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Sexual Health Why does him losing his erection make me feel so inadequate?
Jesslin412 Yoda
Feel like I can’t turn my man on. He was having trouble getting it and I knew I should just stop but he kept kissing me. And of course as soon as he got it he lost it. What else could we do besides viagra? It takes too long and we have to plan it
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1 47Consult with a doctor maybe he has some medical issues which need to be dignosed and cures for your long healthy sex life
You know, men can lose an erection or have a hard time getting it up because of many factors like stress or fatigue. It's probably not your fault, no need to feel guilty for that. I'm sure you're good enough if he chose you as his girlfriend.
Diet , lack of exercise , weight issues and other health issues can contribute to erectile disfunction. In some men it is hereditary but rare
How old is this dude?
He’s 32
Oof. Yeah, it's rare at that age but happens. Damn.
Tongue & finger's are still working. If that doesn't work right all the time the woman shouldn't have to go unpleased so use what's left until she's satisfied.
He usually just gives up when he loses his erection
Sorry to hear that. I hope thing's get better an he gives you the good pounding you really deserve! :) 100%
Have him try Cialis. It works all day. May keep him harder longer than Viagra
Talk. Communicate. Something is bothering him or he's stressed and/or tired. Period.
It’s not your fault.
guys from a young age believe that men have to be hung like a horse to be able to satisfy any woman. They worry that girls will laugh at his size.
They also think that if they can’t make a woman cum, she wount be satisfied.
Does he jerk off, especially to porn? He should stop that.
Coz you are married.
How old is he? Does it happen regularly?
Sometimes yes. Half of the time I’d say. 32. He’s overweight and gets in his head too. I feel like he didn’t want to. He can’t ever when I initiate
Overweight might be part of the problem, he should seek medical advice before taking viagra, have you tried foreplay, bj etc?
He’s gone to a dr. Yes we do foreplay and all that. It’s like if he don’t want to it don’t happen.
You try letting him experiment with your body. (Only way my fist ex got me an erection most of the time was after me fingering her.
Cause you are with a weaker more less of a man than you would like, it's normal.
Your man is ED patient, need good treatment for erection and hardness. There are many medicines to cure ED, not only Viagra
he should see a doctor...
He did. They weren’t much help
does he take medications that affect his ability to get an erection? perhaps see a dr who specializes in ED.. also see a cardiologist... could be a physical,,,, or psychological reason for it
I think it’s mostly in his head
Happy to discuss this
it is called erectile dysfunction.
Meet a doctor.
Because you’re gross.
Just kidding. There are thousands of reasons a man can’t keep it up and it rarely has anything to do with the woman. Don’t lose sleep over it. I have learned that he feels he let you down just like you feel you let him down.
For me it’s usually being fixated on not being good enough for her.
He could have Sexual performance anxiety if he has no problems getting it up when he masturbates. You might feel you’re not turning him on but it feels embarrassing for us men and make us feel like users. I say this because many times I’ve lost my erection during sex. I just gave my partner oral and she was contented.
He could be very nervous. I had trouble my first time. I had a hard time getting hard and I lasted a really long time. I loved the experience, but I was actually scared of messing up or her thinking I was inadequate. I understand why you would feel that way, but maybe talk to him about it. If he admits he is nervous then maybe focus on him to make him more comfortable. I would start with that and go from there. I doubt you're inadequate to him. I hope that helps