Why is it when I tell a guy I don’t want nothing sexual the conversation seems to turn sexual?

[Anonymous]

I told a random guy who use to text me everyday I don’t want nothing sexual, that I use like sexually, than when he goes to message me first sometimes not as often anymore as he use to, he just says hi how are you, what you doing. than the conversation seems to turn sexual. he seems to ask me if I want to see his junk, if I say yes he will sent it, he wants me to help him cum sometimes I don’t sent him any nudes, we seem to end up talking about masturbation.

[MrOracle]

Here's something you need to realize about guys your age. 95% of the time, if they're paying attention to you, it's because they're sexually attracted to you, and would like to be sexual with you. Maybe 5% of the time, the guy really just wants to be friends.

And does that mean that those 95% who are sexually interested in you want romantic relationships with you? NO! Maybe 10-20% of them do, but all the others are JUST looking for sex (or some form of "virtual" sex, aka nudes, videos, sexting, etc.). This is normal and common and something virtually every girl who is even a little bit attractive has to deal with.

So, YOU need to decide what your standards are and who you are interested in. If you can have fun with a guy sexting, then great, go for it. But if that's not what you are looking for, then when those guys are clearly not interested in anything else, you have to kick them to the curb and make a clean break from them. Otherwise, they'll play with your emotions, and you'll end up hurt. The only person who can defend your heart is YOU, so you have to step up and make good decisions that are in your best interest. Never assume that anyone else will, because they usually won't.

[Asker]

I’d select your answer as one of the most helpful guys on this question. I read everything you said. Thank you for your advise. I don’t sext this guy back with pictures he hasn’t seen my goodies But I decide on my standards and boundaries. we both don’t see more than friendship. I don’t feel interested in anyone I told him we don’t have feelings for each other he agreed, that I’m not interested in dating him because his a random guy to protect my heart he respected that, but if I don’t want anything sexual in person than I’ve to act like it not engage in a sexual conversation with him, otherwise I won’t be taken seriously.

[torgor67]

Normally because when something isn't wanted by a person such as sexual stuff it instantly can become attractive as its like the temptation to break a rule or do something that your not supposed to which is why people who show no interest can unfortunately be the targets of certain people. It doesn't always work like that but that's a good reason so I'm sticking with it lol!

[ItsTheNephilim]

Because he wants sexual conversations with you duh.

[Asker]

Okay.

[skrewd]

because you put it out there. now he's got to know. you know kind of like a kid that doesn't want a toy till the other one picks it up.

[Asker]

I will shut him down and tell him to talk too me when his not masturbating..

[chriscdi]

why do you keep talking to him tho, if you tell him you dont wanna talk about sexual shit and he does anyways and you respond with what he wants to hear, he will just think he changed your mind in a way, next time he turns it sexual dont respond for a while

[Asker]

When I told him I don’t want anything sexual I meant I don’t want to do sexual stuff with him.

[chriscdi]

yea and you told him this before right

[Asker]

He knows I don’t want to have sex with him.

[chriscdi]

then he is simply just not respecting your boundaries

[Asker]

Should I set boundaries? With some random guy I never met?

[chriscdi]

yes, you should set boundaries to things that make you uncomfortable with anyone and anything

[Asker]

Ok I will set boundaries.

[chriscdi]

alright goodluck 🙏🏽💯

[Asker]

Thank you

[chriscdi]

💯🙏🏽👌

[shortster]

He doesn't respect your wishes.

[Asker]

I didn’t say I didn’t want a sexual conversation though but he knows I don’t want sexual stuff ok than I start setting boundaries and have self respect.

[shortster]

He is constantly bringing up sexual stuff to try and get you hot and bothered so that you give in to him.

[Asker]

Wow than gosh I never met him It’s not really working cause I don’t like him he propably thinks I don’t know any better he knows I’m not a virgin so he propably thinks he can get it too but he won’t I propably tell him how I really feel. I can shut him down all together.

[shortster]

Good luck.

[Asker]

Thank you I just start acting like I don’t want anything sexual see if he takes it more seriously after telling him I don’t want his dick pics when he asks me next time if I want to see..

[shortster]

You're welcome.

[askmewhy66]

Perfect conversation

[Asker]

What do you mean by that

[askmewhy66]

I'm a smart ass! I mean I'm yanking on myself now. lol

[askmewhy66]

You can always dm for questions or answers

[Asker]

I’m on xper 1...

[Asker]

And I don’t have those sexual conversations with other men

[askmewhy66]

K me either

[askmewhy66]

I can dm ya

[Asker]

Yeh sure

[askmewhy66]

Geez don't be a stick-in-the-mud

[bassinguy76]

Guys are horn dogs and will try whenever possible to turn it sexually.

[Anonymous]

Wtf why are you saying this on anon? Who are you?

[Asker]

Who I am doesn’t matter?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm so freaking curious, are you Shanna?

[Asker]

I like asking questions on anonymous

[Asker]

No I’m not

[Opinion Owner]

A girl named Shanna was sending everyone pics is the thing, kinda embarrassing because she would make you think she was special

[Asker]

Oh gosh. I don’t even send those pictures.

[Opinion Owner]

Did you follow me? I'm level 1 too if that is you

[Asker]

Yes I did follow you.

[Asker]

I usually don’t have sexual conversations with random’s by the way. I’m almost on xper 2.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh okay that's cool. I don't mind exchanging pics like that but I also want a majority of the time real advise and a friend if we're compatible.

[Asker]

Oh true. Do u have any advise for me?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh yeah, everyone has spurts of feeling hornyness throughout the day. If that seems to be the only topic he ever wants to bring up either flat at ignore him or just speak to him whenever you feel the same.

[Asker]

Okay, thanks for your advise. I have asked him normal questions about him before, There’s a lot more to the story, I asked my mate to make a fake account to get information who ghosted him and now his hurt by me and my mate now he thinks I’m the bad guy and that my mate is bad. I’m not really bad tbh, His been ignoring me recently. I saw on his Snapchat story he said stop don’t touch me there this is my no no square I’m like hi what do you mean by his story he didn’t answer that, Next time I just shut him down, say no to seeing his dick pics, the other week he was talking about what movies he likes when I asked him normal questions. I told him I don’t want anything sexual, I think I need to act like it so I’m taken more seriously. He forgets and is slack.

[Asker]

When I said I don’t want anything sexual I meant I don’t want to do sexual stuff with him In person...