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Why some girls don't like to be on top?

What kind of girls are usually submissive and why? Which one of these passive types of girls mostly prefer to be on bottom, and for what reasons?
Lazy girls - They are simply too slothful to be on top
Vote A
Religious girls - They think it's a sin to be on top
Vote B
Slutty girls - They are saving energy for many lovers
Vote C
Conservative girls - They are old fashioned and narrow-minded
Vote D
Girly girls - They are too shy & lack confidence
Vote E
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  • I notice not many girls can pull it off. I think a mix of A and E with some cases of choice D in there.

    A lot of girls are afraid of "messing up" in bed at first until they've had sex quite a few times and not many know how to do it on top as it is. So until they're comfortable they'll likely to be on the submissive side until they've gotten experience. When they're experienced even then they may have a little bit of nervousness. Many will have instances where they're afraid of crushing the guy's dick and such. Plus if she has issues with how she sees her body she'll be extremely insecure.

    There's no doubt in my mind some are just lazy girls though. You can usually tell by their reactions to things.

    • I agree, some of them are really insecure about their bodies... and laziness is probably one of the greatest problems.

  • My ex was a very shy girl, she said she hated being on top because "It makes my boobs bounce"... then tell me her boobs are too small. After a little while together she enjoyed it. I think it's just shyness at first tbh

    • Indeed, you are probably right...

Most Helpful Girls

  • lol these categories weren't the best I'm religious but I love being on top it's hot and if you are doing it you control your orgasm. I not always on top though, I love being dominated as well or even fighting for the domination just like @JulyAndrews said who would want to be submissive the entire time? that's boring, try something different or the sex will get boring over time

    • I see, cool, I didn't know that even some religious girls like to be on top :-D

    • lol there are all types of religious girls and I'm one if the ones who's true to her religion, but why have all these different sexual things just so we can't try them that makes no sense. I'm what you would call, classy in the streets but a freak in the sheets hahaha

    • Wow, I like that, impressive ;-)

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  • Yeah passive people are the worst in bed. Unless you want to be dominant 100% of the time. But that's not for me. I like versatile people: they like to take charge but also like to be dominated. Just like me. You can also 'fight' for dominance, and that's hot ;)

    • I like that, especially when the girl wins the fight ;)

    • I'm sure you just give up because you like it right ;P

    • Indeed, in most cases ;-P

  • probably. they'd be wanting to get more than they give i suppose, or maybe they just love the feeling of the man over them too much lol, i dont know... i wouldn't know.

    but i reckon when i do it id love being on top=] getting my way kind thing ;P

    • My kind of girl ;-)

    • well, what do u know? a virgin gets MHO on a sex question. looks like imma kill it in the sheets ;) thank u lol:P

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  • Honestly, my reason for not liking being on top as much is because of the sensation. Every position has a different sensation, due to angle, range of movement, rhythm, and how deep you can get, and for me, girl on top is okay, but it doesn't feel as great as when a guy is on top. It's different for every girl though and the way your body is, some say being on top feels better, others say it's not. It's all up to the girl, and religion or promiscuity has nothing to do with it.

    • Well, girl on top position allows you deeper penetration, you can control the rhythm, angle and range of movement :-)

  • All of your answer choices blame the girl to varying degrees, but you're forgetting one important reason for why some girls don't like to be on top. Because they want to be dominated ;-)

    • Well, some guys like to be dominated too...

  • Personally i dont like being on top, as i become selfconscious, it doesn't feel particularly intimate, i like being submissive, and a guy who takes control makes me feel safe.

    • You can be intimate in lots of girl on top positions...

    • It might just be preferences, but i end up feeling like a guy just wants me to "give it to him" - as if its all about pleasing him and giving him an ego boost. I would never be on top for a fling, but maybe after a while in a committed relationship or with someone i care much for...

    • Well, guys can say the same thing: "I end up feeling like a girl just wants me to 'give it to her' - as if it's all about pleasing her". ;)

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  • I voted E, bc it's kind of intimidating trying to be on top and knowing exactly what to do... plus it's nice when guys take control or know when to :o)

    • It's even nicer when girl know how to take control :-)

    • I'll have to remember that :oP

  • I didn't like being on top because it gave me no pleasure. It just didn't feel good and I felt stupid. Then, I had a baby and it all changed. Lol! I was pleasantly surprised how good being on top felt.

    • Great, I'm glad for you :-)

    • I'm sorry I didn't pick one of your answers. I just felt they were very judgmental because I feel some girls don't like certain things. I don't think girls have to live up to the stigma of p*rn - where she has to like every position the dudes stick is proding her in. Before my baby was born, I felt stupid on top. I was just doing it, staring down at him waiting for her to come or to want to change position. I only started getting breathy from the action of moving - not pleasure. Lol! But he liked it so I did it. Though, as I've said, I enjoy it now because I think natural labor really helped me get in tune with my body a lot more than I thought possible.

    • Him** not her

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  • I would go for being lazy cuz being on top requires lots of well exercised leg and abdominal muscles..
    and it is pretty tiring.
    plus when i am on type i lose control at some point and faint out cuz it is too tense and i can't ejaculate..
    so yeah i am not multitasking unlike other women xD

    • I see, lack of stamina and endurance :-P

  • I'm submissive but all those options are stupid. I'm not lazy, religious, conservative or girly and even if people would call me slutty then I wouldn't need to save energy for many lovers.

    I just like do be dominated in bed and give away control. It turns me on, nothing more and nothing less.

    • Ok, I understand that, I also like to be dominated, by some really dangerous girl ;-)

  • These answers are just awesome. I wish I can choose all 5 of them.
    okay. The reason is I assume is that they feel exposed. And lazy LOL. They want us guy to do all the work lol.

    • Right, that's what I'm saying all the time :-)

  • their legs hurt or fall asleep

    • Really? Never heard that one before... :-/

  • Any time a girl spoke her mind and it wasn't the answer u wanted, she got hammered with downvotes. wtf people.

    • Not true, several girls were upvoted, people have right to vote for their favorites ;-)

  • It's hard for me because my legs end up hurting... & it doesn't feel as good as when a guy's on top / in control.

    • Hurting? But how? I mean, bed cannot hurt you :P

    • Lol it takes a little strength to be in that position for a while.

    • Well, lots of guys like strong girls ;-)

  • girly girls. and low pain threshhold girls.

    • Indeed, you are right...

  • I think its because we wouldn't know what to do.

    • You can see in the movies, it's easy to learn what to do ;-)

    • Yeah but real sex is different from movies and p*rn and stuff...

    • Well, you can learn from the books about various positions.

  • I don't think you can categorize a woman due to her preference. There's hot girls that hate cowgirl and shy chicks that love to ride the D.

    • I know, but the question is not about their hotness, and even girls like to categorize a man due to his preference. So, you really know some shy girls that love to ride the D? Hmmm, Interesting ;-)

  • None of these reasons... I think a lot of girls just don't know what to do or are worried they're doing it wrong, mixed with the fact most girls prefer to be dominated anyway

    • I don't think most of the girls prefer to be dominated, it's more likely that they are just indoctrinated by the patriarchal society.

    • doubt it

    • You doubt it because you are just one of them... but in fact, most of the girls like to switch.

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  • Mostly because they are shy about how they look while riding you, or they just don't know how too. I love riding not only because of the dominate feeling but because I thoroughly enjoy the look on his face as I look him dead in the eyes riding him. Concentration and strict eye contact adds to the feeling of intimacy. Get on top gals!!!

    • You have my full support ;-)

    • "get on top gals" haha I love this answer.

    • Lol. Thanks!

  • It could just be that they don't know how to ride.

    • Maybe... but they should definitely learn the technique ;)

    • Yeah. But some don't like to admit to it. Like with me I make my bf believe I don't like it because I don't know how and don't want him to say it sucks. So I do just about anything to not do it.

    • I see, so... you lack confidence in your abilities to learn :-(

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  • it can be all the above

    • Probably...

  • I'll go on top but it's not my most comfortable position. Even though I enjoy it, I get really self conscious of how my body looks, how fat I must be, the way my boobs are moving, etc etc. I'll only go on top if I'm horny or asked to.

    • Maybe you are not fat at all, perhaps you just have low self esteem, but in fact, you could be one of the hottest girls in your neighborhood...

    • No I am. I know I've overweight, I'm lucky because I don't look my weight. But I still feel awful, my boobs are massive so they need holding down...

    • Well, some guys like massive boobs... this might even be an advantage for you

  • Why don't some guys like riding a bicycle? I want an answer, that tells me, why every guy, that doesn't like it, doesn't like it.

    • Maybe they lack skill or balance :-D

    • But is that why every single guy doesn't want to? I don't think so.

    • Of course not, perhaps their bike seat is uncomfortable ;-D

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