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Why would porn make women insecure?

lets say that its not about sex for men but being available like a guy in the mood but the girl is not or she is not near him the funny thing many women who shame porn on men watch 50 shades of grey and magic mike xxl isn't that hypocrisy plus most normal non celebrity guys can't have sex with porn stars like mia khalifa , sara jay , alexis texas , aleita ocean...😌😌😪 but i see women bitching about porn making her insecure whyyyyyyyyyyyyy its a fantasy 😡😡😡😡😂😂😂

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  • -Being uneducated about porn industry
    -Unrealistic expectations that get created within individual's brain, again mostly because they have no idea what porn really is. Because watching porn and thinking your girl must be like that or your guy must have that. Is like watching a comic movie and expect your partner must fly over the air like superman. Which is nonsense.
    -Behavioral functions. Sometimes porn involves with dishonesty. When you find out that your partner is watching porn secretly. You would wonder if is there something your partner looking after that you don't have? isn't she/he good enough? did i disappoint him/her?
    -Today's standards put lots of pressure on people. People can be sensitive and insecure. I can't fully understand people who get insecure about porn. But i know that during this generation. It's not way too surprising. Men and women both can get insecure, feel jealous or find doubts about themselves. If they are not sure about themselves and how they are-who they are and what is realistic and what is the definition of porn which is a professional movie not a real-life event. Shapes, body parts and sexual movements can cause issues within people's minds if there is not enough understanding.

    -That is "Aletta Ocean" by the way.
    -Normal guy or celebrity. No one can have sex with them. My friend, they are "Professional" performers not your everyday hookers. They make movies. And they get paychecks like true professionals in a professional environment.
    -Me and my girlfriend watch porn together and we have no issue with anything. We enjoying our lives and heavily in love. Because yes. It's a fantasy. It's fun. Entertainment, education, exploration, experimental and a safe-private place to observe nudity and exercise your dirty mind.
    -Those movies are so yuck! personally i can't stand them.

    • i can't read all that by aletta is aeiletta 😂😝😝

    • What do you mean? The pornstar you mentioned, you just mentioned her wrong. Are you talking about name's history and origin? because anyway. Name is "Aletta" Ocean. Born: 14 December - 1987 - Pest - Hungary.

    • i wrote like i saw in one of the vids 😳😝

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  • It only feels women that aren't that good looking (((insecure))).

    The hidden agenda is that "insecure" in this case is a rather tricky code-word. Basically, porn (quality one) features good looking girls. Obviously, men want good looking girls.

    Women that criticize porn (using whatever retarded reason asides from the real one) secretly (sometimes subconsciously) feel their "market value" drops, as men are getting exposed to much prettier women than them, thus men desire women like that, thus it lowers chances of those unattractive women of getting a man. And those women feel that by bashing porn, they may ultimately force some morons in some governments to ban it altogether, thus lowering exposure of much more prettier girls, which increases chances of unattractive women of getting a man.

    Plus, some women are quite passive in bed and don't really do much (even if they have a boyfriend/husband). Then their man, frustrated with boring sex life, sees porn, learns over 9000 new stuff about sex and then starts either trying to get a woman into some of the stuff he saw, or (if she disagrees) either finds a mistress or outright dumps her and finds a girl that's much more active in bed.

    That simple, really.

    Good looking girls and *especially* good looking girls that are good in bed and open to kink/experiments are extremely unlikely to bitch about porn.

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    • On point! Cannot disagree one bit!

Most Helpful Girls

  • If a guy is watching porn all the time in a relationship, then that means he's not as enthralled with his personal sexual life than in a fake sexual world. It's understandable that a girl would feel insecure about her significant other's frequent use of porn for pleasure- how would you feel if your long-term girlfriend had sex with you, and then later that day watch porn to relief the rest of her sexual tension? It's sends a signal to the individual that their partner is dissatisfied with the couple's sexual activities- even if that's not necessarily the case.

    Some people may say porn is the "real deal" or "realistic", but it's really not. Pornstars use all sorts of things to make themselves look more sexually appealing, like enhancments and plastic surgery- is that realistic? They are actors and actresses- they rehearse what they want to say and act a certain way in front of the camera (playful, sexy, etc.) and that's not how it is in real life! Porn isn't real because they stars are acting out the sexual fantasies of those watching. It can also give unrealistic expectations of sex in real life, because no ordinary person is a pornstar. It becomes a cycle- people get hooked on seeing their fantasies on porn videos, obtain wild expectations of sex in real life, and then when their expectations aren't fulfilled, they turn back to porn for relief. It's just how it is.

    So, now do you see why a girl would be insecure about porn? No "ordinary" girl, so to speak, could be comparable to a porn actress- real life and fake life aren't the same, clearly. Some are uncomfortable with the idea of being compared to these seemingly perfect sexual actresses because they aren't pornstars.

  • It doesn't make me feel insecure, I don't like watching porn because it makes me feel uncomfortable watching other people have sex. Guys rarely understand when a girl says that, they're all visually stimulated, where most girls are not. We get all turned on by your touch, your loving words, your undivided attention, which is kind of hard to compete with when he's watching miss fantasy porn gal do her thing. The fact that she's getting paid to act isn't lost on us, she might even be acting like she's having a great time too!!

    I'm really fortunate, my guy understands how I feel when it comes to porn, so he doesn't ask. I also try very hard to be his fantasy girl in and outside the bedroom, so far it's working pretty well!! I'm a very lucky girl that a guy would give up or not want porn for his best girl. We have a very honest relationship, I've asked before if he watched porn, he just told me he did a long time ago, but he doesn't now.

  • I don't watch 50 shades of grey and would be ok with my boyfriend watching porn maybe once a month or something, but not all the time (and he doesn't want me watching it at all-so we choose not to)
    A fantasy would be something made up in the mind, watching porn is watching two real people fuck on camera. I can see how someone people might not like their partner getting aroused or masturbate to professional sex workers. Don't watch Magic Mike and never read or saw 50 shades, but I don't think there's any sex actually happening in those movies. So, I don't see how you can compare the two.

    • mike is about strippets 50 shades is about bdsm

    • Yea, so, neither shows people actually having sex. I'm sure it got steamy at certain points, but it's not like porn...

    • its erotic

  • "Because it's just a fantasy". Well, I want to be his fantasy... simple as that. I don't care if he finds them attractive as long as he finds me attractive too, enough to beat his meat over me lol
    We're not like men who can "compartmentalize" things easily. We want to be ALL for you, your sex queen, your best friend, your love, your fantasy, your other half, etc...

    • Also, those women are hot. And if what he looks at, like maybe big boobs and yours are small, of course we're going to feel bad like maybe he's not satisfied enough with our small boobs.

    • u can't be that neither can he for u its idealistic to think that what if u are white and he has a sex with black women will u paint 😂

    • But the men I've dated WERE all that for me. Like when I masturbated, it was to him or thinking about the things we do. I didn't even watch porn much. I just let my imagination take me to him. I guess that's why it hurts us so much. Like I'm here thinking about you, can't get enough of you, and there you are looking at other women for sexual release? :/ Very depressing and I'm tired of love being so unbalanced

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  • People tend to compare themselves without being awre of it I tend to feeel this when I'm watching porn even oldies make me insecure

  • Imagine if we had VR porn so realistic that it tapped into the brain and stimulated the nervous system in ways that made it indistinguishable from real sex.

    I wonder what would happen then and how everyone would feel about it. All I can say is sign me up!

  • I like porn and I watch it. There's nothing better than watching with your partner and then try something new. I guess most of the women are "ashamed", which I don't understand. And both 50 shades of Gray and Magic Mike are extremely stupid movies.

    • The most complete answer i ever seen! I can't stand those movies too.

    • i talked about those movies bc they are almost porn praised by many women who shame porn

    • yeah I know than you meant and I agree, just a personal opinion of the movies

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  • because women on there have great bodies and know how to fuck xD so women get insecure because of looks and performance that they can't give. I personally dont mind my boyfriend watching porn

    • dont they know its fake and filled with many video editing 😂

    • First most of them don't have great bodies.. it's too much makeup and second.. and the ones who feel insecure are usually the ones who suck in bed

    • i remember a petition signed to ban porn shops funny thing most of the signature were by women 😂

  • I guess it's because some women think that what the guy wants and they don't feel like they're good enough, but I agree it's just fantasy and women don't need to feel insecure about it.

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    It is because it takes away whatever power women have as their role as gatekeepers of sex. It undermines them completely when sex is put on the plate to men and they still opt for porn. Many women can't accept that something unrealistic can't possibly compare to their vagina and when they come across a person who does, they just dismiss the guy as a loser when deep down they care (otherwise, why judge if it isn't hurting anyone?)

    • the truth hurts 😂

  • more pressure on us to deepthroat more inches

    • 😂😂😱😱

  • It doesn't.

  • I don't mind porn. I also don't watch 50 shades or any of that crap either.

  • How would you feel if you came across your woman watching her fantasy porn of being drileld in each hole by muscular dudes with monster cocks?

    • gym time 😂

    • I'm talking hulks with dongs massively larger than your own. What do you do.

    • toys 😂😂😂

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  • No, a lot of us don't care for any of that crap you mentioned.

    • Saying porn isn't about sex is like saying beer isn't about alcohol. Yes, it's a fantasy which is why it's threatening. We know that men are visually aroused and you're comparing us in your head to the porn images. You can't help it. Then you start giving us a hard time about how we look and act, and wanting us to be sexier and do things you've seen in the videos. If we don't, then you look for other ways - other girls - to satisfy your increasingly demanding desires.

  • Because women make the mistake of comparing themselves to the women in porn or thinking that the guy compares them and they take it personally. Women don't seem to understand that guys don't do that at all. Or like some have said, guys get these ideas from porn of things they want to do/try and they don't want to.

  • I think it is because in the porn industry women are the object, she is everything men want and always horny. She gives in to male desires at anytime, she can go into any position and has no limits and that is all women in porn. And men are just props, and see girls feel the need to keep up with what they see men like.

    Notice in the 80's and some of the 90's having a flat butt was okay. Now all the girls want a big one because some other girls made it cool, how many are in gym trying to get one? How many are taking short cuts to get one? A lot huh? Body building was big in the 80's and 90's and being freakishly big was cool but how many guys ran out to the gym to try to lift and even take short cuts? Exactly

  • Two things.
    1. you are comparing unrealistic, fake sex, to what you have with her.
    2. whatever time you spend jerking off to porn is stolen time from you two's intimacy. "Oh, sorry, I'm not interested in doing you right now cuz I just creamed my jeans."

    Guys will develop a warped sense of what real man-woman sex is really about - and try to make it all a show like their porn vids. It's just ridiculous. So we have young girls coming on GAG wanting to know why, how, and when to swallow. Pfft. Or where do yo want to cum on her body. Really?

    • Thank You!

  • It makes women feel like guys except them to look EXACTLY like the girls in porn and make them feel as if they aren't good enough that a guy has to watch porn after having sex or before

    • no guy expect that from his girlfriend 😂

    • It's how a girls brain works

    • bad for them

  • Women are natorious for being jealous of more attractive women. Porn is filled with literally almost all men's fantasies. It takes attention away from them.

  • those women who feels unsecure about it , they are jealous of girls featuring in porn have perfect bodies and feels down

  • Well if I offer my man sex on a plate and he still chooses porn, i would definitely be disappointed and pissed off, especially if its something that constantly happens. I don't mind if he watches porn because apparently most men do but I would rather he checks if I'm up for sex first. Also, since I know I can't sexually compete with porn stars, I don't see them as competition.

  • Women shouldn't feel insecure about porn... it's mostly just for fantasy viewing... if anything, guys should be insecure because of porn... on a possibly-related topic, who else has seen a number of penis-size questions on GaG this week?

  • Don't know considering most porn stars are ugly as sin

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