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Why do some men become a different person during sex?

I know a guy that was overly sensitive, very respectful and all in all just a huge simp for me. When we talk he seems interested but always afraid to touch me and very timid. However when we do have sex he is very forceful, dominant and inconsiderate (for instance he would fuck my face and cum in my mouth without warning me, pin me down and aggressively stick his tongue in my mouth and keep kissing me no matter how much I turn my face away etc etc). I can’t recognize him during sex at all. Is this normal?

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  • Your very erotic description is a little bit of a give away of what you're actually doing here, but i'm going to answer you anyway just cause I like reading my own shit just as much as you do.

    People act differently depending on 1) what they truly desire and 2) Which of those desire they think they can get away with at any given moment. Your guy is showing you who he really is in those moments because he believes that is the appropriate time to let that side of himself out.

    The guy you normally see is his mask. Or cage if you will. The cage he has learned to hide in because his true self would get him into trouble way too much to let it really show. But make no mistake. The way he is acting during sex is probably as close to the real him as you're going to get.

    If you like that, try to make him feel safe letting that side out in more types of settings than just sexual ones.

    • I liked it but I feel like he wouldn’t have acted this way if he really admired me. He claims all the time how much he is in love with me but I’m not sure. What do you think?

    • I think you're exactly wrong lol. He's acting that way because he like you so much, and feels so comfortable around you, that when he feels it's safe and you two are alone he can let his true self out. Do you like getting cum on your face too? That's a pretty big turn on for most guys. It certainly is for me. I love cumming on a girl's face.

Most Helpful Guy

  • First things first , my question to you is did you like it?

    It's pretty abnormal that he did some rough and dominant acts without proper communication at first
    It is essential that acts like these are consensual and enjoyed by both

    Now answering your question... Yes , people can be completely different when it comes to sex
    Your sexual preferences and kinks are not necessarily linked to your daily life character and personality outside the Bed

    There are women who are Bossy in their professional life but extremely submissive in bed at night
    Similarly there are men who are quiet and shy but very dominant and rough in bed

    • I liked it but I NEVER communicated it. It was just a coincidence that I liked what he did

    • Well then it's great.. stuff like these which both enjoy really enhance the sexual relationship, Enjoy

    • But the problem is that it wasn’t communicated beforehand. He was just lucky that I liked it. What I am also wondering is why he is so animalistic with me when he told me he was very tame and shy in bed with his exes. Did he have more respect for them because they looked better?

Most Helpful Girls

  • No. He mistakenly thinks he has a free pass. Consent can be removed whenever you feel unsafe.. and any number of other reasons. Same would go for any man who might feel a line is being crossed. There is kinky sex, but for men like him who sees it online or wherever assume there are no rules when he forces it on someone unsuspecting. Reality is people who sign up for legitimate rough sex have screening processes, respect and always rules.

  • All of the blood that’s normally in their brain is busy somewhere else at that time.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • It's not normal! And certainly, to brush it off as men become animals during sex! In general men love watching porn and just like many things in life, many believe what they do in the bedroom, is just how the woman loves it. If you enjoy it, its fine but if you don’t, communicate about it! Don’t think about his feeling nor if it will upset his macho. It’s your sex life… tell him what makes you happy and enjoy it together!

  • If you didn't like it then you would've told him to stop, but you didn't, so he didn't stop. You consented to sex and that's what you got.

  • No, you just pick guys who sexually abuse you.

  • That's what he repressed all day. His past mad him into the simp you see him as now. He probably is afraid of being more dominant in real life because he doesn't know how to conduct himself properly.

    But when he's in bed with you, he knows that you trust him, he knows that you recognize he has no ill will towards you.

    Is he a socially skilled person?

  • It is normal. As a species we have gone well out of our way to ensure sexual behavior has nothing to do with the rest of life. Of course the disconnect would only grow more stark.

    • He told to me that his exes complained about him not being proactive enough but with me he seems like a wild animal. How can this be?

    • What’s his height and weight?

  • Guy knows what you want deep down man.

    Sounds like me. Except I ain't no simp.

  • Do you like it? Have you talked to him about it?

  • It is definitely not normal for the person you're having sex with to be a casting call shoe-in for Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

  • They learned it somewhere along the way that that is how it is done. Either from porn, someone taught them, or a girl wanted it that way.

  • Oh yes honey many men become animal like during sex

  • He was raised on porn and thinks it's normal orr what women want. Tell him no.

  • it's like hunger. really affect you on the inside and changes behavior

  • He is immature and doesn't know how to communicate

  • Probably lost in the moment of horniness

  • it brings out the amnaul in them

  • dam lemme get some of that too

  • Sex shows the real face, uncensored!

  • He is desperate and loves rough sex. You should stop complaining and enjoy all sex positions. Lay down and submit your body to him. Let him do whatever he wants to do.

  • No..

  • dude watched too much porn.

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