing “I wanna face fuck you”. Generally he’s understanding and doesn’t demand anything from me such as anal because I won’t do that.
No and I don’t treat women like that either
I dont think that you do. I dont expect anything from females other than enjoying what we do together.
I would have asked all that even before the first date. If you are not gonna put out, see ya. Face fuck, anal, swallowing is that to much to ask for?
Yes. And you’re too old to be that demanding in the bedroom.
Oh hell no i am not that old to ask that.
because you're competing with other women who will do that shit. Lots of women get off on getting choked, plenty will let you facefuck them, and hell it's not even uncommon for a woman to let you do anal before the 3rd date anymore
Well I guess I’m single forever then.
hope isn't lost, you could find a guy with no other options to choose from
I think I’m good on that one.
Porn has warped modern man's brain. They need harder stuff to keep them satisfied, this is why choking is on the rise in bedrooms.
I can relate to this on so many levels. But trust me it always gets better.
After been used and humiliated by so many guys I finally found my Mr. Right who gives me the respect that I deserve and understands the meaning of "No".
I think it's a coincidence and you just happened to pick 3 guys like that. Or if they are all the same "type" of guy, maybe try others.