Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Why are so many girls such whores these days going around and spreading their legs for tons of guys?
Anonymous
I don't understand why it's so hard for so many girls to have some self respect. Most of the girls I know have multiple sexual partners at once which is so disgusting. They are willing to accent a friends with benefits title which is actually kinda insulting because it's like the guy is saying "I'll screw you because you're an easy piece of ass but take you home to meet my mother? Introduce you to people who are important to me? Take my time and money to get to know you then give you the title of being my girl? No." In my eyes, a guy who will have you as a friend with benefits is basically saying you're a sex object; nothing more, nothing less. Yet because some girls have no self control, they don't mind that at all! what the hell! Then some of them are actually dumb enough to sincerely say "Welll I'm using him too so it's okay" No, it's not okay. Then it's like they're actually proud of their slutty behavior like it's some badge of honor that they have sexual experience. When in reality, it makes them look like used goods. It's nasty for a girl to have had so many penises in her mouth or to have had a lot of guy's come and penises in her. I'm sorry but that just seems like a vagina would be dirty and smelly after that. A key that can open many locks is a master key but a lock that can be opened by many keys is just a sh*tty lock. I just don't understand how a female can have such lack of proper respect for her body. Sex is viewed as recreational activity these days! It's ridiculous. I just don't get it, someone please understand. It's also really frustrating when girls like this try to get girls like me who do not want to give my body to any guy unless he really cares about me and has given me the title, to whore around with them. Why do they do that? Girls, if you're like this please explain why. Guys, what do you honestly think of girls like this? It seems like you like them because hey, they'll give you all the orgasms you want but at the end of the day I've heard a lot of guys are not cool with that. I dated a really hot guy who was really bothered by the fact that his girlfriend had slept with five other guys.
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*accept a friends with benefits title, sorry
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it's important to me because I feel like sluts ruin good guys and turn them into players, shrinking the population of satisfying men out there and increasing the number of pigs. Then good girls like me have to deal with the scraps :( <------ the entire motivation for this question.
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I feel that whores keep the cycle of selfish people who have passion misplacement growing. That cycle effects people who have more to offer than whores and players and us good people get cheated out of something. Whores and players do what I like to call 'a robbery'. They take away a person's passion, spark, and ungaurded self; things that some people never seem to get back. Not only do they suffer, but people who actually would have deserved them and ENHACNED them suffer as well.
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15 23The woman asking the question has found the answer, in my opinion, in her question: 'How can girls show such disrespect for their own bodies?' Exactly correct. When I was growing up, there were two kinds of girls--guy friends would tell you--the girls you want to f*ck and the girls you want to marry. It's all about self-respect.
Women ought to know three very important things about guys, which will be true forever: One, guys don't respect girls that sleep around and brag about it--no matter what he says or how he acts, and no matter how attractive the girl is; Two, guys only truly fall in love once or twice in their lifetimes, and mostly not at all because they may never run into a woman who has all the things he is looking for--if he is truly in love, he seems like a new man; Three, sex does not affect men very much emotionally--unless, as I say, he is actually in love.
Girls who waste their 20s spreading their legs because feminism says that females should be sexual 'any time and any place' are passing up the real men who would make good husbands and instead 'dating' bad boys or sugar daddies who will never commit to a relationship because they can just move to the next younger, prettier girl when the one he is currently f*cking is used up--sad, but true.
Many poor, hardworking 'losers' in their 20s will become alpha males and bad boys in their 30s with the power of a job and resources. And who will they 'date' if they did the hard work to know themselves and life? Certainly not the less attractive, angry, and demanding women who are in their 30s (tick-tok). No, it will be the more attractive 20-something girls who will 'sexually express' themselves for nothing more than a nice evening out--money for honey.
No amount of sitting around the living room drinking Chardonnay, being angry at men, and lying to each other about how 'being slutty is our right', 'looks shouldn't matter' and 'men should be our slaves to make up for past oppression' will change the above facts. When these women get to 35 and up, they are miserable and unattractive drunks--no matter how much 'power' they have at the 'office'. I have seen this many, many times...
Cheers and good luck.
As a guy I think you are right on the money how the plethora of sluts has a major impact on our psych.
Why would we work hard for someone with self respect, if all we got to do is stay in shape and wear nice cloths and the masses will put out just because of sexual attraction?
When you get older you want a girl with self respect, but as a young man we dont want to commit for like 6-10 more years and like I said the girls are just GIVING IT AWAY!!!
So yes you are absolutely right, this adulterous and perverse generation is making you "pick up the scraps". Back in the day it was totally uncool to be a slut which means the "good girls" got to pick from the cream of the crop.
Now its cool to be a slut so that means bad girls get to pick from the cream of the crop and good girls get scraps.
Some feminists will call me sexist, claiming why is it okay for men to be whores but not women? You also hit the nail on the head with that one, a key that opens many locks is a master key, a lock that is opened by many keys is a shitty lock.
Men and women are different as much as feminists would hate to admit. Women are supposed to be the gatekeepers of sex, and the man is supposed to be the suitor. Men are supposed to have to bend over backwards and be a complete gentlemen. Like I said today all you have to do is stay in shape and wear nice cloths to get into womens pants. This generation is completely adulterous.
Men are not to blame for this. Women are the ones who are giving it away for almost nothing but mutual sexual attraction, men are just taking the bait.
They do wear it as a badge of honor and call you sexist if you call them out.
If you notice mainstream TV, music and movies all promote having sex with someone based off of nothing but sexual attraction. What came first the chicken or the egg? I think having this media shoved down our throats from day 1 has corrupted our generations. And I think its been socially engineered that way. Break down the family structure and the people will be more dependent on expanding the government. Expanding the government means more power to the 1%
Really really love this question asker. Am 19 and fucked 3 bitches. I say that because they weren't real women.. I was just being a drunk high school boy and I'll tell u what I could have had more.. actually had to weed out the "less advanced" whores tht wasn't as dick hungray as the rest because I've always been repulsed by this attitude of it being OK to suck off a guy n fuck Em at the end of a party.. Every weekend.. a lot of these same girls go on to college and party every other night. I had a bitch a really really liked... fucked like 19 guys.. ya.. Junior year. Telling u guys even the most popular girls and seemingly good ones are dick craving loony bins talking about empowerment n shit but get upset when u say there crazy but will go fuck somebody the night you breakup. It's ridiculous. I stopped fuckin wit them completely. Haven't had sec in like 2 years. I am truly discusted at the current state of affairs. Who wants some fat bitch with a short haircut every time you say men and women alike should have decentcy and morals yelling in ur fuckin face talking about equality. What is equality? U have the same rights as me. Not more. Not less. If I think ur a fuckin wacko bitch nut job promoting the misdirection of women into self destructive behavior calling it empowerment I have that right. Fine let them open there legs every hour like they need a cigarette. and ruin thare chances down the road! Fine with me. HOWEVER. This type of behavior is so permissive and mainstream that there are seemingly no decent women left. This asker might be th only one left in the usa
One word: feminism.
i agree with ya girls today sometimes can be over horny juzt to see a penis
I am a girl like you, I mean I can't have sex without being truly in love with a guy so I just had one sex partner...
I do think its insane how girls can suck so many guys, much more than intercourse actually ...
HOWEVER it's not fair only guys be slutty and sleep around, girls can do it to if they feel like it...
In my opinion people whether a guy or a girl should be more involved to have sex...
but you can't judge the girls and not the guys...its not fair I admire somehow this girls that make guys as objects...
why is the reason they do it, just for pleasure...
nice answer :)
I think that promiscuous people really have ruined romance. Yes guys can be promiscuous too but I'm more disappointed in the girls who are. Why? Women release the hormone Oxytocin whenever they have intercourse, which is the same hormone that's released during breastfeeding to bond the mother to her baby. It's disgusting to think that there are girls out there that would want to share such a deep and intimate bonding experience with a random guy or a fwb. I don't understand how any woman can think that's okay (unless they never want to settle down at some point). A lot of women are claiming it's a double standard if guys can sleep around and not be as harshly judged as girls who sleep around, but males and females don't have the same physiology. So if there is indeed a double standard present, it is one that's created by nature.
Wow, this answer is so enlightening :)
Not all FWB are like hooker clients who just walk through the door for five minutes and then just leave. I've FWB's myself, though because I'm bisexual the guys know they're not going to elevate to boyfriend or husband status with me. Though there are guys who are okay with that, it does complicate things which I don't want to go through with at this time. And the trouble with bf's is that they sometimes start to take you for granted, for all lack of competition, and just "screw you" because they don't have to do more than that. So you start to feel used like with the FWB status you mention earlier in your topic, where guys just have sex with you.
Even though I'm harsh when I'm trying to get my point across doesn't mean I lack compassion :( I'm really sorry you've felt used. I have insight into FWB because of my close male friends and male cousins! I've seen how my female friends view FWB and may think it's just casual sex then heard my male friends and male cousins talk about those girls like dogs to their friends or make the worse facial expressions when someone asks if that's their girlfriend. I've seen what it's like when a girl...
that he actually has an interest in pursuing something serious with comes along and guys usually feel they have no use for their FWB. You truly believe they can go back to being buddies after messing around? No. FWB is asking for a messy situation. I've seen it happen dozens of times. The whole boyfriend thing, you just have to find a guy you have a certain level of chemistry with. He'll appreciate you so much that he won't act like that. to be honest...
It's sounds like you've being used by FWB. Why does it have to be that way? Why can you use the guy and have fun yourself? Or just share it up? Trouble with bf's is that they suspect they're the only ones going to be with you and so eventually start to fade away. It's great at first but that doesn't last forever.
one of the reasons I kind of hang onto my virginity is because I never want to feel like I'm being used for sex. And in all honesty, that can inncoently happen then become selfish. Like if a guy or girl really liked you at first, but as things progressed, they realized your personalities weren't all that compatible but they loved the sex so they strung you along (that's where it becomes selfish and f***ed up). but yeah...with my virginity, I always know the guy is in it for me and not my sex
oh, no no no! lol I have never had a FWB and I would never do that because I'd be afraid I'd get attached and I really just don't want to share my body with any man I don't love who doesn't love me and a guy who would give up on me. The thing about FWB is someone will always selfishly proclaim "I'm single. I can do what I want." and date someone else or hook up with someone else then it will all fall apart. I don't know maybe it's just me, I don't like feeling like a side entre, I wanna be the main dish!
I understand. But I've had sex before so it's not a new experience to me, so I won't necessarily attach to someone like you would.
yeah, I can see how after having so much sex, it just becomes viewed as sex...a natural thing that you do with your body. I guess because I'm over the age of 18, I've attached a deeper meaning to it...idk lol
You've yet to have sex, sweetheart. So age is not so much an issue here with you as much as your lack of experience (one insult to the next?)
that was an insult? lol seriously, I had no clue that was an insult and if that's your idea of insulting someone, girl, you need to get up off this internet and go sharpen your with because it sucks! clearly :P lol
..."I guess because I'm over the age of 18, I've attached a deeper meaning to it...idk lol" Sounds like an insult to me. You need to detach from the internet.
lmao your insults suck! 'deatch from the internet'? let it go lol you're not winning anything here with your random lame argument
that comment really wasn't an insult. you are way too sensitive
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I'm sorry, I accidently hit the block button on you kayla. I'm typing on 'block that bitch' keyboard.
Rant rant rant! I didn't even bother to read this! It's the same sh*t every time!
If you are ugly - go under the knife!
But don't tell you WOULDN'T love to look like one of those "leg-spreading sluts"
lol so I can see a streched p**** that may have warts on them? no thanks :P Just because I feel this way doesn't automatically mean I'm ugly. I get plenty of male attention lol too bad you'll never know ;) For you to claim that only an ugly girl would feel this way just shows that you're small minded and stupid lol
I don't think they shrink the population of "satisfying men" in the long run. When a guy is ready to settle down a girl like you he'll want to do it with. We are not idiots, a few friends with benefits won't turn us into pigs, but until we find the "one" why not enjoy the freebies.
Contrary to popular belief of men, yeah you guys kinda are idiots lol I have to wait until men mature and grow up to get a good one. And I hate the idea of a good guy running through a bunch of p**** in order to become a certain type of man that he could have become without screwing a bunch of people THEN wanting a girl like me who has saved myself for him. that's unfair bullsh*t.
so what do you suggest the guy do, wait until he finds the right girl, even if it takes a while?
that's what I'm doing regardless of how frustrating it is sometimes. I have been sacraficing something (sex) I could easily have for YEARS that would make me feel so great in so many ways just for him. I'm putting aside my sexual desires and being selfless so that an adult male can be able to say that he got something from me no man has ever gotten to enjoy and no one else ever will. Out of all the the guys I could have chosen, when I lose my virginity and feel pain and discomfort (maybe even
bleeding) and bleed for someone's pleasure, I chose for it to be his. My virginity is the only thing I haven't had to fight for that is valuable. I think that makes it special. And I'm letting that go for him...I also think it will be a special experience to lose it to a MAN not a horny teenage boy, not a creepy pervert, not some lesbo bitch in jail...ok off topic lol but you get the point? But I doubt I'll ever get the same in rerturn from a man, right? not in today's world :(
You're right, in today's world it's going to be a hard. You have class and ethics which is golden, good for you!
Aww thank you. The idea of two adult virgins sharing their virgnity with each other is beautiful. For the simple fact that they had been sacraficing something for each other before they even knew the other existed. I bet it would be very intimate and bring them together learning things together. I hate the misconception that virgins are awkward, fumbling, nervous idiots who don't know how to be passionate and satisfying lol like just because we haven't had sex...
we're supposed to be totally clueless :P yeah right lol
Well there might be some fumbling and nervousness, but that's what it's about, experiencing for the first time with each other. It's going to be a memory for the ages.
lol, well no it's not because I dobt I'll find a male virgin lol
hahaha, that made me laugh,but hey, you never know!
Some great comments here, and although you may never find a virgin male, you might find one who has not slept around but only slept with those he thought pottential partners, not just some fwb, which doesn't make him a bad guy, but I do believe that what you girls have chosen to do, will always be something special for the guy, because to have this as a part of any real mans relationship, would cause a bond unknown to many to understand, I salute your choices, respect,x
:) thank you so much stubbsy, that makes me feel so much better about being strong in this decision
I'm not religious by any means, however the sacristy of my woman's virginity and mine is a big deal... Yeah sure I could pick up random bitches with busted locks but why... Sexual pleasure? No I refuse to throw my beliefs out the window in give into this slut dynasty shut your legs... Not that fucking hard.
100% agree with the asker here... I will wait and save my virginity until I meet up with my girlfriend... She saved herself for me and vice versa... Kinda like an 1800's couple :d I feel that it makes it all that more special to be able to do something together that you can gaurentee no other testosterone pumped hornball of a guy has done...
So well said I can't take it when people ask why I care about how much sex my partner has had It would bother me because now you gotta live knowing that a bunch of other people satisfied your man/woman before you and may have done a better job than you too lol when I think about that I find it revolting.
I think the problem is women that sleep around with a lot of guys and that is seperate from women that have fwb. Sleeping with many people is wrong in my opinion. It is not safe and it is just pointless. Having friends with benefits is healthy though. It is the situation where you guys both like each other just not passionately enough to want a serious thing out of it. Maybe she has a great booty and awesome boobs but not my preference in face, maybe I am built like she wants a man to be in the sack but not exactly her type when it comes to other factors. So we can still have physical attraction and have fun. I have had several friend with benefits and it is a simply good sex and not much else.
interesting perspective. yet you don't think that's insulting and maybe even a little degrading (not totally though because you didn't say it to her). "You have great t*ts and a nice ass, but you're not all that pretty and I can't see myself seriously being with you so lets just f*** from time to time." Maybe it's just me...but that's like saying she's a sex object and she's only valuable because of what she'll do for you sexually and because of her t*ts or ass. it's disgusting.
ohh also my only serious girlfriend I had and loved was a virgin. so ye I guess purity and innocence is so rare I actually feel I grew much closer to her than any promiscous or liberal girl could.
Hey I am a realist. I like sex and I know women like sex. I also know that because of our media the most desirable traits are usually a certain face and certain look. I have a very diffrent look from the people around me cause I am not from the UK. I feel I am very biased over the typical white guys. That being said latinos have the lover thing going for them and I guess I would rather fill that gap than be bitter and single all the time. We are all sex objects nowadays.
oh no no no, don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to scold you. I appreciate you being real about how you feel. I'm just saying, genuine thoughts like yours support the idea why I think FWB is insulting in a way. No matter what anyone says about FWB, at the end of the day, a guy has decided that he'd rather have you as a piece of ass than a girlfriend. Maybe it's just me, but that would be hurtful. I wouldn't be okay with that. I'd feel dirty and I'd want a brand new vagina after doing that!
Although I wouldn't keep a girl as my girlfriend if I knew she had sex with a bunch of guys or was in a one night stand, it's none of my business what kind of sexual past every girl has. Why is this important to you? If you don't approve of these things, you just don't do them.
it's important to me because I feel like sluts ruin good guys and turn them into players, shrinking the population of satisfying men out there and increasing the number of pigs. Then good girls like me have to deal with the scraps :(
Yeah, I guess I'm stuck in a similar situation. I feel like most girls around my age and older have slept around quite a bit. I could grab a younger girl, but if we do get into a long-term relationship, the probability of her cheating is higher because she'll be bored and want other experiences. I kind of realized that my life just may be lonely, but I'm stubborn to care that much. Nothing I can do about it.
How old are you?
Just 21. Half of the girls I graduated high school with have kids by now. I'd say most of the other half have had plenty of sex. The girls in college aren't very encouraging either. By younger, I meant girls that are just coming out of high school. After they go to college, I'm sure most are a lost cause to me. It's the 80/20 thing there, and I don't want to be settled for after they have their fun. I could be too, but it's not my thing.
oh wow! Yeah, there are a ton of girls out there with kids these days! Most of the girls I work with have children and the father is no longer with them. Awww, not all college girls are a lost cause. it's so interesting for me to see how girls answer this question speaking of embracing their sexuality but what they do seems to upset a lot of guys
Yeah, I'm sure not all of them are a lost cause, but it seems a bit difficult to weed them out. Though, like I said, they aren't very encouraging. & you'd think with all of the single mothers out there, it would sort of curb some promiscuity. How many guys are going to take care of another man's kids? I think some guys have a problem with it because they want something different (no ho into housewife or they share the same naive notion that Blaxican and I have), and others aren't having sex
or not as much as they want. I read an article that said that a higher percentage of college aged girls are having more sex than their male counterparts, which plays into the 80/20 thing again. That's also a disappointment. I'm all for people doing what they want with their lives, but it's still a disappointment that so many are going in that direction. I'm mentally preparing myself, though.
wow you seem to feel so strongly about this topic. it's interesting hearing what a guy thinks about this. of course girls who may sleep around are going to just get offended and be defensive, but these thoughts come from somewhere...guys who feel the way you do. Why do you feel it's so diappointing that so many are going in that direction?
Of course they would be offended. They want to have their fun and not have people evaluate that part of them. Like I said, they can do what they want, but I can also set up my own criteria on who I date and why. I feel disappointed for two reasons: 1. Less of a choice out there for myself (selfish, I know). 2. Goes back to the settling thing. I think most girls chase after a certain group of guys for sex. When they want a long term relationship, they'll go to guys like me. I'm not having that.
omg I feel exactly the same!
I worry because with the current world trend kids might be indoctrinated into sexual activity at a younger age than preferred my 13 year old brother told me the girls in his class talk of sex even more so amongst the guys... Fuck when I was 13 I was going out on a swing set an chasing my buds around playing manhunt and soccer... anyone wonder WTF is happening e. e
No name no shame .