Why is a blowjob degrading but going down on a girl is not?

[Anonymous]

I do not understand how one form of oral sex is degrading and another is not. I did a search and saw thread after thread of how blowjobs were degrading to women but not a single one about it being degrading for a guy to go down on a girl. If you think a blowjob is degrading It stands to reason that you should think going down on a girl is degrading. My wife recently told me she thought blowjobs are degrading and said she doesn't want to do it anymore. I said ok no more oral sex but no that's not it. She still wants me to give her oral and I enjoy giving her that pleasure because my number one goal is to make my wife happy, but I am not going to because it makes no sense to me that one is degrading and one is not. Seems more like selfishness to me. I would go down on her before during or after. I would do what ever it took to make her happy. After all isn't that what it is about making each other happy?

[desperatelyhungry]

A lot of girls are saying it isn't. I think it depends on the context. If two people are in a relationship I don't think it is but I feel like if it's a hookup type situation then it is often viewed as one. Like how many videos are on pornhub of girls giving a random guy or a tinder date a blowjob in his car or wherever and it's titled "whore sucks my cock in target parking lot" or something similar. That is degrading. But in my opinion it's not the blowjob that makes it degrading it's the title or how he may treat her. It also seems it's much common for a girl to give a guy a blowjob and get nothing in return (at least orally) than it is for a man to give oral and get nothing in return. And then when a guy does give oral it's usually seen as something to be proud of, an accomplishment. I'm not saying this is true I think this is the way many people in our society view it. I don't think blowjobs are generally degrading, even if it is a tinder hookup or what have you, unless it's something like giving a blowjob to your pregnant sister's fiance or something extreme like that. But I think there are definitely people out there, mostly guys but a fair share of women too, who think blowjobs are degrading and judge women for giving them, even though many of them aren't going to turn one down 🙄 hope this made sense

[Anonymous]

Probably because woman are supposed to be seen as pure and men are supposed to be seen as dirty. It’s ridiculous. She obviously has this old view in her head that negatively affects the sex life. Either that or she’s feeling taken for granted, if it’s that then do something to make her feel loved and appreciated and see if she wants to give more back then. But sex is sex and there’s nothing wrong with it, it’s completely natural to want to turn on your partner and enjoy it yourself. It’s all part of the chemistry you have with your partner, providing all is well elsewhere in the relationship too.

[thinkaloudtolive]

bc of #MeToo

The same reason a female commits the same crime, but is sentenced to a 1/8th of the jail time of a man.

Or

How a woman can cheat on her husband, divorce him and receive full costing of the kids + keep the house while her new boyfriend moves in and the husband moves out losing everything yet still paying for it all (child support, mortgage, loses half of all assets, car payments, etc)

[TCredo]

a blowjob is most definitely not degrading... oral sex is highly intimate - could be considered even more so than intercourse. never have thought of it (giving or receiving) as degrading - giving, especially, is a wonderful thing

[SueShe]

It is not degrading, it is UTMOST degrading, demeaning and an infringement in a girl's sexual integrity.

This is not solely limited to oral sex but to go down to a girl as well. Why?

A person that likes you, perhaps even loves you, will almost accept any sexual abuse just to please the offender. As a guy, you will never be able to be 100% sure that the girl is not revolted by the act in itself but accepts to please the guy against her disgusted feeling. As long as you are not certain, then you can assume that there is a risk that the imposed oral sex is not reciprocated on a voluntary basis.

The girl may assure you that she likes it but again, you have no proof of that and as long as you have a 100% certainty, then there is always a doubt. The very same applies to oral sex on the female genitals.

[Mädchen]

If she assures him she Likes it she is completly at fault Here. What If we apply your Logic to normal Sex? Should we all Stop having Sex cause our Partner could be lying to us about wanting it?

[SueShe]

@Mädchen You don't have to stop entirely to have sex but limit it to the way it was intended originally and that is PIV and not any of the deviant (and humiliating) ways humans misuse it and therefore, also increase considerably the spreading of other diseases. As simple as that!

[Mädchen]

"the way it was intended" does that mean only to procreate? Oral is fun to receive or give to Most people so why not so it? It's only degrading If forced upon someone

[Asker]

Believe me after being married for 28 years we know each other quite well. There is no faking or pretending. I see you are only 17 so you still have a lot to learn in life. Sex is supposed to be fun people do it for enjoyment way more then for procreation. One thing I can tell you for sure is that if you put your partners happiness above yours, that is the only way it works. Selfishness will ruin a relationship with a quickness.

[SpacedCharr]

... wh... What? Did feminist victim fetishists strike again?

I love giving blowjobs. Some of my fave sex moments have been giving my partners powerful orgasms with just my mouth.

I suck at them, and my gag reflex is too strong, but I enjoy the experience. It's a challenge.

How... Why is it degrading? I don't get it...

Like, if anything, the woman giving oral is in a very uniquely powerful position... Do you realize how sharp human teeth are? And how easily you can break a cock with your jaw pressure?

Maybe... Maybe it's better to avoid oral... Just... Just be safe, boys. Be safe.

[Daniela1982]

Good question. Apparently what is good for the gander is not good for the goose.

[Mädchen]

No it's Not. A blowjob however is definetly harder to administrate than going down on a women cause gagging is not fun for Most people and some Guys even Push you further down while doing it (I know some Girls are into that, consent is what's important Here) but still she doesn't have to Go deep so it doesn't have to be uncomfortable. So I wouldn't say one is more or less degrading than the other. And yes it's very selfish from your wife to expect oral but not give it in Return.

[Asker]

Well I have never given a blowjob but I would say being smothered would be comparable to gagging and pushing a girls head down further then she is comfortable with is not cool at all for any reason.

[Apple1996]

I don't think it is. Maybe cumming on a girls face is a little degrading but some girls like that

[Asker]

Believe it or not she does not mind that. Totally cool with a facial.

[Capnjaques]

Oral sex is awesome. Some people are into it and some aren't. I knew a girl that loved giving head just as much as I love going down on a girl.

[Masteress]

Cause the world is a screwed up, unfair place.

Find the good people and stick with them. Then this crap shouldn't matter so much.

[BlacklightShade]

It isn’t degrading. We control the power switch.

[InfobotsMom]

I've not seen or read anything saying that blowjobs are degrading. Not sure what you're reading.

[TadCurious]

Neither is degrading if they are consensual acts.

[Dargil]

Neither is degrading.

[KatherineJ]

I love sucking my husband’s dick. There is nothing degrading about willingly giving your man pleasure.

[TCredo]

amen and same for giving your woman the same pleasure first, in return or simultaneously :)

[KatherineJ]

@TCredo exactly

[Thatsamazing]

"why is a blowjob degrading" uhhhh what? Since when?

[hellerquestionforu]

It's because she don't know how to do it in a way she is pleasured by giving you pleasure, on the other hand you said it pleasures you to do it for her that's why you don't mind.

[outside_Toronto]

It not degrading at all. Who told you this?

[Prime_Sol]

Lol. You go down on her? Yikes.
I don't think either is degrading but one is certainly gross. 🤣
I've never been single longer than 6 months and wouldn't even consider it. I've been with my current girl for 3 years now.

[Twalli]

I don't see blowjobs as degrading. I do agree that no blowjobs from her means no cunnilingus from you. That is the way it works.

[Straight_Shooter]

I've never heard of consensual blowjobs being degrading.

[disgustingweebtrash]

Neither is degrading

[Tellme]

I don’t think oral sex is degrading. Neither for the guy nor for the girl. It’s awesome!