Why do men treat their sons and daughters differently when it comes to sex?

[shadyresidence]

- I seen a video of man having a gender reveal and he was so sure that he was gonna have a son, and was talking about playing catch and stuff. He found out he was having a daughter and his mind went to his daughter having an onlyfans, having sex for a cheeseburger, and just everything sex related.
A lot of men were justifying his behavior
- A famous rapper revealed to the world that he gets his daughter's hymen checked to see if she's still a virgin
A lot of men were justifying his behavior
- Another famous rapper got his son who was 12 (or something) molested by an adult female prostitute
A lot of men were justifying this behavior, even going as far to say that he was ensuring he wouldn't be gay
Why is this behavior okay for both sons and daughters in the eyes of many men.
NOTE : I know its not all men and that women can have this behavior as well. But its pretty popular amongst men so i want to know why

[btbc92]

It's not that the behavior is justified. The question is ARE people going to wait for marriage to have sex, stop watching porn, masturbating, get married early, not lust, treat sex as a sacred act between a man and a woman who is MARRIED? No friends with benefits, No hookups, No ONS? No. The answer in this world. No. People don't give a dang anymore.

It is popular for one thing and one thing only as it is for women: Revenge of the sexes.

Many blame feminism, but that is only 10% of the problem. Most of us would say the middle ages. But again. That is only 15% of the problem. Many say patriarchy, others say it's just the Bible and how it's based on religion. THAT is not true. God's standard has always been this and it never changed, and it won't, thank God:

1. Train up your child where they should go and they will not depart from your words/teaching.
2. Wait for marriage to have sex.
3. Every other sin is done outside of the body. But when you look at poor eating, smoking, excessive drinking, premarital sex, etc, is a sin against your own BODY.
4. You are told not to lust after another person. Many assume in marriage it's okay, no it is not. Period.
5. 1 man for 1 woman and 1 woman for 1 man. Where is that happening? People are having 10x the amount of partners when your 1st sex partner should be your ONLY partner for LIFE unless one of you dies, then you're free to remarry except for adultery.
6. Sex is a marriage and marriage is all about having sex. The moment you have sex, your married illegally in God's eyes. That's why if you can't hold out, get married. Since most people refuse to control themselves they just do it anyway. The world just tells you to wear a condom, get on birth control, do it safely. How is that SAFE?
7. Marriage age is mostly at 16 in the USA, 13 or 12 in other countries. Is anybody looking to marry legally at that age? The majority is not. Yet you're married by having sex anyway. You have 8 -13-year-old husbands and wives for a hot minute, remarried by the next weekend. Unmarried in 3. How can you allow sex, yet nobody is mature for marriage? This is backward living. Yet it is the ways of the WORLD. And it is acceptable.

There is more. But that is the state of the world is it male or female. So to talk about why men treat different sexes differently with their children:

1. They have slept around before and done it often. They see themselves in high sexual regard. A woman who sleeps around is only acceptable if she uses that experience for his pleasure only. They now teach their sons this instead of waiting for marriage and not dating or marrying a woman with many partners. THAT sounds more better than the double standards they have.
2. If you look at the movie "KIDS", men lie to get in a woman's panties. You have a 16-17-year-old having sex with a 12 barely 13-year-old. I will not spoil the movie if you haven't seen it. It is just disgusting. But that is reality. Can you really blame the so-called prudes and asexuals if THAT is what sex is? Perversions and call it normal? It's disgusting how people treat it and you. For a woman, we have a 100% chance of not only getting pregnant but sick. That's what happened to my late mother, and she died of cancer because of the HPV of similar circumstances. The same thing. I now have to think about the man who gave my mother that and now she's not here.
3. Men lack trust. Women sadly lie just as men do. Men used to get away with lying. NOW the roles are somewhat in reverse and the same. Most women lie, but men are learning to double triple lie, and the women bounce back with quadruple lies more. In other words, who can lie the best. This behavior of any person is disturbing.

[btbc92]

So to answer all of those examples in order: 1. The father's reaction is reasonable and logical. That is the sad reality of many teenage girls and boys. They get sexualized before they're born, they dumped this after their born. Their exposed to this by their parents, family, friends, neighbors, people in general they don't KNOW. The television, the music, etc, how can they NOT? They will mimic what they see because this is now the standards and the reality. How can you not expect your teenage daughter to not be in a two-piece suit, if you're buying her clothes that mimic this as a babe, and then she sees this EVERYWHERE, on the shows, in the movies, on the magazines, the internet, she hears and sees boys liking that sexually, her friends doing it, she will do whatever it takes to not only fit in, but to snag a guy. She thinks the only way to get a man's attention and his "love" is by sexualizing herself. It is social conditioning, peer pressure and it shapes her choices. You're a prude if you don't, a slut if you do. Men and society, or society in general is to blame. Either way, he is wrong. He is cursing his daughter to be a whore. All he and his wife have to do, is be an EXAMPLE as parents, not have that around here, don't do it themselves, teach her right from wrong and he needs to start loving and respect his daughter. I have to be responsible along with his wife to not fight and cause strife to the daughter. If they have no sexual morals in place, 99% of the time, she may do it or similar because there is no foundation for her to stand on.

[btbc92]

For the rapper. I don't blame him. Many screams, but I don't blame him. The clinics will lie, the kids will lie. But he is going way too far and it becomes intrusive and perversive. If you can't trust your daughter to make better sexual decisions, then you are the problem. Not the daughter. My father treated me similarly. Saying how if I get pregnant. CORRECTION, FATHER: I refuse to have sex outside of marriage and I am not getting pregnant outside of marriage EITHER. Let alone marry, have sex, and a child with a man who cannot be a father, husband, and a man of God. I'm still a virgin. I know what I am doing. Many will say she can do whatever she wants sexually, granted she is barely a woman. However, it is wrong to entice sexual deviance. If she gets pregnant, it's her dad's fault. Not really, she is responsible for having sex unless raped. If she doesn't, she is held back by her father. No, she has and was taught with morals. She is free to find whoever who will love her, not take her virginity and use and abuse her. Talk about a cycle of hell. The other one having his son raped and molested is NO father! He is a rapist, and the child needs to be out of his care. PERIOD. Anything that is not of God is NEVER okay. Regardless what the world WANTS. Since this is what the world wants, God will leave it be until people wake up and desire to do right by their own free will. He will not force anybody to get right. But this is why men do it, and there is more. But these are the top reasons why hence why I stayed to myself. People today are out of control. And they refuse to control themselves also. Damn if you do, damn if you don't.

[MeghanL]

Disregarding tabloid fodder & click-bait, & addressing what normal people do, a material difference between boys & girls is that boys do not become pregnant. So parents may keep closer control of their teenage daughters than their teenage sons.

That's not to say all boys get to run wild. I know many parents who are strict without regard to gender.

[shadyresidence]

Boys can get multiple girls pregnant though, that should be taken into consideration

[MeghanL]

All true!

[Andres77]

Culture... there's a mindset that you're talking about that I've heard of but not experienced myself. These guys are learning it from somewhere.

Society doesn't have one "master Dad and master Mom" from which to glean and learn what kids should be taught. Each parent who is suffering from something from their own childhood is just trying to figure it out. We're all getting different lessons and even if we had good lessons, teaching them effectively when your kid's attention is being dominated by social media is a horrendous challenge.

Finding healthy and successful role models helps. Celebrities are NOT good role models. They have nannies and private schools and can threaten their kids that they're going to put the age of their trust funds at 30 years old if they don't straighten up... while the rest of us can what, ground them? Take their phone? But then they can't do their online homework...

Parents are fighting society for the souls of our own kids. And our kids hate us because we try to hold them accountable.

If you have a boy you only have to worry about ONE dick.
If you have a girl you have to worry about ALL of them.

I'm getting off track. Sorry, I don't know. I'm still trying to figure it out myself.

[ChrisMaster69]

Not really seen it like that. However I think some of the answers where in your post at multiple points, This Rapper, That Rapper

also any parent who’s first thought is Onlyfans. Really needs help that’s just wrong on so many levels.

I think the above examples are down to culture, especially things like hymen checks, definitely more cultural / country of origin etc.

Things like all the above, homophobia, virginity, sex for cheeseburgers, are the types of thing, those living in 6th century think about,

yes boys and girls are treated differently

a boy going to a party will be asked next morning by his father, ‘well son did you get a girl last night’

whereas a girl will be asked ‘what time where you home, I hope you did not go with any boys’ or words similar,

it’s amazing how a boy can fuck around but not a girl, society eh.

the usual thing I have seen and experienced with the birth of a daughter, after the joy etc, is oh shit that’s me losing every argument, never getting in the bathroom, bang goes playing football (soccer), rugby, cricket etc.

[MrOracle]

It's not "popular" among men - it's just that those fairly rare exceptions get attention in the media BECAUSE they're unusual. It would be like assuming that all early 20s people live and behave like you saw in Jersey Shore.

If you watch TV crime dramas, you'd think that people are being raped or kidnapped or murdered on every street in America at least twice a week - but that's not the reality either.

"Normal" doesn't make the news because no one is interested in reading about normal. People are interested in the extreme - the strange and rare or controversial, and so that's what you see in the media - it's all one big tabloid that largely has left any semblance of actual journalism behind long ago.

[shadyresidence]

I say its normal amongst men not just because of what happens in the news but because of everyday experience from women who grew up with their father

[MrOracle]

I'm not saying that there is NO difference in how men treat boys and girls, but rarely is it as extreme as some of your examples. But the reality is that boys and girls ARE different, generally, and so it's normal to treat them differently and think of them differently in some minor ways - women do this as well.

[shadyresidence]

My examples were extreme because it shows how many men agree with the way of thinking even though they don't go to that extent. Also notice that i said i know women have this same behavior. But if we're talking differences between boys and girls, boys can literally get more than one girl pregnant while girls can only have a baby once a year. Just that simple fact should alarm parents and take precautions with their sons just like they do their daughters.

[MrOracle]

They mostly do, it's just that the precautions are different because the situation is different.

[NathanDavis]

Rappers are never a representation of most men or what is popular among men
they do not represent reality as reality is
they present a subculture, in a way they can profit from it
So what you saw is not about "many men", it is about those men in the video you saw

[shadyresidence]

Well I'm not trying to base it off of rappers, I'm basing it off of the various gossip instagram pages that posted about it. This one instagram page called domslivenews or something like that has a pretty high male following. They posted about the boosie situation and about a female teacher having sex with a minor boys who was her student, most of the comments were praising both the teacher and the rapper. And many of the guys were calling men who weren't okay with it gay

[NathanDavis]

well there you go, this is just an instagram gossip page, full of inadequate males... lol They are not men, and they are not an accurate representation of the male population in the US alone there would be around 150 million men you just can't get an opinion of all or most men, based of a group of bitter inadequate males.

[shadyresidence]

I gave you an example, which was the instagram page. But that doesn't change the fact there is a clear difference between how boys and girls are treated. It shows in society based on how many girls have been overprotected by their fathers compared to their son, a lot of young boys ignored as victims, girls slut shamed way harsher. There's many many examples that are real life things. I say this belief is popular amongst many men because it is and it shows everyday

[NathanDavis]

Sons and daughters can be raised differently, simply because men and women are different. There are better ways to do this, and there are very bad ways and stupid ways to do it.

[boggboss]

Because the way men see there sons is differnt from how they see there daughters is differnt if we are speaking in ganral for the first one I can't lie i would equally be a tad down if I found out I was going to have a daughter and thats with me wanting one but the fears I have for one I dont feel I'm as equipped to deal with as if I had a son with the advent off how open people are to showing off there bodies online these days and how it can effect women worst

For the second I remember when t. i came out and said it and it was yucky as for why people agreed with it as a whole in the west many still do push females virginity as a thing to cherish is it fair ofc not but thats how people see it would I do the same no


Lastly the thing with the dad is just how some retards are they believe that young boys can't be molested or raped by women its a retarded stance but one many people agree with

[shadyresidence]

The way men see their sons and daughters differently is how a lot of young boys end up being victims of sexual assault but feeling like they should've enjoyed it. I feel like we're pushing a narrative for men that they should like sex and that they can't be victims.

[boggboss]

Yes many people do push that belief but thats the way some people think and changing that view is near to impossible

[COMMODOREII]

Thats just messed up

[Twalli]

A girl can get pregnant and s guy can't. The possiblr negative reprecussions are greater for her.

[shadyresidence]

A guy can get multiple girls pregnant in one year, a girl can only have one baby each year

[shadyresidence]

Also men have to deal with child support, many of them don't even get custody of their children, many men go to jail for not being able to afford to pay child support, and if they do pay child support they will most likely drop out of school trying to make money

[Twalli]

Try to sell not getting to see your child, but having to pay for it pass in court now. Also pregnancy is tough, cumming isn't.

[shadyresidence]

Im not sure what you mean by that first part. But many men can't see their children but still are made to pay child support. And pregnancy can be tough but life AFTER cumming is tough and i have already explained how.

[shadyresidence]

Also if girls can get pregnant then why are we shielding our daughters from getting pregnant but not shielding sons from getting girls pregnant... like are men not also the root of pregnancy as well?

[Twalli]

It takes both, but the guy doesn't have to go through pregnancy. The only way a guy will have to pay child support but can't see the child is if 1) He doesn't want to or 2) The court decides it would harm the child. If the wife gets full custody and refuses to let the father see the child, he doesn't have to provide financially for it.

[bklynbadboy1]

Lmao Really that's crazy I'd treat them both the same guys can fall victim just like girl can

[Valnac]

In the past, it was the men’s job to get a job and raise a family.
Women were expected to maintain the home and raise children.
Nowadays it’s all messed up.

[Twenty2]

A key that opens every lock is masterkey but a lock that is opened through every key isn't a lock.

[Seppel]

I don't get it too