Because the truth is most of us Men are made that way , it’s in our genes. Sex is important to most men because it’s our way of feeling closer to a girl that we admire, that we find absolutely beautiful to our eyes , that we want standing by our side and want her in our arms , Sex makes us feel closer to her , makes us feel she values us and appreciates us , and makes us feel wanted , why so many Guy’s are territorial over a girl he gets into a committed relationship with , or a girl that he really wants to be with. If she gives him sex , he feels she really likes him and wants to be with him as well , I can’t speak for all guys’ because there are guys’ that hate girls’ that just like to fuck them and then move on to the next , and there are guys’ that don’t like sex at all , But a majority of men , want sex with a girl , to feel closer to her , hoping she feels the same way about him and stays loyal and faithful to him. When a girl doesn't want sex right away with a guy , he starts to feel she isn’t really interested in him , he might feel she is weighing her options and talking to other guys’ or he will think she is already screwing someone else. So many different things go through peoples’ minds these days , mainly assuming the worst case scenarios , We can pretty much all agree that Social Media played a huge part of brainwashing peoples’ minds to think this way. It’s sad that this society has come to this , and most people no longer trust in each other anymore , most people assume everyone is out to get them and trying to sabotage their lives. and use them , I can honestly admit it effected me as well at times mainly because I lived in a time , when social media wasn’t really a thing and people actually valued each other more than it is today. Everywhere I go today , I hear horror stories of people cheating and backstabbing and lying to each other. This person is getting divorced because their husband or wife cheated on them , so and so broke up , because so and so hooked up with someone else at a party etc. Sadly there is so much negative drama around all of us these days , making it harder for a lot of us to trust in each other these days. Relationships aren't lasting like they use to , Divorce rates are higher than marriage rates , because of all the nonsense we hear and read about these days. So finding true love today is sadly hard to find for a lot of people , mainly for this reason. Most people today have very selfish mindsets thinking they are always right and everyone else is wrong , it’s basically there way or no way , if you can’t remove selfishness for
Your partner don’t expect your partner to remove it for you , the only way a relationship will survive today is if both partners are on the same exact page with everything , making each other your top priority , if you can’t make your partner your top priority over everyone else in this world , you’re relationship will more than likely fail , and you will be back to being single again , if you can’t be honest with your partner from the very beginning of the relationship, then you are a selfish person that only cares about yourself , My advice for everyone these days , is to learn to remove selfishness if you want to experience true love with someone , it won’t always be perfect but you will gain respect and dignity for each other if you both learn to remove selfishness for each other , Love only grows when 2 people choose each other over everyone else on this world , if you can’t do that for your partner , then don’t get into a relationship period , why I no longer jump into relationships with girls’ Most people
Truly don’t know what they want when they meet someone new and exciting to them , they are just infatuated with each other , once the infatuation for each other dies down that’s usually when shit hits the fan. Don’t commit to anyone until you know for sure they are truly in it for the long haul and not the short haul. All we can do is treat someone the same way we want to be treated In return , for that to continue with each other , learn to remove selfishness and understand it’s ok to be wrong at times, no one is always Right ! Find someone that accepts you for you , that chooses you for you, that will stand by you as long as you stand by them , set boundaries with each other and the both of you follow those boundaries together , not the other way around. What you don’t want your partner doing to you , needs to be the same rules for you as well. Whether you agree or disagree , your partner needs to be your top priority , the same way they make you theirs , if they choose to walk away , let them go , and don’t change who you are as a person , they are the ones that changed because they were selfish. When someone truly loves you they stand by you as much as possible , they don’t need space from you , remember those words
What are you talking about? Men have not changed.
WOMEN are the gatekeepers of sex - it's WOMEN who decide who they have sex with and when. Men are the gatekeepers of relationship commitments/marriage.
The reason men "aren't waiting" is because women aren't making them wait, and the reason women aren't making them wait is because they've been trained not to, by FEMINISM. Feminists have been pushing "women's (sexual) liberation" since the 1960s, and the colleges especially ratcheted that up in the 90s, promoting sex work and slut walks and other similar things. This is why you have girls (mostly in bigger, status-focused cities) with 300 sex partners at 21 years old.
None of this was men - it was FEMINISM. The leaders of the Feminist movement - the ones who set the ideas for ALL the feminist women in the media - have been advocating for "women's sexual freedom" for 60 years. Recently, a woman who had been a writer at Cosmo for decades, and is now retired, admitted that they routinely wrote articles for Cosmo where they completely invented "studies" and "research' to back their Feminist points, because as long as they were pushing the Feminist viewpoint onto women, no one would ever question them.
Now Feminists are teaching women to blame all of this on men, but MEN HAVE NOT CHANGED - it's women who have changed, and it's been Feminism (which was taken over by Anti-American, Anti-Family, Anti-Capitalist MARXISTS in the early 60s) who changed them.
Because women have been overly sexualized in today’s culture, the whole “independent, feminist, and boss babe” movement has taught a lot of us to behave like men instead of being true feminists. Men have fast easy access to porn and expect the same with real women, we give into it thinking we’re more empowered by treating sex casually. Previous generations of women would require a man to go to war for us, prove emotional growth/masculinity by providing for us, and we required a promise to stay with us and work on things should children conceived. Now most women settle for a partner of 5-10 years without even an engagement ring.
I think it is just the type of men that you’re attracting to be honest. I didn’t have that problem with the majority of men I’ve dated. They were happy to wait and didn’t pressure me. There was one guy that tried to pressure me and I broke up with him as the exception to that. I think you should take a step back and evaluate yourself and why you’re attracted to those men and why you’re attracting them. Sex is an important aspect in a relationship but that shouldn’t be the only important thing, getting to know each and other and building a bond outside of that is extremely significant too
I totally agree … but there has been dudes who seemed very genuine and respectful.. they still didn’t want to wait But I agree… if a man values you he doesn’t have a problem waiting
Honestly it’s a great way to filter out men. If they’re not willing to wait/make you feel pressured then just move on to the next one even if it can be hard to sometimes. They obviously don’t have the same values as you and that is incredibly important.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!If you notice a lot of men just want what they want and they want to get it as fast as they can before you find out who they truly are and what it's all about so it's a good thing that you wait because otherwise you're going to feel used your heart's going to get broken and that just sucks so just always remember you are the boss of you you are the boss of your body and yourself your mind everything about you and you make the rules that's the way it should be
You are 100% Correct. Blame 70% porn and 30% all the naked girls walking on the street in tight leggings, underwear short mini skirts etc... and to be more precise, not just any sex, we are obsessed about popping girls ass. Why? because of all the reasons I have described above.
Only a complete moron would wait. Why are you waiting? Because the same society that doesn't care about you, demands that you play by their rules?
Most guys understand how this works, but others think they can just roll over and ask for a ham sandwich. Do you think I'm kidding? I know a gal who played be the rules and waited. Her husband told her that only whores want an orgasm. She lived with that dud for 20 years. 20 years of shame, for just wanting what he wanted.
It serves her right. Waiting for marriage to have sex is insane. More fool them who do
@Tim2nice Waiting sounds like something out of a fairy tail, but it's not practical. She told me that she begged him to let her go down on him, and he just called her a whore.
And she stayed with him 20 years? That’s utter madness
Most people aren't even taught to do stuff like that anymore, it's just a value that is not as common anymore. Is the same for most women. But there's still plenty of men and women out there who are waiting for marriage.
The stupidest thing you can do in life is wait for marriage for sex. You cannot learn sexual compatibility. You are or you aren't.
Why are women so hung up over sex? why do they put up on such a pedestal? it is just sex. Two people making each other feel good.. It doesn't have to be anything other then that. Men are hard wired for sex. Especially young guys. We are absolutely obsessed with sex in our teens and twenties. That doesn't mean it is all we want from a relationship.
I'm not one to believe in waiting for marriage but it should definitely be a few months of getting to know each other before having sex
Firstly I would never, ever suggest or recommend waiting for any of that marriage bollox.
It's simply because guys are constantly being led by their knobs!
Because that is men's only real goal in life, if they see someone pretty they want to have sex with her. They don't have to make getting to know a woman a priority because there will always be easy girls they can go for instead.
I think you are just looking for something that doesn't exist. Marriage contracts and divorce papers are not in human nature. If you look animals all they do is rape each other. Humans became more civilized over time and no there was no marriage contracts that is more of a recent thing. Men would just sleep around and get as many women pregnant as possible.
Even now you see more relationships are starting to become poly. Human life is not a Disney fairy tale. Monogamy and chastity was created so loser men would be able to have a wife instead of one guy having all the sex with all the women. But now you are seeing things turning back to the way they were with poly relationships.
What you are looking for is not there unfortunately and you just have to learn to live with it.
Well if you haven't noticed the rules of dating and relationships have changed a lot. Women still want the benefits of traditional men but not offer anything that a traditional woman would offer a man. That's just not how it works. It's the wild west now everyone is just out for whatever they want in the short term. The rules of the game have changed you can't expect men to play by the old rules while women do whatever they want.
If you have other things to offer besides sex then you should offer them and some men will appreciate it. But the more cultured, funny, smart, charismatic, socially skilled, well organized the man is you're going after the harder it will be for you to impress him with your own personality.
I'm a guy who is waiting for marriage. Religious reasons. Not that I never had the opportunity to do it. I just never felt like going that way before marriage. Not worth it.
Well, they have this 'pulsing' thing between their legs... and, well, what to do with it?
Every species, to be successful, needs one of the sexes to be proactive. If both sexes of a species were 'not fussed if we do or don't' then that species would go extinct. Since impregnation requires an erection which requires sexual excitement, it is appropriate men are eager for sex.
Quite simply women became willing to have sex with effective contraception; there just wasn't the prohibition of becoming pregnant without a supporting man. After that men started regarding women who didn't put out as playing games.
Women not having sex before marriage works; women having sex liberally works. A foot in both camps doesn't work so well - it is being a little bit pregnant.
Waiting goes against nature. Humans have raging hormones the moment they reach puberty. It’s difficult enough waiting to reach the age of consent. Waiting forever is torture and pointless
I think a lot of guys have just gotten tired of putting in effort to charm and win women over without ever getting any reward. Guys respond to women's behavior. If women actually responded well to romantic effort, we would put that effort in.
You can only get rinsed by so many women after giving them your best effort before you lose interest in trying to romance them again.
It's funny that you are blaming men that have no self control when it takes 2 people to have sex..
It's not a men vs women problem it's the reality that birth control takes a lot of the risk away so people are having sex because sex is fun
I wanna be able to grow up and have a valuable relationship with a man based around love, not lust, I feel like it's gonna be harder in my generation unfortunately.
I could ask the same question about women's obsession with money! They ONLY want a guy if he's got lots of money! As soon as he goes skint, she goes, too!!
As for your question, I stayed with my ex-fiance for just over 10 years. Had she not cheated on me (for a guy that had more money that I did!), I'd still be with her 23 years later, even though she stopped fucking me after our 4th year together!
its all about sex nowadays
both men n women refuse to wait, lust n pleasure comes before everything else
feelings n love comes second
the funny that they keep wondering why true love n healthy relationships r rare now
exactly
What did you expect as a man eater tho
I’m just curious…. This has nothing to do with me
Even curiosity comes from somewhere but alr
Well before I wanted to be a man eater I did want to know why he didn’t want to wait
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