Why does it bother me that my boyfriend jacks off when im not home?

[AnnoyedGirlfriend]

I know its normal and that i shouldn't care but it still bothers me a little bit. He has a felshlight and i notice its been moved pretty much everytime i get home after i leave the house without him. I think i am bothered by it because we dont have a great sex life. We have sex once or twice a week (i want more but i dont think he can handle that) yet he wants me to jerk/blow pretty much everyday. I guess i feel like im getting slighted?

[6newtothis]

I definitely don't blame you for feeling that way. I think too many guys have trained their bodies to enjoy their hand more than their wives. Wives take more work because they are emotional beings. Too many men take the easier route. It's sad. I don't masturbate ever - only because I want to save it all for my wife. No wonder you two don't have sex more. He's relieving himself.

[InfoBot]

If his masturbation is a mere aside to a healthy sex life then it's not a problem. If, however, your sex life is suffering and you are being neglected then there clearly IS a problem. You also mention that he wants handjobs and blowjobs every day so how much does he actually do for you in return?

[OnePieceFan]

I've never had a boyfriend who didn't jack off. pretty much all guys are going to keep jacking off regardless of what you do

[Retief]

And girls?

[OnePieceFan]

@Retief girls will masturbate too, just not as a much

[DilligafB]

It bothers you because you can see that you don't control his every sexual release. If you did, you'd have more control over him. Deep down, you want that control.

[Berethor]

As first it's sound like your are overjealous, but if you think that he is having less sex with you because of it, you are right to be worried about it.

[swagswagswag]

It honestly sounds like he's nervous, in some sort of way. His sex drive clearly isn't the issue because he jacks off and wants head regularly, but the actual act of sex seems to be an issue. It could be because he thinks he's not very good at it, scared he won't last long enough or doesn't enjoy having to put forth so much effort when he could just jerk himself off.

[Alemon]

Performance anxiety 🤔 interesting perspective

[iampksharma]

that's something really stupid. why don't he have sex and jack himself off. that's strange , at least for me.

[Aniruddha95]

Put him into chastity then all he will want is sex with you.

[ProtocalXXIV]

Are girls not allowed to use dildos? Same principle... we all have needs... I'm sure he isn't going to his fleshlight because he prefers it. If he got it enough from you he wouldn't need it... but that's ok... at least he isn't cheating.

[0112358]

You should feel slighted. He wants you to get him off every day but “can’t handle” having sex every day?

What the hell.

[Alemon]

You're probably thinking "if the fleshlight, why not me?" You're also probably thinking "I'm giving him what he wants, why can't he return the favour (or at least try to)?"

Have you talked to him about this?

[AnnoyedGirlfriend]

Thats exactly what I'm thinking. Weve talked about me wanting more from our sex life and he said he needs me to put forth more effort into getting sex. He ssid its a turn on and lets him know thats what i eant and that im not just trying to jack him off. I haven't talked about the fleshlight much with him because I understand guys masturbate, im just hurt because he does it like 4 or 5 times a week but we only have sex once or twice. He also has a very high sex drive which doesn't help, even though mine is also pretty high

[bjkahlid]

He's got you wtf he using that toy for? Maybe he has a problem with the ole pornhub or he is scared to be more intimate with you. y'all gotta have some convos going!

[dardorsama]

Obviously he's addicted to masturbation since he prefers a hand job or a blow job over having sex.

It's normal to be bothered about since I can imagine that my wife prefers her sext toy over me if I'm not around.

My wife made it really clear that masturbation is allowed inside the house and I should come to her for my sexual needs. It was a really great policy from her since we can both know when was the last time where intimate and take of each other.

[mhmdjoudi]

That's the problem with masturbation that no one ever considers. It. Kills. The. Sex. Life

[Mrblueballs42]

Lol get rid of flesh light tell him its only going to be you or if that foesnt work chasity him.

[Latinomexchef]

That’s weird I would be but that time is a special time a man just does and be bothered or not it is going to happen there ha just no stoping it! lol lol!

[evank]

If he fucks that weird thing and pumps it full of more cum than he pumps into You, then yes you should be pissed. That's some fuckboy shit. Go get a man to fuck your brains out right and ditch him

[Freelancer95]

You don't think he can handle it? That's kinda for him to decide... If he's asking for oral and hand jobs then I'm pretty sure he is willing to go the full mile... Anyway, you've got nothing to worry about, at least he's not cheating.

[skeetskeetskeet]

Because your insecure...

[Imathinkin]

I don't know why he does it when your not home. He could at least have the courtesy to wait till your home and let you watch. It might be making you mad because you may be thinking if he will hide that from you then he is probably hiding some other stuff from you too and I'm thinking you would be right

[Imsexuallyconfused]

Hide his fleshlight and tell him if he wants pussy he better come get it

[Anonymous]

if you want it more and he keeps doing this just do it more problem solved

[Anonymous]

I guess he wants to get off quick when he wants it, you’re obviously bothered by it because you want it more often and see that he still has urges that he could be taking out on you