Why is it such a big deal if women watch porn?

[JaneFryer_1998]

Men always make a fuss about women who they find out masturbate or watch porn like its something rare, we just dont talk about it all the time like men 😂

[JackSmy]

Please, don't speak with such generalizations, such as "Men always make. . ." alluding to ALL men, which is TOTALLY WRONG!!
I NEVER "fuss" but rather want to know, and want her to show me what porn she loves!
I KNOW that every lady I have ever loved has loved her own kind of porn, and masturbated, A LOT!! I think that is GREAT!! I want to know what she loves!!

I HATE this "She has to be a 'virgin' and 'pure' ," and that NONSENSE!! Ignorant, controlling men want that!!

If I start liking her, and we share feelings, I ask her to show me the 'porn' that she loves, when she masturbates! I want to know what excites her, and how she likes to touch herself, and the feelings!! I CARE about her! Why wouldn't I want to know everything she will share, so I can love our time together!
When she shows me what she likes, and what excites her, and then how she likes to tough herself, I have this AMAZING foundation, a place to start, for when we are intimate, and not just sex, but maybe just me pleasing her, and making it a special time, together, but just for her?

[MCheetah]

Because most women are very prudish when it comes to sex (hence why guys who can get laid often get so much respect; it's hard for most of us to get laid once), and society has instilled in us that promiscuous women are "slutty" and "bad people." So to hear women claim they're into sex as much as men (which frankly, I don't believe) and enjoy sexual activities such as masturbation and porn just as much as men do, is both shocking and kinda frustrating/annoying.

I don't think it's a negative or anything, but it's like, dude, if women really get that horny to where they're on PornHub as much as males are, then why is is SO F*CKING HARD for an average guy to ever get laid? It's completely contradictory to how women act in real life. Either that, or women enjoy masturbation far, far, FAR more than actual sex with another partner.

I personally don't watch porn myself (don't see the appeal in watching other people have sex), but I do shamefully do the wanking, every now and then. I'm not proud of it.

(The user has blocked anonymity, so f*ck it; I'll take the social shame incoming for speaking the truth and not pretending women actually by and large enjoy sex the same way men do, even though they very clearly don't and it's a "once in a blue moon" thing for most of them.)

[HedwigInABox]

I don't think it's that women enjoy masturbation much more than regular sex but it's usually the better option. 1. It's safer. You won't get an STD or pregnant and it's obviously unsafe to invite random men into your house or go to theirs. 2. You can do it anytime. So let's say a woman has a friends with benefits she trusts, it more convenient to just masturbate than to call someone, ask if they have time, wait till they come over and shave/shower than it is to just rub one out. 3. An orgasm isn't guaranteed. I can't speak for other women but I find it pretty easy to make myself come. So an guaranteed orgasm is better than a maybe orgasm. 4. The sex might not be good. I feel like sex is like pizza for men. If it's bad, it's still good. This is not the case for women. 5. No performance pressure. This is probably a much bigger problem for men but women also face this problem. 6. Many woman need an emotional connection to enjoy sex.

[MCheetah]

@HedwigInABox Thanks for explaining. Though that implies what I already figured; that most women don't really enjoy sex with men very much.

[HedwigInABox]

If the option is masturbation or sex with a boyfriend, I'd always choose the boyfriend cause the factors above wouldn't really weight in anymore. Or at least most of them.

[Emii_69]

It is part of the incredible double-standard in western societies. Women are not supposed to have sexual thoughts. Men can do whatever they want and that is fine. A woman with a healthy sex drive is a whore or slut. I avoid men who have that sexist viewpoint.

[Bee-Hatch]

I've no problem with watching it, i don't see it's an issue really if you have a healthy attitude to sex

[Bee-Hatch]

Why would that be the logical conclusion? If I was only interested in female body parts, I've got a mirror

[joeblow123]

@bee-hatch

What is your opinion on male masturbation: Ladies, if you saw a man masturbating what would you do? ↗

[Arivor]

It's not a big deal to me... I know women watch porn, not sure if any of y'all are as obsessed with it as some guys around here are. However, I'm more interested in what kind of porn you do watch.

[Lliam]

Do men make a fuss about women who they find out masturbate or watch porn like its something rare? LOL I don't. I celebrate women with strong libidos.
"We just don't talk about it all the time like men." Good point.

Quick story. For over a year, one particular woman and I virtually lived together. We had sex twice a day (first thing in the morning and then in the evening) on most work days and sometimes for hours at a time on days off. The girl was an orgasmic dynamo.
Early on, I discovered her dildo and she admitted that she sometimes masturbated. Since we had so much extraordinary sex, I don't even know how she found the time. LOL But her admission only increased my admiration for her.

[lightbulb27]

its not a good idea for either sex. it's abusing a drug in your body that is there to bond with your mate. This puts it into hyper drive, creates false expectations of what a real person is like.

turn it off... our whole society is about drugs and "me". you may not see that as you grew up in it.

[normalice]

Because probably the hardest thing for men to do in their pursuit of women is to figure out what to talk to them about. And specifically we assume all the sex we are constantly thinking of is the one topic we must avoid. To learn a girl watches porn is to suddenly open the possibility that the whole range of dirty sex thoughts we have had might be viable topics of conversation.

[triff]

I wouldn't say all men Certainly wouldn't bother me But I do take your point The only thing that I can understand why guys are this way is that a small sector of them mistakenly feel you are their procession They can't get their head round the fact seeing these guys in the porn get you off

[4eyes2mouths]

It seems like you know a lot of controlling assholes. I watch porn with my partner and we both watch it by ourselves.

[Jjpayne]

I don't watch it myself but if I watched it, I would not hold it against her if she did

[The_Inquisitor]

no one makes a fuss at all the only people who do are just loud.

No one really cares if you do or don't and actually you talk about it more than men do.

[GingerGuy]

That's why, because you women don't often talk about it.

[20yearsolder]

Who gives a shit what other people think. If that's what you need to do that get off, then do it

[Sevenpointfive]

as long as she pays half of the electricity bill i don't care

[Don-__-Don]

I haven't heard or seen anyone making a fuss about women watching porn, let alone doing porn.

[ItsTheNephilim]

It isn't.

[Walt832]

I don't have a problem if she watches porn. Some want to explore more ideas like new positions or outdoors or I don't know. Be glad she is trying to keep the relationship spiced up.

It really doesn't matter if she does.

[0112358]

Plenty of women watch a lot of porn and masturbate a lot.

plenty of other women watch porn or masturbate rarely and a significant number basically don’t.

you can take a wild guess which group on average is more sexual with a partner.

[Smoothing]

It depends on how young the guys you are talking to are.

Please masturbation is something I expect of a woman especially if they are single especially in this day and age that women have discovered they too can have orgasms.

[Natehunter199]

I can care less if she does or doesn't. I for one do not watch porn. But i will say, it wouldn't bother me on bit if she was taking notes 😁

[israelisevil]

Nobody cares about it and everyone knows girls do it any girl in relationship does end just as much girls talk about it as guys.

[jordnaus]

It's not a problem and i've never seen it as a problem with my ex's

[DavidFox]

Because many times women are not direct about sex and choose to hint or dance around the subject when they feel horny. So letting a guy know you watch porn and masturbate means:
1. Literally communicating information that’s something you do
2. Hinting you are horny, telling him that hoping he will escalate
3. Lying about it to test his response
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