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Why is my sex drive going crazy how long is this gonna last?

I’m 39 and have been married for 19 years. And we have a son who graduates high school in spring. My hubby and I have always had a pretty good sex life. The last few years maybe 2-3 times a week we were both pretty satisfied and happy with bedroom fun. Then maybe 2 months ago he took me in the middle of the day in the spare room it was absolutely amazing. It set something off then we basically started having sex everyday as we introduced mid day sex to our schedule. (We used to wait till our son went to bed) now 1x a day isn’t enough. We went on vacay for 10 days and we were doing it 2-4x a day. Now I want sex multiple times a day. A it’s not really sustainable we work and have other grown up responsibilities we can’t have sex all the time. And B yes I’ve been told from everyone even my mom that as I get around 40 that it’s going to hit me. My mom said she she was 41-42 she and my dad had a similar phase. I was like mom good for you but yuck 😆 I also have an urge to dress ultra sexy and show off. It’s the only way I kinda know how to flirt and initiate sex which I want all the time!!! I’ll dress in little cleavage tops and booty shorts to get my hubby worked up. at 39 I’m wearing less & less. My question is what’s going on with me and how long is this phase going to last?

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  • Hopefully it lasts forever for your marriage sake , Most marriages the sex fades away after a long period of time , and people end up divorced and miserable because the chemistry and connection disappears and couples tend to start cheating on each other when their wants aren’t being met in a relationship , The fact that you are loving sex with your husband is a great thing , it means you both love and adore each other, so hold onto that as much as you can , trust me , your husband is not complaining , when a girl stops having sex with her husband and she makes excuses not to have sex with him , he starts to feel unloved and unwanted , he feels she doesn’t desire him anymore , and feels she is just using him , when that happens , he becomes open to meeting someone else that makes him feel wanted and valued and pretty much pushing him to cheat on her , Why sex is important in a relationship , especially for a guy , If your husband cheats on you after all the sex you been giving him? , he would be the biggest dumbass on this planet, So you should never worry about your husband ever cheating on you because trust me he is a very happy man and is lucky to have a wife like you , The problem with most people is the fact that most people are selfish and only really care about themselves , when you learn to remove that inner selfishness for your partner that’s where love grows , Most people Don’t grasp this concept and then they wonder why they keep continuing having failed relationships , When you can’t prioritize your partner over everyone else, your relationship will crumble , Your selfishness will push your partner away , we can only give what we want to receive , so running into the arms of someone else is not going to save you , when people run into the arms of someone else , they are a selfish person that only thinks of themselves and they will never experience true love , so be grateful you have a husband that prioritizes you , keep the sex alive , trust me

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  • Hey, it's better than the alternative, which I experienced a few years ago :-). You might just have to have less frequent sessions while adding a bit more length to your lovemaking sessions.

    • True! Thank you I’m enjoying and craving sex more than ever before

  • You are hitting your sexual prime. Happens to lots of women in their 30s-40s

    • and you are only in your 20s. i wonder what you'll be like when you reach your 30s lol

    • @Still-alive I know it's just slowly getting worse as time goes on. My 30s will prob be crazy

    • Lol I thought women go infertile around 40

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  • I really miss dating women who are in their late 30's. When I was that age and dating women that age, they were very sexual.

  • I worked with a lady, and I was talking to her hubby one day. He said that a 40 year old woman is twice as fun a two 20 year olds. lol

  • It sounds like your body is giving extra hormone shots, it could be because the biological clock is going tik tok and your ability to procreate is on it's way out the door do your body is telling uou Hurry up and get pregnant.

  • You're 39, mid-life, perfectly normal for your body to be more desirous of sex. When I was married, some of the best sex we had was in our late 30s.

    Don't worry... in a few years, it will wane and you'll be back to once a week.

  • At about 40 my wife's libido was through the roof and she couldn't get enough. I sometimes would have to get her off three times a day. This lasted until menopause about seven or eight years later

  • No idea how long it will last, I tend to prefer women who are permanently that horny. Stop worrying and just enjoy your marriage.

  • Lucky you

  • Good for you two , its different for every one so enjoy it as long as you can if thats important to you.. good luck and have fun anywhere and everywhere.. smiles

  • My wife is 45 and still craves a ton of sex. I hope it lasts a very long time for you!

  • Berethor is right

  • As I've gotten older my sex drive has increased exponentially as well. Hope it never stops. Keep having fun!

  • You are at your sexual prime. Just enjoy it and keep on fucking!

  • BRAVO! BRAVO! ENCORE! ENCORE!

    I DON'T see a problem here AT ALL!

    You're ONLY problem is to still fulfill your life obligations and requirements!

    Otherwise have sex as much as you can hanging from the chandalier if you want!

    I only wish I can be SO LUCKY!

  • You're at your sexual peak. They say women tend to have the best Sex and Sex life in their 40s

  • Why wonder what's going on.. Just enjoy the phase?

  • Enjoy. Look forward to that part of the day when it happens. Plan for it if needed. Add it to your schedule. I don't know why. But you should enjoy as long as it lasts.

  • Lol its because you are a part of Latin culture

  • I dont know so enjoy it while it lasts

  • Ha yeah I was going to say the same thing! Lucky man! Lol.

  • its mature sexual need, it would grow more till your menopause.

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