Why Won't Some Guys have Sex with a girl unless she dances for him?

[Anonymous]

I've dated people in the past who would not have sex with me unless I "danced " for them, I hated it, so we left each other. I'm just wondering why some people are like that. I could see if the girl is astonishingly beautiful but I am not so why would someone want to see an ugly girl like me shake her fat around I don't get it, explain?

[Mangospacho]

I don’t get it either. I think the guys just think they might be thinking they’re too easy to get and want to spice things up by making you dance for him first - kind of like two-factor authentication. I don’t understand it either. I figured he’d want to get right down to business.

[SteveSmith1985]

You... have to be the same girl I spoke to acouple of hours ago... right? On a different, but very similar question... Please tell me you are? If not... this is one... hell of a coincidence?

[Quackthulu2]

Yeah… vie never come across that one before. But I’m guessing he is addicted to cam girls or strippers and can't get it up unless he is in that headspace.

[Asker]

🤔 maybe

[MrOracle]

I've literally never heard of this. And I'm not exactly a spring chicken.

[MementoMori777]

Wdym dance for them, I don't understand

[Asker]

Like a sexy lap dance and crap

[Asker]

I could see how some girls would be cute doing that but not me

[MementoMori777]

Oh, I can't relate so I can't really say why but I guess maybe cause they want to be hard before you pull off their pants maybe, or they just like it I guess

[Asker]

Yeah that makes sense, I could see if the girl was actually attractive but I definitely am not

[MementoMori777]

I mean he was clearly attracted to you sexually so if he is then lap dances would be enjoyable to him as well.

[Asker]

There must be something beautiful about me others see that I don't

[MementoMori777]

Yep I agree, normally people are bias towards themselves, that seems to be the case here as well

[Asker]

I was raised to be mean to myself too, I wasn't raised to be nice to myself;/

[MementoMori777]

That's all crap 😂

[MementoMori777]

Stop finding excuses to not be kind to yourself, clearly something is off here if you think you are ugly and people are sexually attracted to you

[Asker]

Perhaps so, I need to learn that it's ok to be nice to myself, I know.

[Asker]

Even if I'm not pretty I'm a good person, thats all that matters

[MementoMori777]

You and your loops, try again lol

[Asker]

Should I say I'm sexy and beautiful and go twerk on camera 🤳?

[MementoMori777]

Minus the twerk on camera part lol

[Asker]

Ok 👌

[MementoMori777]

💯💯

[Dargil]

I am clueless. If she says yes, I don't need no dancin'.

[SlothySlob]

Actually dance? Or is this like some code for, doing exactly what he wants?

[Asker]

Like a sexy dance

[Sleeper07]

Where the hell are you finding your dates?

[Asker]

Just throughout my life

[Asker]

Could just be the jerks in my county

[Sleeper07]

I'm asking because this is telling me you're getting dudes who go to strip clubs.

[SawerBrown]

I'd much rather make out and get involved with foreplay then have a girl dance for me.

[BarryLiverstone]

By some, how many guys have told you to dance?

[Asker]

At least 3

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s odd. Sure guys like movement but those guys seem similar

[Asker]

Yeah i don't understand why they would want to see me dance when I'm as ugly as I am.

[BarryLiverstone]

It could be a power thing for them

[Asker]

Could very well be, I definitely believe there is more than one reason why.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yep probably

[BarryLiverstone]

Why do you feel unattractive?

[Asker]

I feel like I'm too fat

[BarryLiverstone]

How fat are you?

[Asker]

Like 130 pounds I feel like should be 98

[BarryLiverstone]

Omg 130 isn’t fat tho

[Asker]

I've been told I'm "curvalicicious" it's weird

[BarryLiverstone]

Very weird. If you are healthy I’d ignore that shit

[Asker]

Ok 👌 as long as I'm healthy that's all that matters

[BarryLiverstone]

Yup I agree

[BarryLiverstone]

Who raised you to be mean to yourself?

[UncleBilll]

I love it when a girl dances for me first, or lap dances me first.. It's awesome but not mandatory. I like to get into the mood, but that can be done with making out etc...

[Asker]

If she LIKES doing it then that is fine (:

[AimeeKyle]

Wow…. never heard that one before. That isn’t a requirement/request of mine.

[Asker]

Cool 😎

[AngryCarl2]

If that's happened more than once you must be picking guys up at strip clubs.

[Asker]

No but it could see why it would look that way, maybe I look like a stripper and don't even know it. Lol

[Con29]

I like a face dance instead of a lap dance lol 😂

[timbendkzo]

It doesn't matter ,

[Asker]

It shouldn't matter